If you truly do not have the intentions of sharing that meal and and he devours it yet you're so hungry , you may turn out to regret inviting him in the first place.
This culture of telling an unannounced guest to " come and eat" is an age long tradition in Nigeria especially.
Many funny Nigerians will tell you that if they're eating and someone walks in at that moment and even keeps starring longingly at the food, they won't offer him/ her the food even if their throats fall off.
In the western world, this invitation may come from a sincere mind but that is because most Westerners always plan for guests.
You can hardly pop up at someone's door step without prior notice or an invitation.
So this kind of thing is likely not to happen in places like that .
The question about this culture which is still very much in existence :Is this invitation for formality sake or does it come with sincerity?
**I love being me.**
What they really mean to say is....
"Abeg oh! No eat, e my go reach me"
**No sinner is Christian**
When Nigeria says come and eat they don't mean it but they see it as a culture that's why many of us practice it. When eating and people are around you but you refused to call them to come and eat it will be as if you are stingy but when you call them there's this feeling we all think we've created in those people who act as good people.
I can bet that many of us who tell others to come and eat do not mean it and aheber such a person makes a move you will become bitter and angry at the person but it shouldn't be so; it is better not to call the person at all instead of doing something you will start regretting over.
Life is sweet when we learn to do things appropriately and also you shouldn't be bittered towards giving out to others instead learn to give them what your capacity can give out.
**Life is good**
Interesting, we are nigeria and some time we just speak out because of situation that come around.
Some people will say come and eat of which the food self can not be enough in the first place.
There's nothing wrong with gouging your rich parents' money. It is none of your concern to be saying your parents are rich, you can't give them money. God knows you have a rich parent yet he supplies you with wealth; giving is a thing of the heart and not necessarily because you have a surplus.
Our parents are like our gods on earth so we are to take good care of them regardless of how wealthy they might be. When we talk about taking care of our parents it doesn't mean money only; your words, encouragement, and appearance can be a form of happiness for your parents.
At times we need to be sensitive to our parents' needs: don't say because they are rich so they can't have a need. Instead, learn to observe them closely and you will see their needs; kindly provide for their needs if your capacity can carry them.
**Life is good**
What Nigerians mean when they call you to come and eat is that you should not bother at all, instead, they are just trying to make you feel that they are not stingy. I don't think it's right for you to call people to come and eat when you don't mean it; never should you do what is not coming from your heart.
When you are calling someone to come and eat make sure it is something you can give. There's nothing that should be hard to give to others as much as it is in your capacities; I know things are hard in the country and it seems giving is not possible but as an individual, we all should learn to do things without looking back.
When you are a giver you will never lack; so keep making sure you share out of the little you have and don't put pressure on or borrow because you want to help others.
**Always put God first **
Sometime people do call you to join them during a meal, it doesn't really mean they want you to actually join them, sometimes it a form of showing they care. In hostel here if you do that, you will regret it, when up to 5 people join u eat one small meal u will develop sense. Lol
Well, with more knowledge and experience, things change. The World is changing and it is very wrong for one to still remain backwards.
It is not right for you to visit anybody without pri👎notice except for exceptional occasion, you are not even suppose to go to an occasion you are not invited.
Offcaurse you will be prepared for if you give pri👎notice before visiting.
Now, it is simply curtsey to say 'come and eat' it doesn't mean you should really go and eat, what you are expected to do is 'say thank you' but if you are really hungry, you can ask if there's more am sure you will be given. You have to be careful so you don't appear like a glutton. use your discretion.
If the person really means it or not you will know. you don't have to appear stupid.
**It is well**
I prefer the western way, to be honest in the sense that they always prepare for visitors. Also, a lot of times, the visitor will let the people they're visiting know beforehand that they are coming.
Coming to Nigeria, the part of cooking more than enough to prepare for unannounced guests can be tedious. Especially for people who don't have a fridge to keep the food if no visitor comes. Also, many people in Nigeria are barely having enough to feed their selves talk more like a guest.
Nevertheless, it's will be polite of people to make their visit known to their host beforehand. If they visit unannounced, then they should not put their mind to eating because you can never tell the situation of your host when you come unannounced.
I have a few encounters where the food I'm having is not even enough and someone comes unannounced and I have to just give the person. It wasn't from my heart, so to prevent stuff like that, it's good if the person visiting, makes their visit known beforehand.