We place ourselves in unnecessary competitions.
Let me ask you, what does success mean to you?
Have you ever sat down to ask yourself, what really does success mean?
To get married?
To buy cars?
To build house(s)?
To travel round the world?
To graduate from the university?
To have children?
To get a job?
To start up a business, et al?
If none of the above means success to you, then why do you box yourself into a shell when others attain them?
The social media has worsened the case. No one washes their dirty linen on the social media.
What people promote on the social media is their strength(s) and not their weakness(es😎
Don't kill yourself or place yourself in a perpetual unhappiness because friends around you are getting married.
Don't commit suicide because three of your childhood friends have become so rich
I have seen people who were desperate to be married, finally they married and found out that they weren't happy.
They were still sad.
Marriage didn't fill that vaccum.
I have also seen people desperate to make money by all means.
Yes, they later made it, but they weren't still happy.
They wanted more.
The worst thing you can do to yourself is place yourself in a competitive position with someone who doesn't even know you exist talk more of competing with you.
Who sets the yardstick for success?
Who said you must be married before 30?
Who said you must become a millionaire before 35?
Grace makes the difference.
It's not even hard work.
I have seen poor men who work harder than the billionaires, but did their hard work make them the richest? No.
It's not by education either.
I have seen PhD holders working for and earning peanuts from millionaire SSCE holders.
Nothing is worth killing yourself for.
Don't even kill yourself because a relationship you worked so hard to keep did not work. No, sister, maybe it wasn't made to be.
Do the best you can and leave the rest for God.
If it doesn't work, try again or try something else.
Keep hoping for the best.
Keep doing your best.
You are competing with no one.
Your friends made it before you.
Be happy for them.
One day, you'll be celebrated too.
No one sets the yardstick for success, so, don't make yourself look like an unsuccessful fellow.
Everyday, ensure, you do something that makes you become better.
The dice hasn't stopped rolling, remember?
Prepare, so that once opportunity comes knocking, you won't be caught unawares.
**Don't be a good student and a bad teacher.**
Thank you for coming up with this lovely topic and as it is in form of a question for young people and our generation to reflect and ponder deeply on this.
I feel so many young people these days have gotten what success in a wrong way. The understanding of many people about success has been mixed up the other way round.
So many young girls, ladies, guys have taken success to mean having money and lots of money in its fullest. Lots of ladies today do not want to associate or give time to the guys claiming to have a bright future when the pocket is presently dry.
Most ladies would rather see a guy with rich friends in big cars and having lots of money at their disposal as the right set of people to mingle with and to take as boy friends and all that.
If you want to advice any lady, they'll tell you to keep it because they want to be on the internet also to be seen that they belong to the rich and those controlling the street.
Many young ones do not want to develop themselves as they ought the do. Many are not ready to learn lesson from the yahoo guys that uses their girl friends and other for money ritual and the likes.
The so definition of success is to have a positive result or a positive outcome of a good desire.
**Help the needy and love everyone**
Today the pressure is becoming much in our society to amass much wealth as quick as possible. your article is rightly written. we must know that there is no short cut to success. what most of us see as shortcut is actually the result of over-the-years grinding of someone else.
The world only sees the result and not the days or years of rejections, disappointment, and other none encouraging outcomes. to stay on your life journey without loosing focus demands a great deal of focus and nothing short of this is expected of you to succeed. to maintain this focus, here are the list of things you can pay attention to;
1. comparison: comparing yourself with other people is one of the killers of focus and dreams. surely you will meet your mates who are achieving more with less or cutting corners to get to where they are, but instead of getting encouraged most times you get discouraged for being behind, so to say. You are not actually behind if you are doing your best according to the available resources to you.
2. self doubt: you must believe in yourself to do what your are capable of doing in other to even do what you are capable of doing. this is the fact. the truth is that nobody is coming to save you except you. yes i mean you. its a fight of individuals and you must fight alone. this should not be confused with the next point.
3. collaborate: most times the answers we seek are in the questions we have not asked or in our inability to ask the right people. look out for people who are already doing what you want to do or achieve. they have great resources that will be of great value to you. someone rightly said that we stand by standing on the shoulders of people who are standing.
4. weaponise your uniqueness: we are all unique in one form or another. most time, we just have not figured it out yet. leverage on your strength more than you try to improve your weaknesses. this will go a long way in fastening your journey
It is actually true when looking at the yardstick for success.
i remember my pastor said hard work and making it with sweat is not a good news. That sweat for getting is not suppose to be. Hard work and sweating to get needs is a curse on Adam and not suppose to be for us at this generation. We work by Grace and by grace with make things happen.
When we make efforts, its always enhanced by God.
It is good to plan and it is good to make effort but out efforts are suppose to actualising if we follow God's word and principles
What determines ones success is what forms his definition of success. You're right by saying that people kill themselves for no reason especially over ephemeral things.
Success to me, is fulfilling my destiny and that is by doing what I have been originally created to do.
It also means helping others within my reach and capability to be successful as well.
Chasing mundane and perishable things in life has made lots of people to become successful failures.
People acquiring unnecessary things thinking it'll make them fulfilled,only for them to be left with an emptiness or void that is so deep.
Sincerely ask yourself every now and then if you are successful or a successful failure.
**I love being me.**
This was indeed meaningful
Am personally greatful
That's the best thing to do,you keep moving..
You don't look at what others are doing
Believe in your dream,and work towards your dream..
To build your own is in your hand and to break down your house is in your court...
Think wise and choose wisely,no one is going to leave with you when you miss choose,and when you choose the right person....
Inner beauty is far better than outside freshing
But know that outside determine the who you are truly in inside and who truly they're...
Dream big and think wisely, not every hard work bring money...
Look for small works big money that's the key points to success....