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Family/Parenting » Parenting should be done by a plan by: Adedoyin2727(m) .:. Sun, 20 Sep, 2020 - 10:41:02:pm GMT
Parenting is not an easy task as everyone well knows, different children should be trained in different ways.
Many parent make the mistake of not knowing their children before the prepare a tactic for parenting but the tactic you use for child A should be different from the one you use for child B because child A might be a kid with anger issues so for you to train him you need to understand him thoroughly and knkw what he's up to before he even makes any move but child B might be a very calm child so you don't need much trouble cause he will confide in you in almost everything he or she does so parents need to understand all children might look the same, have the same size, same heigh, same weight, but all children are with different personality and character


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Holashayo(f) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 08:48:19:am GMT

You are right about that, not all child at the same. We are created with different destinies, so our character, the way of life, temperament traits must be differs. That is why I said; children should not be compared with each other.
There are different styles of parenting. It is according to how the child behaves, who he really is and what he want.
Some children are very prone to anger, they destroy everything that comes their way. While some are not.
Some needs attention, advice, while some needs to be strict to before they yield. Give the child his own parenting.

**Damiswag**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Temmylove(f) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 12:39:30:pm GMT



Yes, to be a parent you have to plan and when you fail to plan you're planning to fail. Anyone or everyone that's wants or desire to be a parent must have a very strong plan. You need a very good plan on how to deal, manage or expand your source of income. Parenting deals with money , not just money but it requires a very good source of income to back it up.

You also need to plan on how to train your children. This is very vital because the way you train your children will the way they will take care of you when you grow old. Children at some point of their lives needs extra ordinary care , even at all stages but there's a particular stage and that is when they a just being giving birth to. You have to have plan on how to care for them. L
say you will give birth to twins and one will always cry and one will always be calm, then you have to have plan on getting  extra toys for that one that will love to cry, to think of things that can make a child not to cry.

Upcoming parents need to plan on how they will discipline their children not that will be scolding and one will be rubbing the head of the child in the presence of the parent scolding. Children are very sensitive that know when you are taking sides with them. Even if the disciplinary act is too much and you want that to change then you have get ready in your plan that such remark won't be given in the presence of your partner. 

Parents to be should also plan on the school they want their children to attend when they arrive.
Planning is very essential in anything one wants to do, you need to plan and strategies ways on hiw ti achieve it . To be a parent is not a child's play and it's needs adequate planning. Children as well are our the products of the parent so try to make sure you have a good plan for your product to come so as to make their own life time more stress free than yours. Shalom! 

**God's will be done**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Obajichi(f) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 01:44:11:pm GMT

     Even if there is a plan for parenting, it may not always  be the case that one size fits all.

There are no rules without exception because family members have their unique attitudes.

    It's possible for all members to react differently to a situation. What works for A may not work for C.
Having a plan is good just as learning from older parents can be very helpful.

**I love being me.**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Adegboyelove(m) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 02:11:27:pm GMT

Parenting is a very huge tasks, but most people do not view it as that because they tend to think that every child can be raised in the same manner and they tend to compare one child with another which is not supposed to be because every child has it own supposed interest in a particular thing.

For me before you even start to give birth you should make plans so that when you finally give birth to a child the child does not have to suffer or go through pain because you want to raise him or her, if you do make plans it will be better for you because you tend to know whether to even give birth at that time or to reserve it for a better time.
Since we are not perfect if you find it hard to make a decision on whether giving birth or not we can ask those who are older than us because they have more experience than us and I know they will be able to help us in one way or the other.
Another thing is if eventually you make the mistake of giving birth at a wrong time, instead of blaming the child for what the child has not caused,we should  just try our best to cope with the situation because as an adage says every dark cloud has a silver lining.

**Loveth**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: WisdomUche(m) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 02:37:36:pm GMT

Although Parenting is not an easy task,members of the household excluding the child's parents can also play a pivotal role in the upbringing of the child.Examples of these ones are the Child's older siblings and neighbors. 
**Wisdom Uche **


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: DamilolaOluwadahun(m) .:. Mon, 21 Sep, 2020 - 02:51:50:pm GMT

You are very correct. Parents often make the mistake of comparing their children with each other. They expect that if child A is doing something right, child B should follow suit. 


I think parenting takes a lot of time of effort because a wise parent will sit down and study each child in order to be familiar with their strengths, weaknesses, personalities, likes, dislikes, etc. This is what will determine the approach to use in training each child. 

Every child is born with their own uniqueness, it is the responsibility of parents to help them harness their strengths and deal with their weaknesses.  

**All things work together for good to them that love God**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Sardyne(f) .:. Tue, 22 Sep, 2020 - 04:20:07:pm GMT

Parenting is not a day's job. It takes a lot to be a successful parent you know. Being able to understand your children with their uniqueness is quite a lot. That's why I don't want to become a parent to more than 2 or 3 children, if God wills. I want to be able to give proper accountability of how I raised them. 


I guess this was one of the things most of our parents couldn't offer us. Most of them didn't understand that children are different and so they handled all of us the same way. But light and understanding has come. We should be able to recognize the gifts our children have even at a very tender age. It's our responsibility as parents to know how to build and encourage their God given talents because most children start displaying what they have passion for at a very tender age. 

**-The beloved of God**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Abbey(m) .:. Tue, 22 Sep, 2020 - 04:49:27:pm GMT


Parenting should be done by a plan. 
Parenting is not easy anyways but parents have a lot of work to do on their children, Children are of different character what A like B may dislike it so it is the duty of the parents to determine the difference between each children they have, parents will  say all there children should go to school yes it is a good Idea anyway but not  all children  won't to go to school some children  are natural been endowed such as artist, music, some children are talented in creative drawing on board such child should be supported to go for art or performing art, the other child may  love football as a Career let him go for  it don't discouraged any children. Parents have to encourage their children to have success in anything they engaged in, but in this aspect I think the mother has a lot to do because children spent most of the time with the mother when the father is not around so mother take note of your children get close to them and try to know what they have in mind talk with them and encourage them in have a successful career and a brighter future. God bless our parents 

**Abbey **


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Abbey(m) .:. Sat, 03 Oct, 2020 - 01:14:08:pm GMT


If you  don't plan  for your parenting you and your children will encounter some difficulty anyways it is advisable to have a good plan ahead of your parenting life this matter goes to the husband and wife. Firstly both the husband and wife have to sit and discuss on how  many children are they willing to bear note people usually say it's God that  gives children but it was been done by you, so that is why it is advisable to go for family planning. 

Now a father who does not have  a good source of income and he is having about  seven to eight children how will he cope with them in term of feeding, clothing and others one have to plan ahead of everything although it is God that  help human being but let try and help ourselves also. 
Parenting  is a very big  work it sometime make someone tired but as a parent  you don't have to your responsibility is to take care of your children no matter what, your responsibility start from birth of a child. It only God that can bless all our parents but they  will also get their reward from the child if he or she  was well trained.  

**Abbey **


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Mon, 19 Oct, 2020 - 09:10:56:am GMT

Parenting is not so easy it calls for a lot of work and actions. Parenting should be done by a plan because what you don't plan for can easily fail. And the planning starts the day you say Yes I Do to the person. I mean the day he proposed to you and you accepted the proposal. 


Understanding really matters between both of you. Your courtship period is for you discuss important issues and one of the important issue is Parenting. Both of you are coming from different family background. You both have different home training so before you guys will be able to train up good children you need to understand each other very well. 

When both of you have understand each other, though you might not understand all but at least you will understand the crucial part. Then you start talking on parenting and also the number of children you want to give birth to. Both of you needs properly planning and reading of books on parenting can helps your plan. Books open your eyes to new things and also save you from making the same mistakes that the author made. 

Furthermore, both of you needs to know that children will always be different because God didn't created us the same way. So in preparation to that, you need to start having plan on how to train children with different temperament. 

Finally, always be in a relationship with a person of the same like minds because someone with an opposite minds won't yield the same result with someone with same like minds. The training of your children totally depends on both the Father and the Mother and always remember children are the heritage of God. They are given unto you by God that's why you are called the Caretakers. Train them properly and they will give you rest of mind. 

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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Flochords(f) .:. Mon, 19 Oct, 2020 - 02:42:25:pm GMT

      Since children differs, parenting styles should differ too from one child to the other. Just like we have different temperaments, so different children will also have different temperaments and should be parented differently in order for us to have a successful parenting excersise on the children. The way a calm child will behave is different from how a non-calm child will behave, and that is where understanding will come in, understanding each child and dealing with them according to knowledge and then yöu will be able to flow with them according to their type of person and not comparing them with one another because you know they are different from the very beginning and they tend to be happy towards one another despite their individual differences. 
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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Flat(m) .:. Fri, 30 Oct, 2020 - 01:26:57:pm GMT

Hmmm! This is one of the inevitable position in life. Well, it is evitable at some point, that’s why we see the Father’s in the Catholic church. But the point here is that being parent is not an easy task to solve over the night. Sincerely, am not against the fact that we need to make plan ahead but what gives us the assurance that we will meet what we planned for, what gives us the assurance that the situations will not the tougher or lighter than we budgeted for. Those plans are not actually exact but it just make sure that the situation does not meet us unaware in the sense that we have had a prior knowledge about it before. Their are different parenting styles one can use to train up a child; some parents are authoritarian and authoritative, parents that falls in this category will be so demanding and will never be ready to hear the children out even if it is only one of the children that is needed to take this style. Some parents are authoritarian and uninvolved, parents with characters like this will be stern and punitive, they will be harsh to the extent that the children will be scared to look at their face but they don’t get involve with the children. Some parents are permissive and uninvolved, parents like this don’t enforce limit, they allow the children to do according to their will and this is not good enough. Some parents are authoritative and permissive, parents like this command and also hear the children out. 
So, we need to get ourselves educated about parenting before we become a parent, so as to have the adequate knowledge to sustain that stage. But, the best of the source is God, it is very important that we are closer to our God because everything is not about the knowledge, some might be spiritual forces. May God help us.


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Wed, 30 Mar, 2022 - 09:40:08:pm GMT

Life is all about planning and a life without a plan, is a life that can crumble anytime. As humans, everything in our life needs a well-articulated plan to run with.

Every step in our life has been guided by plans. We are where we are today as a result of the plans we made some years back. Planning doesn't require much effort, all it requires is understanding.

Dating, courting, and marriage will only work well if there's a proper plan ahead. Parenting is not a day job - parenting is an act that needs proper planning which entails a full understanding of what it means to be a parent.

Children are the heritage of God but they will only remain so when will train them in the ways of the Lord. Many parents have failed today because they lack what it takes to be a parent - wisdom, knowledge, and understanding are the things required for parenting.

Parenting plans are what should have been done before marriage - that makes you know what you are getting into. Don't be deceived, what you don't plan for will cause some problems you are not ready for. To avoid such problems all you need to do is to have plans and work towards them so as to achieve a goal.

**Always put God first **


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Olatoke(m) .:. Tue, 07 Jun, 2022 - 06:15:59:am GMT

That via in the olden days when couple usually have many children these days if you try such and you don't have money you will blam yourself , parenting must go along with plan you plan your self how many children should I give birth to if you notice that your capacity is only two please just give birth to that two and stop .


As things is going don't give birth to children whom you will not be able to Cather for at the end don't do more than your level and every one has his or her own level .

Give birth to children you you can take good care of , who you can control with the little you have .
This should be husband and wife plans because both of you have to decide on what to do may god help us .
**Olatoke **


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Wonders(f) .:. Wed, 08 Jun, 2022 - 06:16:25:pm GMT

I will like to point out something as regards this topic but it a little bit out the the content of the topic.

Another plan potential parent needs to make before proceeding to getting pregnant is Finances! Last week I was chatting with someone and he asked if I will give birth for him of which I reply that it depends on his finances.

My friend went ahead to say that no doubt ladies are always after money, but guys am I wrong to have said that?
I gave him an example of a child who fetches water everyday while his neighbor who's his age chill at home every day because they have borne hole and running water in the house, I asked which is better.

This guy said fetching water isn't suffering and that being poor is mindset and money isn't so important, can you imagine?

Guys, judge this, even as old as we are, which one are we going to prefer? Having to go through the stress of fetching water everyday or having running in the house and which will you prefer for your child?


**Wonders**


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Re: Parenting should be done by a plan by: Obajichi(f) .:. Sun, 28 Aug, 2022 - 07:03:59:pm GMT

I consider it a sin to give birth to children you cannot cater for.

Finance is a major part of parenting.
My children should live a far better and more glorious life than I did.

Upbringing is another plan: I must be prepared to train my children well, so I don't waste my time acquiring all the wealth and material possessions for them . I must be a positive role model for my children since me and my husband will be their first teachers.

Balanced Spiritual Life; I know the spiritual values my mum inculcated into me. How these values are still helping me today.
I want to pass down even more of such for my children.

Having a family is good but it is more beautiful when it's planned.
God does not like it when we don't have our plans even if we believe His are the best.

**I love being me.**


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