In Nigeria parlance , it is called ' toasting a girl or lady '.
This feat is so easy for many men that they can almost even woo a lady while asleep and she may even fall for it easily without considering the motives .
Such advances by them are made effortlessly even if they don't have sincere intentions towards that lady, she would easily fall for it .
For some other men , wooing a lady is a herculean task.
This explains why some men were not able to have romantic talks with their wives even before they got married.
Some ladies were practically handed over to their husbands without romantic formalities.
I have heard and even seen some men who admit that they can't woo a lady.
People think such men are chicken hearted. This is not so.
What seems easy for one to do may not be so for another. That one can't perform like his mates doesn't make him less in that area .
Those who are good at wooing are just eloquent and good schemers, nothing more.
The only thing is that they do it because ladies are moved by what they hear and not more of what they see.
If people consider wooing a lady as an important part of building a relationship , and a romantic one at that then what then is so difficult about wooing a lady ?
Is it something that can be learnt ?
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There's nothing wrong in wooing a lady and I don't think there should be any problem in doing that. As a man, you should know how to woo a lady because I think that should come naturally to a man although some men are always shy to do it.
There are different ways of wooing a lady and the type depends on the type of lady you want to woo. You don't woo a spiritual lady as if you are wooing a lady you met in a club and vice versa. When I say that I didn't say you should not be romantic when wooing instead you should pay attention to context.
As a man when going to woo make sure you compose yourself and don't go there stammering. Learn not to beat around the bush instead learn to go straight to the point and show affection.
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@Oluwatomisin: Wooing a lady is nothing difficult and it should not be a difficult task for men since you have to build a friendship with the lady before going ahead to ask her out. The mistake many men make is asking a lady out instantly without having a friendship with her.
You need to know that ladies won't regard strangers or accept strangers into their life because they believe such a person is not the right person. Many ladies like it when they have the understanding of the men before them making advances toward them.
So if you don't want the wooing to be difficult and you don't want them to tell you no it is advisable to build a friendship first then from there you can build it to the next level. Also, learn to give the lady time, never should you rush her or allow her to accept out of Pity.
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What is difficult about wooing a lady lol. From the comments, I have reviewed so far, they are all commented by ladies not guys who actually do the wooing.
Wooing isn't easy as you ladies think it is, especially for guys who have been rejected a lot.
Wooing requires a lot of confidence and the guy who is actually wooing must be good with words. And also before a wooing a lady, the guy must be alright both financially and mentally to handle women problems.
Confidence matters a lot more than anything listed above. You can't work up to a lady stammering and shaking even if you are wealthy. It does depict the right kind of picture.
Most guys have to be taught or advice on what and what to do or say when they are about wooing. You can't just work up to a lady and ask her to date you immediately or confess your love for her at just your first time.
So you can see that is not that easy just wooing any girl, you have to know what you are doing. It is just like going for a job interview.
Wooing a lady isn't an issue, the issue is "Is the guy outspoken?". All the guys have seen so far that chicken out when it comes to wooing a lady are naturally not outspoken.
You know tonight I was just thinking about guys in general. I was like so far all the Daniels and Davids will happily score 0 when it comes to wooing a lady. I have met a few and they seem to have the same problem.
I met one David and till tomorrow, no matter how I try to paint the picture differently. In my heart of hearts, I know that the valentine's message the guy sent to me was from his heart.
However, he denied it when I confronted him. His excuse was that "That's how he does send valentine's love messages to all his female friends.".
Nevertheless, the David I have known for two years can never stoop so low to do that to his female friends! The message was too personal for it to be something a guy will send to their female friends just because it's Love's day.
So you see, wooing a lady is easy, if you just meet her, get to know her, be friends with her, and later on, reveal your mission. If you're shy, it's not wooing that's the issue. You only need to work on your confidence to be more outspoken, that's all.