Babe-Fishing/Dating » WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Blackie(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 01:21:55:pm GMT

A series motivated me to ask this question. I'm not a big fan of Zee world movies but this particular movie sparked up my interest. The title is Age is just a number. It's about a 24 year old guy who falls in love with a 42 year old middle class woman. At first when I started watching the movie, I deemed it as an obsession because the guy acts childish and maybe because he was attracted to her beauty. I was like no one in his right sense would fall in love with a woman who is eighteen years older than him but as continued yo watch it, I realised the guy truly loved the lady, he's always available anytime she needed him. The lady knew about his feelings but she told him it was absurd because she's older and the society would question her morality regardless of the woman's rejection, he didn't stop fighting for her, fought his family and shun the society, even risked his own life fpr the woman.
I remember the day this question was asked in a group o am in. I saw alot of funny responses thay day. A girl said she'd rather marry someone she loved and another said she can date a guy younger than her as long as the age difference isn't much. As for me it's a yes I can date someone who is older and younger than me as long as the age gap isn't wide. I'll date someone who loves and cares of about me. Maturity does not lie in the age, age is just a number anyway. Maturity lies in the way the person thinks.
That's why I'm asking this question, can you date someone who is older or younger than you??


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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Abbey(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 01:36:32:pm GMT


Me i am going to marry a girl who is younger than me at least about seven or five years younger than me.
I am seven years older than my girl friend and I love her so much.
But Come to think of it getting married to an older woman there won't be respect the woman will not give total respect to the man.
I don't think it's good to marry an older woman no no no, guys look for a young pretty girl and marry build your relationships and fall in love

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Bookie(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 04:25:32:pm GMT

Personally, I prefer men that are older than me.age is not maturity and I know it is possible for a twenty years old guy to be mature than a forty something years old. I prefer mature older guys because I like someone I can be able to summit to.

I know Some women that are older than their husbands . They women still respect and remain submissive to their husbands irrespective of the difference in in their age. I prefer men that I can naturally accept as the head and not someone like a younger brother.

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Glamour(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 04:48:31:pm GMT

Older would be better for me, why is that? It will help me grow and places I feel I need to go. Unlike going with a younger person, for some who are inexperienced you would be the one teaching them.


Also there would always be an atom of inexperience no matter what you do. I feel it might be something I can't cope with e.g jealousy.

Some Older guy know how to take good care of a lady, they understand alot when it comes to relationship issues plus some of them know how to handle things emotional things to be precised. Not that when you do something he starts lamenting and over exercising the issue.

Lastly I feel there is this feeling of don't pass your boundaries she is older, don't over do it before he starts crying you know he is young. But if he is older especially as a girl or as my type of girl, give him the respect he needs and at the same time being on the same level.

But if there is someone younger than me that is experienced and matured mentally, why not.

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Administrator(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 06:06:28:pm GMT


@Bookie:

A 12 year old boy "more mature than a 40 year old man"?
Then, you must be referring to an a person with intellectual deficiency.
Well, such people do not marry.

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Blackie(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 06:18:37:pm GMT


@abbey: this is why you might be wrong. Remember that respect is not according to age. Not all older women are disrespectful . Just because she's older in age does not mean she lacks respect. I understand you wanting to marry younger woman, some people don't like be judged by the society and some friends might want to make fun of you for marrying an older woman.

Which brings me to this question, what if you never had a girlfriend and you fell in love with a girl but you didn't know she was older. You eventually find out she's older, what will you Do? Will you date her and ignore the society's comment and questioning about morality or would you ignore her and move on ?

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 06:48:11:pm GMT

I can date a lady older than me and I can also date a lady younger than me. It's only the age difference that matters. If the age gap is to much in the case of an older lady then I can't.


For the movie, it happens, especially a child that was exposed to sex by an older lady at a very young age. I have seen cases like that. Those kind of children tend to find older ladies more sexy and attractive to them than youger ladies.

Rather what they do is marry a young girl because of their parents and the society. But they'll be cheating on their young wife with an older lady outside.

But we all know it is not normal to go and bring your mother's mate home and tell your family that you want to marry her in the case of guys.

But come to think of it an example is Regina Daniel and her husband Nedwoko.

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Flochords(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 08:34:25:pm GMT

I would rather date someone that is older than me because it sought of give me confidence that the person is more matured and experienced than I am and the person can even behave maturedly when am behaving like a baby, and the person will be able to advice me in different situations of life that he likely might have passed through, but a younger person might not have enough experience to advise me in some situations and might not know how to handle some situations because he is younger than me and I probably have more experience than he does and I will even the be the one advising him more because it's possible I had passed through those situations before he did.
I would rather date someone older than I am so I can give him the respect of being the older one apart from the respect of being the husband. But one thing is that maturity must be included even as he is older than me so like that, there is a confidence that comes with marrying a older and matured man, and there is a sense of feeling that you are in safe hands. In rare case where I sense maturity in someone younger than I know he is God's will for me and he is a child of God indeed, then I will be ready to go into the relationship with that person so far the person is also ok with it and loves me so much, so that means that even if I am older than him he can win me by being more matured than I am, being a child of God and also being God's will for my life. So age is not a determinant of marital success but God's presence in it and good character also with maturity of both partners included.

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Sun, 02 Aug, 2020 - 08:39:04:am GMT

Well I would marry woman that comes my way irrespective of the age. Time is an illusion and age is just a measure of years which means nothing. The most important thing that matters alot me is the understanding we both have, the compatibility, the love we both share for each other and her level of maturity. The fact that a woman is old or young doesn't make her matured. Maturity is not measured by age buh it is an attitude built by experience.
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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: MissDairo(f) .:. Sun, 02 Aug, 2020 - 09:33:12:am GMT

It all bored down to genuine love.

Most people avoid that because they feel the woman would not respect them and would look down on them.
Others bother about what the society would say.
To me I believe the ultimate thing is to be sure that person is the right one who you.
Marry someone who respect and adores you.
Someone who you respect and adore too.
Someone who gives you peace of mind.
Age shouldn't be a factor in marriage.
As far as you're of marriageable age then whether your spouse is older than you shouldn't be the main factor.

**MissDairo**


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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Micheal(m) .:. Mon, 03 Aug, 2020 - 08:04:49:pm GMT

wow....this is is a stunning question as for me I can never date or marry a woman older than me cause there won't be a respect between us anymore it better for a woman to marry someone older than her cause they will be able to share ideas togetertogether on the other way round it also good for a man to marry a woman older than him but it depends on the woman IQ cause women of nowadays lack sense and sorry to say cause some women will be bragging about the moment she noticed she is older than his man ...so he will be using that against him Once they have disagreement to cut the long story short marrying someone older than you or less your age depends on your choice also depends with the partner you are dealing with so go for what is the best for you
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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Ipfy(f) .:. Mon, 03 Aug, 2020 - 08:16:03:pm GMT

As for me I will rather date someone who is older than me but the age difference should not be too much like five years difference. An if the person you love is younger than you, as for me I will follow my heart. Sometimes people don't listen to their heart that why their marriage collapse or the relationship end just like that sometimes age doesn't matter it is the love you have for your boyfriend or girlfriend that matters.
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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Flat(m) .:. Tue, 04 Aug, 2020 - 02:51:11:pm GMT

Hmmm! Any marriage is birthed out of love, patience, maturity, endurance, commitment and God's confirmation, which means that if this things are not seen during the relationship, the marriage might not be visible. But in line with this post, our focus is on the aspect of maturity. A lot of people do attribute maturity to be on age alone, so far you growing older on a yearly basis they assume you are matured. There is much to maturity than your increase in age maturity is when someone or something is fully developed grown up in terms of physical appearance, behaviour or thinking. This definition simply means that for you to be considered to be matured, three things must be evident in you, which are physical appearance, behaviour and thinking. Which means that if you have just one out of it, you are not yet matured, if you have just two out of it, you are partially matured, the whole three completes your full maturity.
Now, can I marry a lady that is older than I do. To me, I might not really feel comfortable with it naturally just because of the fact that she might be the one to take control rather than I do. Well not all ladies are not submissive which means that if I can perceive the submissiveness, humility and loyalty in her, then u should be able to go ahead to ask for her hand in marriage if she's willing to walk down the aisle with me. All this decision still bores down to the confirmation of God, which means that if God is giving me the go ahead, then happy to do it. What matters most is not who will own the authority or control the marriage, what matter most is where is the authority to go ahead with the marriage coming from. Just like the question asked, if you discover that she was older than you after some years of dating, will continue or call it off calling it off might not be the right option but think and take a rational step that suits you.


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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Tue, 04 Aug, 2020 - 03:29:09:pm GMT

Mr. POster I really do like your stance on this. But I should tell u dating is a big game, it has it own set of rules. but the reality is if a guy is taking a gal out what does he want? wink

I would say 90% of guys have ulterior motives believe me! lipsrsealed It may be stated or not but the underlying motive is there.And from what I've seen a lot of gals seem to know this....
I do really admire you...u seem a bit like a puritan, having fun for some does not end in chattin and laughing.

And of course anwering the original question will I date an older girl....sure and why not?, if she's fun to be with and does not remin me of my aunts, mom or grand mom(sorry I don't have an older sister) grin.But to be candid its hard for me...I may get to think sometimes'hey this could be my mama' and that kills the fun!

So I guess when I won't date an older girl is when she 's not fun to be with, she's stuck up, behaves like grand ma or looks like grand ma grin
**I am LoyhaL!**


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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Blessingakins(m) .:. Tue, 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:53:43:pm GMT

As for me oooooo......I prefer to marry someone who is my age mate or younger to me...c'est fini... The society we are in does not really encourage that though I don't mean we should let the society determine what we do ooo...Nevertheless if you love her and you know can stand by the person doing hard times ...The decision is yours....

But you know there are some who those have a choice because they are already due for marriage....

My conclusion is Don't marry who you can stand by now and future,who you are ready to understand now and in the future,because understanding is who keeps every marriage...
Note: Before you go into marriage make sure you both know your stand..I mean the man and the woman should know the truth about the age before going into it and as well their genotype....

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Lana(f) .:. Thu, 06 Aug, 2020 - 06:37:02:pm GMT

For me, I'll rather date an older guy. I know age is just a number but most older guys know what they want to do with their lives and they are less indecisive than younger guys. They have done all the childish things when they were younger so when they are older, they know what they want and their focused. But not all of them though. Some guys are old but still act like teenagers. The person I first dated was seven years older than me and he ruined younger guys for me. He knew how to give the best advice. Sometimes I act childish and he would scold me sometimes. He even knew how to give good career advice. He could be brutally honest at times but it was for the best. If i was with a guy my age,he would think and act like me. It would be like the blind leading the blind. However, some guys my age are actually wiser than their age but in most cases, older guys are it for me


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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Blackie(f) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 06:53:01:am GMT


@Flochords: That is a very insightful idea. It's really understandable you wanting to marry an older person who would be more matured and tolerating. Younger people tend to be angrier than the older ones. Older people tend to be calmer in some situations, they know how to go about it but some younger people don't really care, they just feel the need to release anger. Older ones will guide you and correct your mistakes but let's not forget that there are also younger ones like that even though they are rare to find.

God help us

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   Re: WOULD YOU RATHER DATE SOMEONE OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN YOU, WHY? by: Majorboy(m) .:. Wed, 12 Aug, 2020 - 10:37:11:pm GMT

Neither. For some weird reason I strongly prefer people who are exactly my age, or with only +- one year age gap.
Dating someone even three years younger or older has never worked out. Have tried both. There was always a sense of generational difference. The older one felt too old fashioned/outdated and the younger one was unrelateable.
I was 21 dating someone who was 26-27 and they seemed like an old man. Then I was 23-24 dating someone who was 20-21 and she seemed like a little girl.

I think this is because people's maturity levels and life experience are vastly different in their early, mid, and late twenties. This difference might lessen with time.
For now, if I were to date at all, I would prefer people who are exactly my age

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