Romance » Mother or Wife by: Oma_maron(f) .:. Wed, 20 Feb, 2019 - 05:56:03:am GMT
Should a Man consult "His Wife" before giving "His Mother" money??? Will it not seem as if the wife is controlling the husband, because recently I came across a relationship like that, whereby the man always consult the wife and asks for her permission and her own opinion before he can give his mother money, to me it's kind of awkward considering this was the woman that brought the man/husband into life, it also brings another question, who should you love most, your mother or your wife. For me I don't think I can love any other woman more than the way I love my mother, that's just my own opinion, good people of Beneyoyo Forum let's hear your own take from this, as it's a cause for concern!!!
Re: Mother or Wife by: Piwizo(m) .:. Wed, 20 Feb, 2019 - 10:47:12:pm GMT
Well for me its important for the wife to know her role in my house, while i will not be hard on her or be lacking in my responsibilities towards her, i take it as a insult for me as a man to consult my wife before i send money to my mother, secondly i wont be bothered at all if she didnt consult me as her husband before she sends money to her own mom, what every relationship needs is understanding and communication, i as a man can suggest to my wife of my intentions of sending my mum money but not to seek approval from her because regardless of what she says i will still send my mum the money she needs, i am only informing my wife in case she wants to get additional things for my mum, but its so unfortunate that in some homes the woman dictates the rules and the husband abides by it, thats so bad, they practically are being controlled by their wives, not on my watch anyways, so in conclusion what i feel is the right thing to do is, always keep your partner in the loop of every of your activities, dont let her be in the dark, let her be aware, it makes her love the man the more as she knows and understand that shes very important to her husband.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 07:38:47:am GMT
Truly the husband is the head of the family but you should know you and your wife are one. I don't think it's good when husband sends money to his mother without letting his wife know or discussing it to a point of decision with his wife. And also the wife sending money to her family without same procedure. Togetherness keeps your relationship stronger.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Velisa(f) .:. Thu, 07 Mar, 2019 - 07:30:18:am GMT
This is a very common issue between husbands and wives. I hope men will realize that the next person after you is your wife and not your mother. Even God who created the heaven and the earth and also gave his only son to die for us he created because of our sin, gave us instructions that a man and a woman shall leave their mothers and fathers and the shall become one. That is the God that formed you in your mother's womb. Your wife and you are one. Your mother also has her own husband. She might love you as her child but would still love her husband more because be is her husband. Loving your mother more than your wife is wrong. And a man should always inform and seek advice from the wife before taking any step. I found out that most men don't seek advice from their wives because they feel, they are the head and should made every decision on their own. Am sure you know that a judge is the one who declares justice in court. The judge is meant to judge the people but have you ever thought of why there is lawyers when there is judge already to declare. Because the judge needs support. He needs lawyers to speak for the people and he would gather his information thoroughly and no decision is straightly made by him but first discussed by the committee of the court. Same also pertain to a school. The principal is the head never makes him take decisions on his own without having it discuss with the teachers first. When decisions in an organization is made by only one person without seeking others advice. The organization will collapse one day. Your wife and children are your organization. Seek her advice. Why do you think the Bible wrote that he that finds a wife finds a good thing? Do you think maybe because she will bear you children? That's not all. She is a supporter. Keep a good home by seeking your wife's advice before doing anything. If not, you are separating your home. It will get to a time your wife too won't seek your advice and children won't do the same. Then you haven't build a good home.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Flat(m) .:. Fri, 03 Jul, 2020 - 10:54:56:pm GMT
Re: Mother or Wife by: TYMartins(f) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 05:47:18:am GMT
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Re: Mother or Wife by: Phaithh(f) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 07:39:30:am GMT
@Gooddypye: You are right miss. The husband and wife are one. He should be able to discuss it with his wife. But it's not for him to get permission, but to let her just know. Who knows? The mother might still go behind to ask for money from the wife (some mothers are like that).
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Re: Mother or Wife by: Glamour(f) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 07:52:13:am GMT
I don't think it's is compulsory for a wife to know about her husband giving money to HIS MUM. Some men today are alive because of how far their mother's love have gone. Do you know what some mothers have done or given up just to help and save their child. If he what is wife to know it's not bad, but he shouldn't ask for permission to give his mother money as long as he has it. The case can go another way too, if the man only gives his mother and not the wife then that is a problem. I would support any woman that complains if she is this state, because I feel it might be wickedness.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Dynameak(f) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 11:34:22:am GMT
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Re: Mother or Wife by: Breezy24(m) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 11:59:13:am GMT
Well what matters the most in a relationship is understanding, I don't think a man have to ask for permission from his wife before he sends money to his mother unless they have a joint account, That's still understandable.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Leks(m) .:. Tue, 07 Jul, 2020 - 05:08:55:pm GMT
Mother and wives are precious gift giving to us from God. Mother brought us to the world and we continue the process with our wife to bring child to the world ensuring continuity from the will of God. With that you would have realised how precious mother and wife are.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Blackie(f) .:. Thu, 09 Jul, 2020 - 09:56:05:pm GMT
I find it weird when wives put their husbands in such a position where they have to pick. Why would a man pick between his wife and his mother. Both are equally important. A mother is someone in which a guy spends majority of his time with, she's someone who as been with him from the moment he set foot into the world, so why then would a wife come and put her husband into an awkward situation. In situations like this, the man ends up being confused. Whereas a wife is as important as a mother. A wife is someone who's supposed to support all her husbands decision and point out his mistakes where she feels something is wrong. A wife is an important part of a man's life. A good wife would neever make her husband choose between her and his mother. It's absurd and frustrating.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Victoria(f) .:. Tue, 29 Sep, 2020 - 07:30:33:pm GMT
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Re: Mother or Wife by: Adegboyelove(m) .:. Tue, 29 Sep, 2020 - 08:21:27:pm GMT
I don't think it makes sense for a husband to ask his wife for money because the bible clearly shows that one who does not take care of is mother is worse than a nonbelievers, and I don't think anyone who is wise enough would do such a thing because the man is also the head of the family and so he as the right to make decisions without been questioned.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Obajichi(f) .:. Tue, 29 Sep, 2020 - 08:57:31:pm GMT
This is a big issue in most homes.
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Re: Mother or Wife by: Abbey(m) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 06:05:20:am GMT
Re: Mother or Wife by: Gbasky(m) .:. Thu, 01 Oct, 2020 - 02:11:37:pm GMT
Re: Mother or Wife by: Wisemamsam(m) .:. Thu, 01 Oct, 2020 - 02:59:02:pm GMT
The problem we have in our society as regarding the issue of mother or wife is becoming alarming by the day, and this is simply because of misplacement of priority and standard.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Chiboy(m) .:. Sat, 17 Oct, 2020 - 08:06:42:am GMT
Consulting your wife before giving money to your mother is right. The reason for consulting your wife is not because you are scared of her, but for her to b aware. They are married and through holy matrimony they are one. So they're to carry each other along in anything they do.
Re: Mother or Wife by: Holashayo(f) .:. Sat, 17 Oct, 2020 - 09:24:48:am GMT
Re: Mother or Wife by: Flat(m) .:. Sun, 18 Oct, 2020 - 07:48:15:pm GMT
Hmmm! Issues like this are needed to be settled during courtship before the date of marriage is visible at all. It is so important to the extent that if proper care is not taking it can destroy a new marriage within this space of a year. One thing I will want us to admit to is that, whatever you one to regard as a secret either as the wife of the husband, no matter how big or small it might look like should be a thing of secret between both, that is, both the husband must be aware of it. So, everything the husband do must be clear to the wife and likewise everything the wife is doing must also be clear to the husband. Now, if you say you love your mother than your wife, my brother that's a big lie. You see, one prayer that is very important that we all pray is that we should never marry the wrong person because of the fact that marrying the wrong person might lead you to think your mother is far better than your wife. But when you love your mother and your wife, you will see your mother in your wife, which means your wife will act like your mother and also as your wife.
If understanding is lacking in marriage, misunderstanding is inevitable. We need to grow to the point that will both see our parents as one just as we see ourselves as one. When the husband sees the parent of the wife as his parent and likewise the wife sees the parent of the husband as one, then the monitoring spirit when it comes to sending money will be reduced. So, I don't see anything wrong in informing your wife about the intention to send your parents money rather me I even see it as a way of her trying to cut are own expenses short.
Therefore, let's be open minded to eachother. God bless us.