Thanks for ur comment. This is actually an interview carried out by a reporter. I saw it online and it kinda arouse my interest
Well,it all depends on the woman's character if a man will move in with her in her own house. If the woman is the cool, humble, have respect for the husband, I think it will be easier for the husband to conclude and move in. In a case, where the wife is so arrogant,proud and lot more. How do you expect a man to move in with that kind of woman in her own apart. The man surely knows, the wife will use that against him one day and beside such thing happen's here in Africa especially Nigeria on a low rate, Nigeria men are proud to be a man. Even without nothing, but in the western world the case is the other way round. So moving in to wife house all depend on the wife's behavior before they pack in.
I quite agree wit ur reasons, @@kenny
Any ways I don't see any thing bad in living in a house built by my wife .,as for me i can live in a house built by my wife, with reason, if she built the house and I am aware of it then I can live in the house but if she build house with out my notice then there will be a big problem because I would not like in the house with her, I love it when a woman is hard working an hard working women will definitely build a house but she needs her husband to be aware of it, but as for me if my wife build a house without my notice I will not live with her in that house. But if she build it and inform me about it then we can park in and live together in peace love. It a good idea if a woman build a house there is nothing bad in it, buildings of house is not meant only for men but for both , if God say your wife will build a house then thank God for it.
I don't see anything wrong with it if both of them agree to it and they see themselves as one. Most men assumes that once they are staying in a house built by the wife, she will not summit to them anymore and they may not be able to act as the head of the family. In most cases, this is not true. Not true in the sense that the once a man takes care of his responsibilities at home, he will be respected as the head of the family.
It is not right for a man to live in his wife's house. The man should be the one marrying his wife into his own house and not otherwise. Responsible men will not do that, they will not want to try that because they know what it is to marry their own wife into their own apartment. Women should not also try to tell their husband to live in their house, better still you can rent your apartment out and go to his, or better still if he decides to buy your house or partner with you in the payment and ownership of the house, then that is also very much better than a lady marrying him into her own house. It makes the man feel incapable, and it makes him feel like you are the one leading him instead of it being otherwise. But the best thing is that you both decide on what is best for you and walk by it so that there won't be issue in your relationship on the long run.
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Personally I don't see anything wrong with a man living in the house his wife built. First of all it isn't as if it was announced to the public that the house you're living in was built by your wife, thas between you and wife. As for the woman,just because you built the house doesn't mean you should treat your husband like trash. The bible says the wife should submit to the husband. No wife should say hurl any insulting words to her husband just because she buildings house and no man should try to dominate her by stating he's the head of the house. A woman can build a house, it simply shows that women are stronger and powerful than people think
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If not for culture or tradition or how the society is in africa generally and Nigeria specifically, living in a house built by your wife shouldn't be an issue. However, the society looks down on it because they feel it is only proper for a lady to move into her husband's house.
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@Lanrhey: I don't see anything in this as long as the man was informed by the woman before she built it.
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We usually turn things upside down in Nigeria,if a woman build a house then people will say she has use her husband glory to build house,saying all different types of things.
There is nothing bad if my wife build a house infact it is a great joy if God bless her to build a house then I have to support her since we all going to live in that house.
I see it as an achievement in marriage living in your own personal apartment .
But here in African if the wife build a house people will poison the mind of the husband and said things that are not good concerning the wife and the house.
I don't think there's anything wrong in living in the house that was built by your wife.
I know most people might feel it's weird because it's been built by a woman but it's not.
@Flochords: It's not about being the husband or being the wife ina marriage relationship.
Its no longer about I, it's now about we because two shall come together to become one. So is your wife own is yours as well.
Couples are to help each other if women build a house it is a good thing to the family ,husband you have to appreciate your wife ladies are been treated wrongly in the society.
If a woman builds house there is nothing wrong but men will say they can't live in such house.
Sometime God can used the wife for the husband so there is no big deal if your wife builds a house.
There is no big deal in that , since God has bless your wife to build a house then continue to live happily don't have the mindset that because you are the man it is a must you be the one to build a house.
Your wife is your helper so support her in all ways dont fight her and don't make her feel so guilty of doing things in the relationship.
I know the inscription says "Men Speak" so forgive me for butting in, in this discussion because I'm a female. The topic is an interesting and deep one, and my family's comments on the topic are valid.
Some say women have an ego and will turn the table around against them one day. In adding my opinion, I will start by saying, I'm not a feminist and I don't think I will ever be one.
This is because I've come to realize that God has different roles for males and females. And no matter how society tries to paint the picture of women suffering so they must have equal rights, anyone reading their bible will disagree.
If I have a brother who wants to live in the house his woman build, I will tell him that he doesn't have shame. And if I were to be a man, for the sake of my ego, I will never live in a house a woman built.
Stuff like a man collecting money from his woman or a man living on his woman or a man living in a house a woman built always sounds disgusting to me. I'm sorry to say this, but even as a single lady, when I see a guy begging for money from a random lady, presumed to be richer than him, it's always so disgusting to me.
So yes, I will also object to a man living in a house a woman built. I mean I believe the man should stand tall and be the man always. Let's not complicate our lives, please.
It depends on the understanding between both of them...
Most things we drag for in life are things that don't count.
We should think more of the future especially if children are involved.
Eventually, that house will be for the children because those parents will pass on someday.
I know of people who are living that way and there's no problem with such arrangement and I know of others who are living like that but they are at loggerheads.
It all boils down to understanding and there's really nothing new under the sun.
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@Obajichi: well said it is a nice contributions I doesn't mean anything if she build a house then it means both of you have progress.
Women if you are building a house let your husband be aware before its too late.
I think I can but not permanently, it just doesn't feel right living in a house built by your wife.
I didn't see anything wrong in a man living in a house that his wife built. You see the world is revolving and things are changing so when you hear someone bringing up a matter don't be surprised. Many people will argue that they can't live in the house they built simply because of what they've heard or read online. Until we take away our marriages from social media we won't get the fullness.
I'm not saying there is not some good advice online but I'm holding saying that a lot is not good enough for a marriage that wants to succeed. I know the responsibility of a man is to provide for his family but let's imagine he can't build a house yet and his wife already has a house. Will you still ask them to rent another house? Never! Wisdom is profitable.
When you both love and understand each other, I don't see anything wrong in you covering up for each other. That's why the Bible calls the woman a helpmeet; that shows she is in your life to give you support. Crave for the wisdom of God and your home will be a wonderful home.
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