Diaries » being a parent. by: Kenny11973(m) .:. Sun, 30 Nov, 2014 - 05:44:36:am GMT
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Re: being a parent. by: Funmo(m) .:. Fri, 30 Jan, 2015 - 01:27:44:pm GMT
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Re: being a parent. by: Mizhbell(m) .:. Fri, 21 Dec, 2018 - 04:40:32:pm GMT
PARENTING: Is not just being a parent to a child, it is about being a Good parent that matters. You know, Being a parent and caring for a child can be a wonderful experience but at times, it can be daunting and overwhelming as you start nurturing a child. HERE ARE SOME FEW PRINCIPLES ONE SHOULD KNOW BEFORE BEING A PARENT. WHAT YOU DO MATTERS_ "This is one of the most important principles," Steinberg tells WebMD. What you do makes a difference. Your kids are watching you. Don't just react on the spur of the moment. Ask yourself, 'What do I want to accomplish, and is this likely to produce that result?'" ****YOU CANNOT BE TOO LOVING_ "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," he writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions." ****BE INVOLVED IN YOUR CHIDS LIFE_"Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as physically." Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework -- or reading it over or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg tells WebMD. "If you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is learning." **** ADAPT YOUR PARENTING TO FIT YOUR CHILD_ . Keep pace with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is affecting the child's behavior. "The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table." For example: An eighth grader is easily distracted, irritable. His grades in school are suffering. He's argumentative. Should parents push him more, or should they be understanding so his self-esteem doesn't suffer? "With a 13-year-old, the problem could be a number of things," Steinberg says. "He may be depressed. He could be getting too little sleep. Is he staying up too late? It could be he simply needs some help in structuring time to allow time for studying. He may have a learning problem. Pushing him to do better is not the answer. The problem needs to be diagnosed by a professional."Avoid harsh discipline. Parents should never hit a child, under any circumstances. "Children who are spanked, hit, or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children," he writes. "They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others." "There is a lot of evidence that spanking causes aggression in children, which can lead to relationship problems with other kids," Steinberg tells WebMD. "There are many other ways to discipline a child, including 'time out,' which work better and do not involve aggression." EXPLAIN YOUR RULES AND DICISIONS _: Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to," he writes. "Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn't have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have." An example: A 6-year-old is very active and very smart -- but blurts out answers in class, doesn't give other kids a chance, and talks too much in class. His teacher needs to address the child behavior problem. He needs to talk to the child about it, says Steinberg. "Parents might want to meet with the teacher and develop a joint strategy. That child needs to learn to give other children a chance to answer questions.". ***TREAT YOUR CHILD WITH RESPECT "The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully," Steinberg writes. "You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others." For example, if your child is a picky eater : "I personally don't think parents should make a big deal about eating," Steinberg tells WebMD. "Children develop food preferences. They often go through them in stages. You don't want turn mealtimes into unpleasant occasions. Just don't make the mistake of substituting unhealthy foods. If you don't keep junk food in the house, they won't eat it." Likewise, the checkout line tantrum can be avoided, says Natale. "Children respond very well to structure. You can't go shopping without preparing them for it. Tell them, 'We will be there 45 minutes. Mommy needs to buy this. Show them the list. If you don't prepare them, they will get bored, tired, upset by the crowds of people." "Parents forget to consider the child, to respect the child," "You work on your relationships with other adults, your friendships, your marriage, dating . But what about your relationship with your child? If you have a good relationship, and you're really in tune with your child, that's what really matters. Then none of this will be an issue."
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Re: being a parent. by: Youngbeauty(m) .:. Thu, 27 Jun, 2019 - 02:21:36:pm GMT
been a parents is not an easy job,you have a lots of work to do,in part of your husband/wife,children,a time will come in ones life,he/she will be thinking of becoming a father or mother,which means (parents)
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Re: being a parent. by: Obinnaoguji(m) .:. Sun, 07 Jul, 2019 - 10:25:43:am GMT
A step at a time. That is the key. I strongly believe if you doing the right thing at any stage of your human advancement, parenthood will not be an exception when the time comes.
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Re: being a parent. by: Dynameak(m) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 12:53:04:pm GMT
**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **
Re: being a parent. by: Dynameak(m) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 01:01:48:pm GMT
@mizhbell: Involvement in a childs life is very important because it makes you know what's going on in the life of the child in and away from your presence. Less involvement of some parents in the lives of their children has resulted in the manifestation of bad habits from their children due to bad influence from friends.
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Re: being a parent. by: Glamour(f) .:. Tue, 23 Jun, 2020 - 10:25:37:am GMT
I love kids a lot and I believe I would be a very good parent. And so I'm not bothered about being a good parent but I am bothered about other kids parents. okay I'm a student I see single parents in school mostly females and I get scared because they don't behave like parents like I watched a video I can't remember when and saw a small kid hitting his mum from the back with his penis and what came to my mind immediately was God this is a cause of bad parenting and probably an inexperienced mother, because in the video the background noise where female Friends that sounded young hailing the young boy. I know of a girl in my school who has a small boybut she's never home you see herleave the hostel and arriving the next morning of which we all know kids are fast learners especially when it comes to the wrong thing. She doesn't really care about what the little boy would be doing where she dropped him. We have alot of paedophiles also and at the end of the day the child starts misbehaving you would hear things like I don't know where you got this character well o. But I trained you well. So please to all my single parents out there let's try to have time for our kids it will really go a long way for us in the future and help them also. Most kids are sexually harassed go to their parents ignorance. If you are not ready to be a parent don't do what married people do and if you think you want to do it, do it responsibly so that you don't have to regret your decisions and start taking it out on the kid. Thank you for this post.
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Re: being a parent. by: Doyin(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 06:21:49:pm GMT
I believe pregnancy are planned for, like in the case of intending couples, but for other cases like unwanted pregnancy and unplanned pregnancy ( it's not like they don't want the pregnancy, but they didn't expect it at that time) the same facts applies to all, if you really want to be called a parent.
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Re: being a parent. by: Abbey(m) .:. Mon, 03 Aug, 2020 - 05:36:06:am GMT
Being a parent has a long way to go.
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Re: being a parent. by: Abbie@21(f) .:. Tue, 01 Sep, 2020 - 09:29:07:pm GMT
A parent is someone that handles every need their young one and takes care of them,
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Re: being a parent. by: Nagiano(m) .:. Wed, 02 Sep, 2020 - 11:49:58:am GMT
Parenting is not an easy task and sometimes until you become a parent yourself, you won't really understand what parenting entails.
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Re: being a parent. by: MichealThankGod(m) .:. Wed, 02 Sep, 2020 - 04:58:06:pm GMT
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Re: being a parent. by: Olatoke(m) .:. Sat, 31 Jul, 2021 - 08:56:00:am GMT
Being a parent is usually busy God ,God is the only one who gives children you can made a child by yourself impossible but by God.
Being a parent that means you already have a child the first place where a child learn is from home ,home is the first teacher in someone life ,an adage says that charity begins at home .
Being a parent is good and nice but depends on how you handle your family you as a parent did you live by example to your children.
Parent are to guide ,direct ,lead the affair of their children.
**Olatoke **
Re: being a parent. by: Olatoke(m) .:. Sat, 28 Aug, 2021 - 05:51:41:pm GMT
This is what we also called parenthood right been a parent deal with wisdom and understanding.
There are some parents who does not correct their when ever they did bad it happened like this for different reasons ,parent are the mentor of their children ,well how dis you handel your children did you like one more than the other that is not encouraging you have to treat them equally .
Let your children feel your personality as there father or mother,been a parent is a lesson because you serve as protection to them you correct them when they are on the bad side.
You have to train them both physically and psychologically .
**Olatoke **