Family/Parenting » Trust or DNA by: Flat(m) .:. Mon, 04 Jan, 2021 - 07:16:59:pm GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Chamak(f) .:. Mon, 04 Jan, 2021 - 09:23:36:pm GMT
Seriously speaking, it is heart breaking that some women out there are now making it difficult for men to trust nowadays because I tend to wonder sometimes how a woman will be sleeping with another man that is not her husband outside marriage as if that is not enough, she will still have the guts to now get pregnant and deceive her husband that the baby is his own.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Gbasky(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 07:23:52:am GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Gbasky(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 08:00:42:am GMT
@Chamak:You can't imagine how much I am boiling inside of me, honestly when I watch these things happen in the movie I don't completely believe it could happen for real, even if it could I didn't expect that it would be this rampant. The things they tell us about stuff like this won't even make us believe that it could happen, what I grow up to learn from my parents and the elderly ones around me is that it is a taboo for a woman to bring a bastard child to the house, I was told that it will bring calamity into the family. The fear of that alone will not make you want to try it as a woman, they even use to tell us that a man can not climb over another man's pregnancy, the man will be wretched completely, when you think about this as a man you will be careful even if you are a womanizer. I mean all these might not be ultimately true but they are basically wrong and morally unacceptable. Now hearing and seeing these things happening now makes me feel that any woman can do this.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Francis(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 08:14:41:am GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Flat(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 09:17:20:am GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Nagiano(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 10:52:11:am GMT
Thi issue of DNA no be small thing oo. The truth of the matter is that we fail to do some certain things while we are in a relationship with our spouse all in the name of trust and this has cost many Nigerians paternity fraud in their marriages and relationships these days.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Fashnet(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 10:58:40:am GMT
@Francis: Francis thanks for your view and comment on the hot topic. I will like to refer to it as "AS HE DEH HOT". This is a real issue as we have it today and this is fast trending almost all around the whole countries of the world all together.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Chamak(f) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 11:06:24:am GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Chamak(f) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 11:18:12:am GMT
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Gbasky(m) .:. Tue, 05 Jan, 2021 - 04:52:00:pm GMT
@Chamak:Its really rare to find a lady that can come out to say something similar to what you have said or show the same side to this issue. Even if majority didn't plan on doing something like that going into marriage, they might just do it if there is case for it, what am even saying, most of those women who did that didn't plan for it, it just happened.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Abbey(m) .:. Mon, 08 Feb, 2021 - 08:56:17:pm GMT
There is nothing called trust anymore did you just say trust, trust has make so many homes for our collapsed it is not a crime for the husband to love and trust his wife but with the look of things I don't think there is something called trust anymore.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Tue, 09 Feb, 2021 - 09:42:40:am GMT
I strongly feel there's nothing wrong in going for a DNA test with your kids.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Tue, 09 Feb, 2021 - 11:05:24:am GMT
@Vickybrown: Wow that's so tragic.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Cletus(m) .:. Tue, 09 Feb, 2021 - 03:45:21:pm GMT
Most women are always found in that act, having another choice outside, which have spoilt many marriage,a man going out to struggle and hustle for another mans property, the dna test is most common among the white, there was a story I heard about a dna test, two couple married having three kids,living under the same roof, the man was a kind of person that walk and struggle, unfortunately he made it, his plan was to fly his family outside the country, he decided on his own that before their flight, they will do a dna test, they did it and found out that out of three kids two was his own, which brought issues to family, when they got home the husband and wife had their privacy, the man keep on questioning the woman how manage this kid is not my child, on that spot the man was so annoyed that he took a object and fling it on the woman at that incident the woman died, a minute later the same man regretted of his act and decided to drink sniper, which also lead to his death too, leaving the three kids at a tender age
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Obajichi(f) .:. Tue, 09 Feb, 2021 - 08:44:41:pm GMT
It's disheartening to hear this happening these days. It's becoming devilishly stylish and disgusting too. The bad side is that it is making a lot of men lose their trust for women and be more suspicious of their wives.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Abbey(m) .:. Sun, 18 Jul, 2021 - 10:21:38:pm GMT
Gone in the olden days we can say trust exist but nowadays trust is not advisable because if you as a husband said you trust your wife without DNA test it is a big risk.
There are lot of children out there which the mother only know the actual father for each one , every men should try to let all there children under go DNA so that to confirm either those children are yours or not.
This issue has already destroy many homes,and the major problem is from the mother side .
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Iyanu(f) .:. Mon, 30 Aug, 2021 - 05:45:58:am GMT
DNA has reveal many hidden secrets in so many homes ,DNA is very important which every one should cobsider necessary .
You as a man will think all the children are yours ,don't think like that untill you do DNA test before you will be assured .
Women are the one who knows exactly the owner of a child you as a man what give you the assurance that those children in your house they are all your biological children it is the woman in the house that can provide answers to that.
This case is most common in Nigeria so many children are basterd .
This is a secret that most women keep in mind for so long period of time .
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Damilola(f) .:. Fri, 15 Oct, 2021 - 09:09:45:pm GMT
TRUST is very crucial in a relationship. Why will you marry someone you cannot trust. You should trust your wife that even if you hear rumors that she is having an affair with another man, you shouldn't believe it.
Don't get me wrong, am not siding the women, am only saying what needs to be done.
If you are in a marriage, and you discovered that your child isn't yours after taking care of the wife for years.,if it is isn't all the children, then you have the right to do justice to that., But if all the children are not yours, there you have to ask yourself, " why didn't she give birth to my child". Of course you are having sex her and yet you are not responsible. If you go see a doctor and find out that you cannot produce a child..of course, that may be the reason why she decided to cheat on you, but that is absolutely bad. She has to tell you no matter what, if she truly loves you.
And if you because of that decided not to trust any other woman and always demand for DNA test, you know the good ones will not be happy with it..they will feel unsafe and untrusted..I mean what kind of marriage is it that we cannot trust one another.
The problem is the foundation..it wasn't well laid.
I rather choose trust to DNA.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Damilola(f) .:. Fri, 15 Oct, 2021 - 09:12:52:pm GMT
TRUST is very crucial in a relationship. Why will you marry someone you cannot trust. You should trust your wife that even if you hear rumors that she is having an affair with another man, you shouldn't believe it.
Don't get me wrong, am not siding the women, am only saying what needs to be done.
If you are in a marriage, and you discovered that your child isn't yours after taking care of the wife for years.,if it is isn't all the children, then you have the right to do justice to that., But if all the children are not yours, there you have to ask yourself, " why didn't she give birth to my child". Of course you are having sex her and yet you are not responsible. If you go see a doctor and find out that you cannot produce a child..of course, that may be the reason why she decided to cheat on you, but that is absolutely bad. She has to tell you no matter what, if she truly loves you.
And if you because of that decided not to trust any other woman and always demand for DNA test, you know the good ones will not be happy with it..they will feel unsafe and untrusted..I mean what kind of marriage is it that we cannot trust one another.
The problem is the foundation..it wasn't well laid.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Wed, 14 Dec, 2022 - 10:51:16:pm GMT
I don't see any right thing in asking for the DNA of your child if truly you marry a good woman. Marriage is not child's play the way youth nowadays take it to be, why won't you people start asking for their child's DNA when the whole world has turned upside down? People no longer commit to a relationship, guys have as many girlfriends as possible, and ladies date for money.
All these sets of people are the one causing problems although many think when they marry they will change forgetting that what you do often turns out to be a habit and a habit becomes an addiction. To stop such an attitude is to choose to be different from all other people: many of us want a quality man but we've refused to be a quality person.
Build your relationship on the right foundation, don't do what will cause you shame in the nearest future. There's no perfect being, build one another to become better version.
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Rachael(f) .:. Thu, 29 Dec, 2022 - 10:59:17:am GMT
Trust is very important in any form of relationship not to talk of marriage relationship which is the highest form of relationship on earth. I don't see a reason why you should request a DNA test if truly you have been living your life on trust for each other.
Many people become heartbroken when it is time to leave the country as a family and the airport asks for a DNA test to confirm the genuinity of the children if they belong to the father. You see many marriages scattered on that day due to the tragedy that follows.
Our generation should stop such instances but it is heartbreaking the rate at which people in relationships cheat not to talk of when they get married. They've all forgotten that you can't just put on a new behavior in marriage instead you cultivate the attitude while single.
We all should learn to be committed regardless of the form of the relationship, especially in romantic relationships. Enjoy your love life with your babes/spouses!
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Re: Trust or DNA by: Obajichi(f) .:. Thu, 29 Dec, 2022 - 11:46:42:am GMT
In my opinion, if the man is in serious doubt, it's better they go for a DNA on time to avoid stories that touch the heart later.
It is often said that, it's only a woman who can tell the paternity of a child.
This no longer is the case because many women can't be trusted.
Men too can't be trusted either, but if it gets to point of doubt, let a DNA be carried out.
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