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Romance » RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Mon, 29 Apr, 2019 - 05:05:20:pm GMT
The first important step to resolving marital issues is identifying that something is wrong.

If you are speaking to me then one can safely assume that has already happened. However, it is very key to identify the true root.

Different cases exist from loss of romance, to domestic violence, financial issues, trust, in-law discords but the approach is the same. Get to the root before you attempt to resolve.

Now, identifying this root is not very straightforward and very easy to miss or mixup. This is the reason many cases of family or friend mediations don't work. In addition to this, it is difficult to remain neutral if you have closer ties to one side and it can cloud the ability to identify the true root.

Take for example the case of a man who suddenly begins to keep late nights around the same time of getting a promotion/increased pay. It can be very easy to attribute it to new colleagues/friends, increased money, stress on the job etc. While any of these can be the true root, it is not automatic. Think of how mistaken and consequential it would be to start going the direction of friends whereas the issue is with family related depression.


**Fearless**

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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Piwizo(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 02:54:36:pm GMT

At that point where the fights keep coming and you both cannot even understand what you are fighting about. Where every little thing is a reason to argue and you cannot wait to be away from each other. Where everything and everyone else makes you smile until you remember them and your heart skips a beat and it feels like a heavy load is on your chest.

You would need to remind yourself what you got into the union for and why you are still there. Sometimes, you'd feel you've had enough and you want to leave. Don't worry, many have been there but like most would tell you, this feeling too, like those before it, will pass.

You'd need to talk at some point, which may be challenging because you are the only one seeing the need for it but if the marriage and home you have built is really worth all you've been through, you'd fund strength from deep within and just before you break, it would seem like your efforts have met with your prayers and the universe will smile on your marriage once again.

It's going to challenge you but if you stay strong, smiling days would come.
wipe your tears and smile. It will get better.

**positive**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Oma_maron(f) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 03:15:41:pm GMT

There are better ways to express displeasure than slamming doors, storming out, eyeing and having a verbal go at your partner.

Use conversation control tools instead, to keep you from going from being the offended to being the offender.

Stay silent till such a time when your words will be better. 
Try to express yourself in clear words. If that doesn't work, pause, gather your thoughts and restart the conversation from another angle till you get it.
Watch your words but where you make a slip, instantly apologise for that then continue with the rest of your point.

A well timed statement or silence is louder than your loudest screams and hits home harder than the biggest door slams.

You don't want to look back and see yourself being misunderstood because you chose a wrong method to express yourself.

**Graced **


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Velisa(f) .:. Thu, 02 May, 2019 - 01:09:03:pm GMT

Many times you keep praying and praying, waiting on God to come and intervene in your broken relationship, or heal your broken marriage, when in truth, you are the god your marriage needs. 

Maybe, just maybe, you are the peace you have been waiting to see in your relationship.

Maybe, just maybe, you are the 'forgiver' of the burden you have been waiting on God to lift.

  What if you are the stubbornness, and the pride you've been asking God to take away from your marriage? 

What if you are the stiller of your storms, what if you are the pastor you have been seeking in different assemblies?

Sometimes when we stand in the place of prayer counting on God to move, God moves, He really does, He moves from the place of your petitions, to the place of your answers, then He waits there, counting on you to move with Him. 

Most times, what we call 'waiting on God' , is actually God waiting on us.

God does not dwell in the place of your petitions and requests, He dwells in the place of your answers. He is not the one to move to where you are, you are to move to where He is.

Maybe today, start moving. Maybe you are the answer your prayer needs today. Maybe you are the peace to your anger. Maybe you are the mercy to your unforgiveness. Maybe you are the solution your marriage needs to overcome that divorce today. Your problems do not have to chase you out of your marriage, what if you are a problem chaser.

**Determined**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Fellybabe(m) .:. Tue, 18 Jun, 2019 - 01:21:53:pm GMT

A woman said, her husband no more cares and love her like before. He stopped having sex with her, at time she had sex once in a week and he won't show interest in the sex. 


But when I asked her, what could be wrong? What did she think might have caused her to change? 

She has no good answer to give than to say, I don't even know.

This is where the issue comes from. Many couples are having issues in their relationship but they don't know where the problem is coming from. 

Why don't you ask your spouse the reason for the sudden change. Why don't you plead them to forgive you if you ever wronged them. 

Many couples don't commit  their time  to their marriages. Some are always too busy. Busy at work, comes home tired, eat and sleep. You don't even know how your spouse is doing. It's really very bad.

You should know what is happening around you, so if ant issue of quarrel comes up, you will know how to resolve it. Or maybe your spouse attitude towards you changes, you will know how to deal with that.

**God's light**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Lana(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 01:51:54:am GMT

Resolving marital issues is very important in every marriage. In most divorce cases, you’ll see that the reasons they give is irreconcilable difference. The catalyst for the divorce may have been little issues that could have been resolved but they let it grow into something so big, thereby causing divorce. I heard of a couple who got divorced because of toothcare. The husband used to press the tube of toothpaste from the bottom and the wife presses it from the middle. That was the cause of the divorce. This happened the week they got married. Marital issues should be resolves as quickly as possible. Couples must make a conscious effort to nip every issue in the bud. Communication is very important in solving those issues too. The couples must be able to communicate effectively to one another in case of a disagreement. There shouldn’t be a screaming match or slamming of doors t prove a point. Instead, if your partner feels offended, the or she should be able to tell their spouse who should be ready to listen and make adjustments. Do not downplay or disregard how your partner feels or how your actions affect them. Also never allow a third party in your marriage. Marriage is between two peoples and when there is a conflict, they should be able to resolve it between themselves without involving the external party. However, a marriage counsellor can also be visited in extreme cases. The couples need to also be mature about how they handle conflicts. Marriage is not for children and it is impossible for the couples not to quarrel. Be ready to apologize. Let go of your ego and say I’m sorry, even if you are right or wrong. This shows that you are willing to do all it takes to make the marriage work. 
**Love yourself...**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Lana(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 01:52:30:am GMT

My parents may disagree from tome to time but they never let it go to the extreme. Marital issues would also affect the children. We used to have this family in our compound. Whenever there was a fight, they would be screaming at each other and you could hear the children crying, begging their parents to stop. At the end, they ended up getting divorced because the fights were too much. Forgiveness is also very important. You must be ready to forgive your spouse at all time. Be quick to ask forgiveness and also be quick to grant it. Do not hold grudges against your spouse. It is very dangerous. Don’t get too familiar with your partner and expect that they would tolerate anything you do. It also not okay to behave badly and not apologize. Get rid of too much familiarity with your partner.

Try and understand each other better. Be a very understanding and considerate spouse. Do not avoid conflict. Confront each issue as soon as the arise. The confrontation should be gentle, sublet and loving. It should not be accusatory. Also take responsibility for your actions, during conflict, it is not a time to be trading blames with your partner. Counselling is also very important. Most couples shy away from counselling because they feel it spells doom for the marriage or they are worried about what people would say when they find out that they are going for counselling. Seeing an expert in marriage counselling helps you the couples to put their views aside ad e seeks professional help. Some conflicts can be resolved on their own. It may need external help for experts. Marriage counselling doesn’t automatically fix the crack in the marriage of fix issues, but if the couples are willing to work together, it would do a lot of good. Do not let little issues spoil something good.


**Love yourself...**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Abbey(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 09:19:26:am GMT


Resolving  marital  issue . 

Marriage is  the  union  of  man and  woman  to become  husband  and  wife , before going  into marriage  both  of you  need to have  full  knowledge  of  your  self, both  of  you  need to  know  about  yourself very well.
Although  issue  will arise  in the  relationship  but you  have  to settle  all matters  which  arise in your  family , couple  need  to share  love  among  them self  love  should  exit between couple but what  happens  if love  fade away  in a relationship between husband and wife. 
Issue  will Come due to one thing  and  the other but if it happens you  need  to  resolve it and get back  to  each other , there is no how  husband and wife will live together without fighting, fight will come  but you  have to settle it between your self, husband don't divorce your wife  and wife don't divorce your  husband  if you  have  any  issues  apologize to your husband  show  him some  love  and husband  care for your  family , do allows  devi to ruin  your  home, pray to  God  and  live  in  peace  


**Abiodun**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Nagiano(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 10:23:37:am GMT

Resolving marital issue is something that requires you first identifying the issue before you now think of resolving it. Issues that tend to last for a longer time in many marriages these days, do so as a result of the breakdown in communication between the two spouse. 

Many at times they must have sensed it that something is actually wrong and something are not as they used to be but how to initiate a conversation with your partner is now the problem. 
This is the reason you need to know your wife's love language and her temperament before getting married to her and same goes for the woman too. For example, if my wife's love language is words and she is the type that doesn't talk too much, I have forgotten the temperament attributed to that, but I stand to be corrected. Once I sense an issue, the first thing I'll do is create time to communicate it with her. But I'll first have to praise her and tell her things that will make her smile before I'll later digress to the issue. That way she will be willing to express her mind and let me know what's wrong with her. 
There many issues in marriages and these issues can be resolved if you can identify the right approach to use.

**Man United for Life**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Ninoevans(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 11:54:29:am GMT

Resolving marital issues may not be as complex as we think, if the people involved are educated and matured enough to know that marraige is about loving and forgiving each other. You cannot claim to love a person that you cannot forgive because love in itself is a commitment to love unconditionally.

However, as humans, we are bound to be in conflict with one another and must explore conflict resolution mechanism around us.

The first thing we need to do, is to have a dialogue with our partner and ensure we communicate effectively towards reaching a mutual agreement.

We can also explore the option of making compromises. We don't have to take everything personal, sometimes all we need to do is to ignore and let peace reign.

Also, we can have family friends intervene and help us sort out our differences.

Seeking the services of counselors, mediators and the intervention of important persons in our lives that are not related to us can also proof to be effective.

**Creativity lies in the imagination of man**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Doyin(m) .:. Thu, 30 Jul, 2020 - 05:10:44:pm GMT

I was under a ministration a certain time and the man of God was teaching dispute in marriage, very similar to this topic, he said " I have been a marriage counselor for years and I can only tell you that unforgivenees is the reason why most marriages don't work and then end up in divorce" I didn't see much meaning to it until I began to think deeply, and then I added change of attitude by the default, and I was much pleased with that


It takes two to tangle, it therefore takes two people who were upset with one another to genuinely forgive them selves, and be willing to put on the right attitude necessary for their marriage to work.


For example in every marital dispute or disagreement the reason are always faults, he is always doing this she is always doing that, it is just like having a wife who deliberately downgrades her husband in front of family and friends or a husband who beats his wife. These things affects both gender seriously. But if we can put on the right attitude regardless of the past and forgive the matters and issues of the past, holding on to God the author of marriage himself, I believe that we can resolve every marital issues


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Tue, 04 Aug, 2020 - 06:30:40:am GMT

My prayers to troubled marriages

May God heal such marriages
May God capture d devil nd its device cos d devil attacks homes nd marriages cos parents will b too busy bothering bou heart aches most time neglecting kids nd raising so many different truamatised kids
May the lord grant strength to so many marriages
May the lord God almighty put honey nd salt in d marriages of many people
God is greater than everything
God will b the pillar of every marriages
God grant peace nd restore unbreakable bonds nd unconditional love into many marriages
God will bless every single soul d devil has captured in marriges
Does who weep in marriages the lord will wipe their tears
Nothing can make any thing destroy a marriage ordained by God
In jesus name i have prayed

AMEN
**I am LoyhaL!**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Tue, 04 Aug, 2020 - 06:31:48:am GMT

Meanwhile,  While we are waiting for responses from the 'elders' based on your question, I would say dealing with anger first starts with you. You must first resolve you dont want to be that way anymore. Then there are ways to manage it depending on what works on your spouse. Be mindful that either the devil or your spouse may want to test that resolve so you need to be committed to it. I used to be short tempered before but thankfully with the encouragement of my spouse i found ways to manage it.
First, whenever my husband made me so angry, i would quietly go and vent by writing down how i felt. I noticed when i did that the feeling disappeared...no words were spoken, no confrontation. Then i was able to address that issue with a better approach. So you need to find what works for u so u dont do/say what u'll regret.
**I am LoyhaL!**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Flat(m) .:. Wed, 05 Aug, 2020 - 02:24:46:pm GMT

Hmmm! Marriage is sweet, marriage is good, marriage is loaded with many pleasant experience but in the midst of all this enjoyment, issues that will need settlement will come in, challenges won’t leave us alone, crisis will definitely show up but how well will can face and manage a time  like this is what matters a lot. What makes your marriage to continue to be is based on the fact that any form of misunderstanding or unnecessary arguments are being rule out, in the sense that you do not give room for arguments or misunderstanding to be prolonged unnecessarily. You see, marital issues will be escalated in as much as you love to put the blame on someone. Nobody wants to accept the blame of being faulty, the wife is not ready to accept the blame neither is the husband ready to admit that he is the one at fault and attitude like this will allow the fire of marital issues to keep burning. So, rather than wasting your and save your marriage, don’t put the blame on anyone just admit it to yourself and move on with your life, settle the matter amicably and talk to each other like matured adults.
Another way of resolving marital issues is that you never keep record of wrongs. You see, most couple atimes do themselves a lot of havoc by writing it down in their diaries or keeping it in their memories the wrongs they have done to each other; this is not to good enough, forgive, forget and let it be washed away from your brain. This will help you stabilise the growth of your marriage.
Also, be selective in the people you talk to about your marriage. Most couple just talk to anybody they see, sharing their marital issues with whoever they meet at any point in time. This is not too good enough, check very well whom you want to share your matters with.


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Flat(m) .:. Thu, 06 Aug, 2020 - 08:39:35:pm GMT


@Oma_maron:


Hmmm! Again, another way of resolving marital issues is to always at all times learn to control your temperament. Sincerely speaking, have come across a lot of couples either in movies or in real life, you begin to hear the husband saying he does not have time for nonsense, if she talk to me anyhow, I will give her the beating if her life, likewise, you will hear the wife saying she can’t even take a breath when she’s being offended by her husband. All this childish attitudes will only lead the marriage to destruction. Be calm and gentle enough when you see that an argument or disagreement that can lead to something else is coming up, just gently walk out, find somewhere cool to sit and relax yourself then make sure you go back home and get it resolved.
Another thing is that you never always act like the commando. This is mostly for the husband, a lot of men are so domineering in the sense that they love at all time to make sure that every of their words is being followed with immediate effect. Oga boss, calm down, she also have brain, she’s full of wisdom, she can also think, why not ask for her opinion about that thing you want to do, she might give you a better idea than the one you have. Involving her in whatever you do will make you earn more of her but if otherwise, it might results to issues on daily basis. Let her feel that she’s part of you.
Lastly, be prayerful. Seriously, if you will not do any other thing, make sure you do this. At all time ensure you pray for your family, this will save you from both planned and unplanned marital issues. Don’t be to busy not to pray, commit your marriage to God’s hands and relax to enjoy the benefits of doing it.


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Bolexy46(m) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 12:46:22:pm GMT

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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Tokadex(m) .:. Mon, 10 Aug, 2020 - 09:33:49:pm GMT

     In marriage, misunderstanding or confict is inevitable. Conflicts/misunderstanding is not actually the problem but the manner of resolving such is a matter. Understand this, the way you present a case of conflict must be highly put into consideration. This is the area most couples get it wrong.

    To resolve marital issues, especially if the man is the one at fault, the wife must find the time that the man will give his full attention. In other words, don't just start pouring out your mind because you feel it's right; be sensitive enough to know when you will get your spouse's utmost attention.
     In addition, when resolving an issue in your marriage, avoid pointing accusing finger at your spouse. Don't act as though you are a saint and your spouse is otherwise. Don't blame your spouse; don't be defensive and be willing to say, ' I am sorry.' Not only that, prepare your mind to accept " I am sorry " whenever your spouse says it.

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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Tokadex(m) .:. Mon, 10 Aug, 2020 - 09:34:11:pm GMT

     In marriage, misunderstanding or confict is inevitable. Conflicts/misunderstanding is not actually the problem but the manner of resolving such is a matter. Understand this, the way you present a case of conflict must be highly put into consideration. This is the area most couples get it wrong.

    To resolve marital issues, especially if the man is the one at fault, the wife must find the time that the man will give his full attention. In other words, don't just start pouring out your mind because you feel it's right; be sensitive enough to know when you will get your spouse's utmost attention.
     In addition, when resolving an issue in your marriage, avoid pointing accusing finger at your spouse. Don't act as though you are a saint and your spouse is otherwise. Don't blame your spouse; don't be defensive and be willing to say, ' I am sorry.' Not only that, prepare your mind to accept " I am sorry " whenever your spouse says it.

**Be good to all**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: ObakaEmmanuel(m) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 06:35:06:am GMT

  Many good marriages slip into crisis because we don’t or won’t believe how much work it takes to keep relationships healthy and thriving. It’s just like when you stop investing in the house you are living in. It will easily fall into disrepair. Think back to when you first started to pursue your wife. It required commitment, hard work, and imagination. If winning her required that back then, why does it surprise us when neglect creates marriage problems after we walk down the aisle? She wouldn’t have married you if you took her for granted. Why risk everything now?There are many good strategies if you want to restore your marriage.


1. Surround yourselves with people in healthy relationships.Some of those negative patterns may have involved friends. Surround yourself with people who value marriage and where there’s widespread support for making yours work.

2. Choose to love.“Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. ”Love may have come easy when it was brand new. Love is as much a choice as it is an emotion. Choice is an act of maturity and it has a much better track record than emotion left to make its way on its own.

3. Act as if your spouse’s happiness is more important than your own.Putting our spouse first nurtures trust, gratitude, generosity, and affection. It can also lead to physical intimacy.

4. Put the relationship ahead of everything, including your children.It’s unfortunate, but time has a way of eating away at our priorities. “You’re the most important thing in my life” gives way to “my work… the family business…the children… my aging parents… even golf, football or drinking…” Marriages don’t work well when our partner plays second fiddle to anything – even the children. It’s a fact – the happiest kids are those with parents who love one-another best.

5. Start over from scratch.Ask her out. Make sure you remember why you did the first time and build from there. When did you last talk for hours, hold hands at a movie, or give her a kiss when she wasn’t expecting it? Get silly about one-another. If you don’t feel like it, do it anyway- then you’ll remember why.

6. Stop taking one-another for granted.Say “thank you” for that cup of coffee. Celebrate obscure anniversaries. Tell her how much it means to you that she cooks a great meal – or vice versa. Notice the haircut. Ask her out. Clean her car. Pay attention to the little things and act like someone who values the relationship
**Obakaemmanuel**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Victoria(f) .:. Sun, 20 Sep, 2020 - 11:14:31:pm GMT

Resolving marital issues. It's a normal thing for couples to fight. Actually, it would be a very bad thing if as a couple, you don't have issues. Even as mere friends, friendship without issues isn't exactly the best. Believe it or not, fights and arguments strengthen relationships. It's not even all about the make up sex or make out sessions. It's all about sitting down to talk about the things that brought about those issues. The manner of approach you take to solve your marital issues goes a long way to determine how long you are going to last and how well your marriage will work out. If you choose to go all out and resort to blows and insults, all you're going to end up with is a black eye and a guilty conscience. 
Obviously, no matter the issues that may have ensued between you and your spouse, the best way to solve it is through peace means. Peace means involves just the use of words and not insultive words. Those ones just make things unnecessarily complicated. If you can't solve your marital issues ten you cannot be entrusted to solve the problems of your company and definitely not world problems. 
Even the Bible say you shouldn't let the sun go down on your anger. Do not go to bed while you're still angry with your partner. I have a friend who always says that if as a person, you can sleep comfortably even when you aren't on good terms with your partner then you don't really love him or her.
Talk things out and do not by no means involve a third party. Do not bring your friends or your family members into issues pertaining to you and your spouse. Of course there are situations that call for it but save that for those desperate times and not for petty issues.
All you have to do is talk things out with each other and you'll be fine.

**Live, love and heal...**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Mattins_iv(m) .:. Wed, 23 Sep, 2020 - 05:51:20:pm GMT

Marrital issues mostly end in domestic violence
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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Abbie@21(f) .:. Wed, 23 Sep, 2020 - 07:44:05:pm GMT

 Resolving marital issues is not something new, couples fight everytime , they misunderstand each other and when these things occur most of them talk to their families about it and it leads to even bigger problems most of the time and unreaolbed issues between them both.

  When a couple have problem that involve just the two of them , they should try to sort out the root of what caused the problem, how is this done  firstly you call the attention of the one stronger than you are, in some marriages that I know of the woman is the stronger one, she always feels she is not at fault and so , she shouldn't apologize and sometimes it is the man that is the strongest , they should just try as much as possible to resolve their problems between themselves and if they have children, they should not let the child know what is happening between them both, children can be sensitive and so they can be affected by what is going on at hope and we all know a child's business is in his or her school, so no matter how smart or intelligent that child may be , these things can act as a barrier to getting good grades for that child , if your partner is not complying talk to God about your partner, there are things that occur beyond the physical, the devil may be trying to disrupt the good plan God have for your marriage, try as much as possible not to let your familwmbers get involved because if they do it may provoke your partner the more or your friends, they may give you bad advice , none of this people were with you and your partner when you started your love life and they sure shouldn't be the ones to end it for you,be wise.

**Christ's**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Flat(m) .:. Sun, 06 Dec, 2020 - 08:43:02:pm GMT

Another thing I will want us to put in mind in resolving marital issues is that be careful of who you report the situation of your home to. Have mentioned this before but I want to really explained this better. You see, the day you got married is the day your enemy is raise to the power of one, which means that in as much as you see people that claim to be happy with your current state, their are some people that are really working for your failure in that marriage. So, it is left to you to be watchful because that friend that is your adviser might end up being the wife in that house after she had successfully sent you our with her wrong advices to you. This is not limited to the ladies at all because their are some guys that are loose in their mouth, they are very good in broadcasting, they begin to tell all of their issue to friends most especially when they are in their drinking joint. So, be careful of who you share your issues with.
Another thing we must learn to do is to settle issues amidst ourselves without the interference of third party. This might look somehow but I tell it is the best thing to do. You can create a principle for eachother that nobody go to bed with anger, all form of misunderstanding must be settled before going to sleep, no matter how big it might look because if you both go to sleep like that it then means you are opening door for the unwanted man to come in.
The bottom line is never allow your love for your partner to go down because of any form of misunderstanding, this is not good at all, always continue to love your partner deeper and deeper than any other thing. Give no room for irrational thought, be quick to forget any offences and round everything up in your room.


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: AdaJesus(f) .:. Fri, 18 Dec, 2020 - 11:17:36:am GMT


@Oma_maron:

Resolving marital conflicts : I want to say that communication is key and it very paramount.

I've witnessed couples misunderstand each other over a very long period of time,  based what each other assume their motives to be. 

yet,  when you tell them to sit to talk,  they snap out of it.  For crying out loud, communication is the first way to resolving marital conflict , because itcouldd be that the bine of contention never even really happened, it coukd be a result of assumptions that played out on the mind of both partners.
Also,  maturity is very paramount mainly on the man's side, ehatever you say to awomann during a conflict, does not depart frOM her, it could harm the healing Process of your relationshipand also vice versa. 
We should all try to understand that we love each other and no one will just intentionally want to hurt ot harm anybody, hence, space should be given to each other to express themselves.

**AdaJesus**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Holashayo(f) .:. Sat, 19 Dec, 2020 - 03:02:48:pm GMT

Truly, it is so hard to identify the root of an issue in marriages.,it is not easy.
Couples tend to blame each other for misfortune, shortcomings or love lost.
The situation when a man will spend so much time outside (clubbing or gisting with friends), and fails to give proper attention to his wife at home, may not be an issue in the sight of the man but it is a very serious issue to the wife.
So the wife, Haven being denied of her right, went ahead to commit adultery, just to satisfy her sexual desires and keep herself happy. Accidentally, his husband get to know, and there comes a serious havoc. So the root of the issue was hard to trace because no one is ready to admit to mistake.
The root of a marital issue might also be from the devil, or sins. It's hard for couples sometimes to admit that their problem is spiritual, and that is a serious 
Problem.

**Damiswag**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Abbey(m) .:. Thu, 11 Aug, 2022 - 07:16:05:am GMT

Issue will happen in a marriage no matter how careful you are it will occurre and when it happen it must be rectify with love and each one should forgive and forget what has happen in the past.

The word sorry has a long way to go in a marriage because saying sorry sometimes can change things for good , if it was the wife that did wrong apologize to your husband and if it was the husbands that did wrong apologize to your wife ,never give room for sadness in your home.

Don't take divorce as an option in your marriage if you eventually get divorce think about your children who will look after them.

**Abbey **


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Iyanu(f) .:. Tue, 27 Sep, 2022 - 05:46:05:am GMT

There is no how two people will be together and you won't see each other mistakes that is not possible conflict will come .

What is that which cause to problems , what is that which brings issue always, what is that which brings no as understanding .
If you can point out those things which cause issues then you have the ideal of bringing things back to position .

Not until your family members come to settle things for you befor you resolve your issue husband and wife will have issued you should settle it peacefully without another person interfere in it.
**Oladipupo **


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: Obajichi(f) .:. Sun, 02 Oct, 2022 - 07:30:04:pm GMT

One of the ways to resolve family issues is by getting rid of spouse envy.
Some men are always jealous of their wives career achievements.

This makes her feel the man is not interested in her progress.
Things like this cause marital issues.

If she comes home late from work, he becomes suspicious of her.
If she buys new things for herself and the children or the family, he begins to feel inferior.

Resolving marital issues is by understanding and that requires maturity..
**I love being me.**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: PrinceBenjamin(m) .:. Tue, 04 Oct, 2022 - 09:48:12:am GMT

For actually the best way to avoid marital issues is at the first dating of the two individuals because love is not blind, your the one that refused to notice the other person's character at the beginning of your relationship. One thing we need to do is at the beginning of any relationship the two parties must recognise each other characters very well, eg what he or she likes, hates were he or she loves to go, the kind of friends he or she associates with because there's a saying that states; show me your friends and I will tell you who you are. I hope this is helpful.
**Prince Benjamin**


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Re: RESOLVING MARITAL ISSUES by: SamuelKingsley93(m) .:. Tue, 04 Oct, 2022 - 10:39:24:pm GMT

Marital issues are easy to resolve especially if it is from that family. Before you marry your wife or husband, you must have known her likes and dislike, his likes and dislikes. How she will be reacting if you do something that will offend her and likewise the husband. And if its stress from work, the affected partner can easily notice it.
**Samuel Kingsley**


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