Babe-Fishing/Dating » My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Mizhbell(f) .:. Tue, 08 Jan, 2019 - 08:06:58:pm GMT
My boyfriend and I are very much attached to each other. We can vex for naija and always sort things out easily, sometimes we would remind each other our wrong dids, look for what to blame each other. Well, the sweetest part is that we always knows how to apologize to ourselves. But one thing my guy lack is having a little trust for me, that's one thing i value most in a relationship. Why I said he is lacking the ability to trust me is this, My job is an house keeping job, I resumes 7:30am and close by 60pm everyday. And my employer is a man, my work is to clean the house and cook if necessary. Sometimes my guy will call me when am busy in the kitchen cooking while my phone will be at the sitting room charging, but anytime I check the phone and see his missed call I do return the call, while returning the call, he would ask why my voice is low and when I tries to explain myself he would conclude that am having affair with my boss that's why i always miss his call and speak with a low tune. I don't know why it's hard for my boo to understand my nature of work. I have tried making him understand but it seems my efforts isn't enough. He just feel am cheating on him with my boss and it's not true. But this job is bringing a serious problem to my relationship and I don't want to loose both. Am so confused right now, pls I need an advice for this.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Piwizo(m) .:. Wed, 09 Jan, 2019 - 07:46:37:am GMT
First of all, I will not let my babe to engage herself with a chore that requires her to work for a man and possibly cook for him, does the man she's working for not have a job, so the man will be at home alone with my babe from morning till evening on a daily basis, see it's not a matter of trust, Everyman has ego, and that your voice is constantly low means there must be something happening because I see no reason you can't pick your boos call when you're working, it's not as if he wants to talk with you for the whole duration of your work, also if he is suspecting you it's because you gave him reason to suspect you, especially with your low voice, let's tell ourselves the truth there must be something going on between you and your boss to even think of not wanting to loose the two, if am the man in the relationship then you will definitely loose me if you can't quit the job, after all I am the head of the home!!! So you will choose if you're married to me or you're married to your job!!!
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Wed, 09 Jan, 2019 - 08:02:11:am GMT
I don't know if your boss is always home. But what i have to say is, if you boo is seeing reasons to prove that you are into affairs with your boss. Then you have to make him trust you. You have to convince him with your actions if you are actually truthful to yourself that you have no affairs with your boss. And if your boyfriend has being requesting you quit the job but you have refused so hardly with good reasons, it will make him more worst about the issue. Your boyfriend loves you and only trying not to loose you. So, if you truly love him and still want to keep that job. Then be plain to him. Keep the phone with you when working. So, you can always pick his calls when he calls. Brighten your tone of voice, let it be it is when something is wrong at work you give that low tone so, he could understands that something is wrong with his babe. You can send love text message to him at work some times. Call him whenever you are less busy and let hm know you will soon start working in the next few minutes. Make him trust you with your actions.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Mizhbell(f) .:. Wed, 09 Jan, 2019 - 07:58:12:pm GMT
@piwizo: . We aren't married yet and we does not stay together as well. About me not been able to pick the call at the time he calls doesn't mean I don't return his calls back, I always do call back to let him know i was not with the phone, I do explain myself to him usually, and my low tone shouldn't be enough reason for his doubts, he knows too well that I have a small voice which is just sound like a bed room voice .....Lol. But i know he is just been insecure of me working for a guy. Well, the reason why i don't want to loose my job either, is because i aren't having another job at hand, and before one need to quit a present job, that person must have had one before quitting. Besides i don't want to sit at home being idle. Being idle is never a good idea and i can't risk it. But its so true that my boss doesn't stay at home most time, he's always out. Well, i gat your point every man has that atom of jealousy in them ......thanks for that piece of advice.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Mizhbell(f) .:. Wed, 09 Jan, 2019 - 09:05:21:pm GMT
@Gooddypye: Wow, @goodypye I love that phrase of yours of calling him when am less busy and letting him know my next work schedule in next few minutes, that's so cool and Brightening my tone of voice sure, will do just that.Thank you, you have Rilly given me utterances. But one thing we must know is this, as all fingers are not equal, all faces are not the same, all characters are not the same. That's how all men are not the same. Mr. A tries nasty with his house keeper doesn't mean Mr.B will also do dsame. So i think my boo is just acting suspicious because he has heard things like that do happens so his scared it might also happen with me. But my boss is not such a kind of person, people are different. Am not trying to support my boss, is just a true fact.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Divinkeme1(m) .:. Mon, 18 Feb, 2019 - 01:49:14:pm GMT
This things do happen but the mist important thing to do is always to give equal attention to both the job and your boyfriend. In as much as the job is important to bring steady income to the house I will say if you ask me your boy friend too us important if not more because if its a real working relationship you guys will soon get married to start a future. So as you go about doing well to keep your job going try also to be on good terms with your boy friend because he is still the man. Don't always do things that will get him upset to make it look like you choose the job over him. Don't give excuses like you are been so busy in the office, work is pressing me etc. All of this will contribute to him saying you are choosing job over me. So be wise, careful and keep movie
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Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Tue, 19 Feb, 2019 - 09:04:57:pm GMT
If you don't have anything to hide, why don't you pick his call, there's absolutely nothing wrong with your boo calling you at any particular time of his choice, he is your man and deserves some respect, if I were to be in his shoes, I will think the same and probably we will no more be together because I will give you an ultimatum to either quit the job or the relationship is over, so you have to decide were your loyalty lyes. Your actions clearly point to the fact that there's an affair, with your low voice tone, and for him to even suspect you means that he has been very observant, so my dear change your ways, you can't have fun with your boo after work and also have fun with your boss at work! Every normal guy will be upset
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Velisa(f) .:. Fri, 08 Mar, 2019 - 02:51:14:pm GMT
My dear... You have to keep trying to convince him that there is absolutely nothing between you and your boss expect work and pay. The guy we are talking off here is your fiance not your husband. Nothing has given the assurance of him marrying you. Don't leave your job because of a guy who you are intending to marry and has not married you. Let him know that when he marries you, you will leave the job. He is still a boyfriend. Can ladies stop keeping themselves in condition because of boyfriends,who don't even know what love is? Love is trust. If your partner truly loves you, he would trust you. Be sincere to him, my dear if you look into him very well he could also have a girl he's dating apart from you. And he is suspecting the same thing on you. Don't leave your job because of a boyfriend. Leave it because of a husband. That guy can say it's over at any time. I mean any time and you will end up being nothing. No job, no money, he used you and dump you. Just be sincere to him. Brighten your voice anytime he calls. When you are less busy, call him. At times go on video calls. If he does not trust you after trying all your best, then let him go. What's the fake thinking that she's having affair with her boss? Should every story end the same way? What if the boss was a female, will all this happen? Let's stop thinking otherwise and be truthful. A boyfriend is not a husband. A boyfriend can dump you at any time. They are not legally recognize as your husband. You are not bearing their name. Just because they give you five Naija daily does not mean they are registered as husband. They will leave if they are not the right person. Let your boyfriend trust you or he walks away.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Wed, 12 Jun, 2019 - 12:09:19:am GMT
You don't want to loose both?
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Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Glamour(f) .:. Fri, 26 Jun, 2020 - 05:21:47:pm GMT
Dear, what will be will be. Don't stress if after explaining yourself he still accuses you give up on explaining. In this our wonderful country that people are looking for jobs and the one you have is not as if you have a choice. If you were not with this guy the only thing I would say you should be bothered about is getting raped. Since it's just you and your boss of which wouldn't be around everyday. Trust is important in any kind of relationship even between buyers and sellers. Unless you have cheated before but still doesn't give him the right to doubt you unless he hasn't moved on from that mistake. It is up to you miss to be sincere if you know your boss is hitting on you start looking for another place cause one way or the other you might loose the job if you are not careful. You don't know if this your boss is your helper, the person that would move you from your present state to a better one. So girl don't let a relationship especially the fact that you guys are not married be the reason to loose your job. Truth be told no matter how much your boo loves you if he isn't yours you can't keep him and don't be shocked in the nearest future he won't look back when it comes to his own success. Be wise and prayerful. Don't be trapped in any of these two things your job or your relationship. When it's time to pick choose wisely. When money enter love is sweeter. Until boo can give a job don't loose your job.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Toxyron(f) .:. Sat, 27 Jun, 2020 - 06:05:56:pm GMT
My dear,A relationship without trust is a waste of time,your partner feels insecure about every little thing you do, does he not have a Job that he's always calling every time .....
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: ACETONE(m) .:. Sat, 27 Jun, 2020 - 10:26:55:pm GMT
For me, I will say you should pick you boyfriend since he is not ready to understand the nature of your job. So I advice you try and source for another job that won't be won't about you guys having trust issues. Or maybe when you get married to your boo. He makes you a full housewife, Lol. I believe he is a jealous man which is normal.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Victoria(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 12:29:42:pm GMT
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Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Blackie(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 12:50:21:pm GMT
Firstly what your boyfriend is supposed to consider is of your boss is always home or not. If your boss isn't always around then he isn't supposed to worry much but if your boss is always at home then I understand his insecurity. I'm sure your boss is probably a rich person, your boyfriend feels insecure. He's afraid your boss will steal you right under his nose and there's nothing he'll be able to do. He also needs to consider the age. If your boss is a young man in is 20s or 30s then I understand his fear but if he's an older man then he shouldn't really worry.
Re: My JOB OR MY BOYFRIEND? by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 01:00:59:pm GMT
The truth is your boyfriend loves you enough to care about you. And any guy in such situation would feel insecure. Trust is not just by saying it with your mouth. It is something you earn from your partner and when you've earned it, no reason will be enough for him to doubt you.
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