Literature/Writing » Maturity by: Kennybabz(m) .:. Wed, 12 Aug, 2020 - 05:51:15:pm GMT

MATURITY*Maturity is not when you exit a group because people are discussing nonsense in it. Maturity is when you introduce tangible topics of discussion and engage members.**Those who pretend to be mature by exiting groups later live lonely lives wishing to be added. This decision is usually triggered by Inferiority complex and the desire to feel wanted and missed. That is not a solution. Be active like the rest and embrace diversity.**A group must contain the funny, the holy, the soccer pundits, the confused, the trouble makers, the business pundits, the stupid, the silent ,the intellectuals, the rich, the poor and the joyriders**You do not have to be tied down unnecessarily by stereotypes. This world is laden with necessary diversities that create a more organic whole in you and out of you**Just learn to coexist among your peers, but more importantly, learn to tolerate others including their views. That neither means you agree nor that you are unwise. It adds to your greatness and strength**Then finally try to add value to the group by contributing your own quota in daily activities*.

**Kehinde**


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   Re: Maturity by: Obajichi(f) .:. Sun, 16 Aug, 2020 - 02:08:28:pm GMT

Many social platforms & even relationships are filled with immature people.If we overlook certain things that people throw at us, it won't make us lesser.

When we handle situations & people wisely then that shows maturity. After all there is a saying that: The Young Shall Grow.

In other words, the young must mature.


**I love being me.**


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   Re: Maturity by: ObakaEmmanuel(m) .:. Sun, 16 Aug, 2020 - 03:23:27:pm GMT

There are so many reason why you must attain maturity state.You feel more stableMaturity improves the ability to make good decisions. And with wise choices comes more stability in your life overall. Gone is the flurry of bad relationships, iffy decisions, wild nights out and horrible jobs. As you settle down, life becomes that much more stable and, consequently, easier to handle.You're more attuned to yourselfYou spend life until your 20s trying to figure out who you are. But with maturity, you'll enjoy feeling confident in your hard-won identity. You'll be more attuned to yourself and your needs, freeing you to go after what you truly want.Your career stabilizesMaturity and professional experience usually mean that you stop hopping from one employer to another trying to find the best fit. Enjoy this time to focus on your true aspirations and passions.You face less conflictsAs we get older and learn what we want, we learn to choose our battles and develop ways of interacting with others more productively. You'll face fewer conflicts overall, from customer service to family. Those battles and arguments of your youth are replaced with communication and compromise. And overall, you'll have acquired priceless skills for dealing with different types of people.The little things don't matter as muchAs we mature, not only do we learn to appreciate the finer things in life, but we also learn the difference between petty and important things. Experience helps you learn what really matters, so it's easier to appreciate those things, fully focusing and enjoying them all the more.
**Obakaemmanuel**


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   Re: Maturity by: Holashayo(f) .:. Tue, 18 Aug, 2020 - 05:26:27:pm GMT

They say "out of nonsense, you will always see sense". Criticizing and isolating yourself from others(who are not up to your level) will not get you to anywhere rather it deprive you from associating with great people in life cause big clothes does not prove ones greatness. Neglecting your mates and young ones cause you want to prove maturity is nothing but stupidity. I got a call from one of my friend recently but you won't believe i gave him my number. Why? He was known to be the most stupid guy in our class then. People do ignore him because of that but most surprisingly when i gave him my WhatsApp number and we chat up. He has really changed and now he is into film production. So he told me that if i don't mind he will help me. I was so glad and i accepted to be part.
Imagine, i have been looking for that opportunity for so long and if i had ignore him it will be very painful.
So therefore, it is very encouraging to always get along with friends.

**Damiswag**


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   Re: Maturity by: Princess(f) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 05:43:30:am GMT

Maturity

Maturity is a broad term that as two major aspects the physical and the psychological aspect.
The physical aspect involves the body changes at puberty. We would be focusing on the psychological aspect which involves the state of mind.

Psychological aspect: In this, a person is said to be matured when he or she is able to give the right response (behavior) at the appropriate time to the happenings around them.

It is dependent on time and circumstances surrounding the individual. What we feel (emotions) as a result of the things happening and how we react is what makes up this type of maturity. It is the experiences that trigger the maturity if it is rightly channeled. Some of these experiences might be very tragic and can influence a person wrongly, but it is left for the individual to use all he or she has to channel all the experience (negative and positive) into positivity.

These experiences have great influence on a person's growth.

"Experience and proper reasoning are necessary for proper maturation" - Anonymous

**Toluwaneeme**


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   Re: Maturity by: Princess(f) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 05:44:54:am GMT

"Experience and proper reasoning are necessary for proper maturation" - Anonymous

We most times try to link maturity with age, which is right to a certain extent because with the age comes more experience, but the experience alone does not bring maturity, the right application of the lessons learn from the experience (proper reasoning) is what brings maturity. This is why we find people who are well matured physically ( the age, body), they have the experience but they still do not act matured (state of mind).

Also, we still find people with the age and are matured (psychologically). This means that they have the experience and they channeled it to the right direction.

Some people have been forced to be matured at a very young age because of the circumstances (loosing their parents, being in an abusive home,making tough decisions etc.) they find themselves in. In this situation they gain experience regardless of their age.

There is no psychological maturity without the circumstances, experience (from the circumstance) and right channeling.

**Toluwaneeme**


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   Re: Maturity by: Glamour(f) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 08:51:37:am GMT


Quote from Kennybabz: MATURITY*Maturity is not when you exit a group because people are discussing nonsense in it. Maturity is when you introduce tangible topics of discussion and engage members.**Those who pretend to be mature by exiting groups later live lonely lives wishing to be added. This decision is usually triggered by Inferiority complex and the desire to feel wanted and missed. That is not a solution. Be active like the rest and embrace diversity.**A group must contain the funny, the holy, the soccer pundits, the confused, the trouble makers, the business pundits, the stupid, the silent ,the intellectuals, the rich, the poor and the joyriders**You do not have to be tied down unnecessarily by stereotypes. This world is laden with necessary diversities that create a more organic whole in you and out of you**Just learn to coexist among your peers, but more importantly, learn to tolerate others including their views. That neither means you agree nor that you are unwise. It adds to your greatness and strength**Then finally try to add value to the group by contributing your own quota in daily activities*.



... The highlighted words up there is what I term nonsense. Let me tell you how it goes, I joined a cryptotv group of recent. I don't come online unless it's important, but every time I do, I get to meet 500 messages. I scan through these messages, only to find out they have just been discussing random on fruitful stuffs. Not just once or twice, so I left. P.s I am not lonely neither do I wish I could go back.

I am not arguing that a group doesn't have different kinds of people, but when I join a group, if I am seeing 500 messages, I should be able to gain from it and not get pissed.



**God's favorite**


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   Re: Maturity by: Gooddy(f) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 12:02:52:pm GMT

I've come to realise that, there's a certain stage one gets to and one becomes matured. Yeah! I noticed suddenly I changed, i used to be that girl that plays a lot, that does things immature, I now became someone people tell you act matured.


Then, one day I sat and thought of how I've changed from that playful and loose girl to this matured woman I am, the same way i thought of how old I'll become one day.

I then realised, am not getting younger, i realised am a year older in every year. It was then i understand what they mean by a fool at 40, is a fool forever. If at 40, you've not had senses of your own, then you are a fool forever. So, I became someone that when I see my younger ones doing something that's silly, I'll say they dont know anything yet, they are still children.

In fact, some times I do sit and recall every mistake I've made in the past and I will just be like... if I was like this wise then, I wouldn't have done those mistakes... nobody wouldnt have been able to deceive me.

An elder will always be wiser than a youth, why? Experience. Our experiences in life makes us wiser and better. We learn daily as we grow. So, you can see a child who plays and talks rudely today becomes a responsible one tomorrow. Because he has grown to see those attitudes as childish stuff.

**Lagos**


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   Re: Maturity by: Peekaboo(f) .:. Sat, 26 Sep, 2020 - 11:41:37:am GMT

Maturity lies in the mind of a person who is matured


It does not entails age


But it lies in the hearts of knowledge
And the palm of wisdom

**Bubbles**


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   Re: Maturity by: Peekaboo(f) .:. Sat, 26 Sep, 2020 - 11:41:37:am GMT

Maturity lies in the mind of a person who is matured


It does not entails age


But it lies in the hearts of knowledge
And the palm of wisdom

**Bubbles**


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   Re: Maturity by: Peekaboo(f) .:. Wed, 07 Oct, 2020 - 08:28:31:am GMT

Maturity is that within you that allows you to be able to locate your left from right .Are you matured??

Some people claim to be matured,but mere looking at them,they still béhave childish.

Maturity is not a spoken word saying ""I am matured"":: NO,but a doing word portraying your saying word.


A popular saying goes thus""action speaks louder than words""

Do you claim to be mature añd argue over things that are not meant to be argued with

Do you claim to be matured and weep in secret for an action .


Maturity states ""the higher your way ,the higher your age""

Maturity is not determined by a person's age or status ,but it's being determined by that person's reasonable character

How do you make friends ?

If not
How do you treat problems?
How do you tackle failure ?
How do you speak in public?
How do you claim what is yours?
How do you orientated people?
What are your thoughts?
What are your plans?
What are your motive outside?
What are your motive inside?


Having gone through this page ,the question is that within youare you truly matured??

If not think twice before it's too late


Maturity is not being strict,or harsh. But making your wayof discipline known unto àll men .
Its not being free or friendly but making your carefreeness made known unto àll men



Please let us be matured

**Bubbles**


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   Re: Maturity by: Abbie@21(f) .:. Wed, 07 Oct, 2020 - 01:13:04:pm GMT

Maturity develops with experience and not age. Maturity is about how one thinks, speaks reacts, behaves and in all the way you place yourself for others to see I don't mean pride here I mean self respect.


Taking responsibility is one step to maturity,in taking responsibility,you have to take responsibility of what you do before taking responsibility for others, maturity has to do with thinking before you speak.
There are two types of maturity,that everyone should know ,
I-PHYSICAL MATURITY(aging).
I I-MENTAL MATURITY(level of thinking).

Doing what you have to do at the right time and doing it right is maturity. You don't have to be 30 before taking responsibility for your actions, I have come across kids , few kids that the way they act , think things and talk baffles me.

There was this very close friend of mine, although I was a year older than she was, I must confess that her level of mental maturity was far much higher than mine, this was about 10years ago, then I was still in secondary school, while I will be waiting for daddy to give me money to get some things like notebooks, pen and other things I needed, this girl would have gotten some things already for herself with her own money, she saved alot , it wasn't as if her parents weren't capable but she felt disturbing them all the time wasn't so appropriate so during school days she saved ahead , I learnt a lot from her at that time, we we're just normal children but her level of maturity was so high that it nearly shook me off my feet.

It isn't normal for a young lady of about 20years to wait on her parents for makeup kits, body cream or even tooth b rush , infact once you are 18years you are automatically an adult ,there are certain things that must be done as we gradually turn into adults ,that is maturity.

Before choosing that course you want to study,first of all analyse and view how your future will be after you graduate,make calculations ahead of time, tell yourself that to achieve success and to graduate with good grades you need to stay focused, stay away from every form of distraction and stay focused , take responsibility even before the outcome that whatever will happen to you , you are solely responsible for it, take responsibility for your failures and be proud of what you have been able to achieve, face your fears and you will overcome, ask God to Grant you wisdom because he alone is the giver of all.

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   Re: Maturity by: Adegboyelove(m) .:. Wed, 07 Oct, 2020 - 04:14:23:pm GMT

The way people take maturity now adays is not the real meaning and application of the word,many people feel that a matured person must not play or should always do thing without joking or talking too much,but in reality maturity is much more than that and a matured person is known not only by words but by action and behaviour.

A lot of people wanna change their behaviour just because they are viewed as immatured but that is not right because maturity comes willingly and not by force and maturity is built by itself and not by force, so for me we should not force maturity on ourselves rather we should patiently wait for it because it will not delay and if people complain about our behaviours of immaturity,do not fight him or her but leave everything for God because maturity comes on it own.

**Loveth**


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   Re: Maturity by: AdaJesus(f) .:. Fri, 16 Oct, 2020 - 08:35:18:am GMT

Hmmmmm.. Very interesting.. And I must add to that, maturity doesn't depend on age..

I also think that maturity comes along with environment...
From my experience, most firstborn girls don't really behave matured on time to an extent owing to the fact there was no one to gear up their knowledge as peers... But the junior ones tend to behave and think maturedly, having a similitude ahead of them whom they can play with, share things and even compete with atimes...
Also peers can influence one's maturity level too. If you move along with people older than you, there's a tendency that such person will behave and think maturedly, likewise someone always moving with peers and younder ones, might have his or her maturity level impaired.
The Holy Spirit helps one to be matured too in every ways theough the fruits of the spirit. Love, patience,temperance, longsuffering, meekness, gentleness and so on.

**AdaJesus**


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   Re: Maturity by: MichealThankGod(m) .:. Fri, 16 Oct, 2020 - 02:06:23:pm GMT

Haven't we noticed that those that claimed to be wise and feels within themselves, to be matured, who separate themselves from different kinds of people, who have, there kind of level categories of friends are always end up been fools of themselves, those that claim, they know too much and believes or been convinced, in themselves, that they are matured, that is not maturity.
Maturity comes first, from the state of your heart, from the kind of life style you live, how you act in your home and in the public, your reactions to response that hurt you, how understanding, faithful, and committed are you, to see things change for good and for the best, how loving, and how caring, you are to those around you, it also comes from how expose you are, how much, and how long you can carry your fellow brother burden, like your own.
Age does not qualify one, for been matured, there are many that are far gone, in age but still, there state of maturity is very low. Thank you.

**Ogun state**


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   Re: Maturity by: Gifted_Spec(f) .:. Fri, 16 Oct, 2020 - 03:33:52:pm GMT

I totally agree with everything you have pointed out. Maturity isn't by age, qualification, ability or certification, it's far from all these.
A person once said the moment you see something wrong and you try fixing it,there you're getting matured.
Maturity isn't shying away from things because they're bad but pointing out the fact that they're bad and providing solutions to it.
Even younger ones can point out matured people from the way you relate with them, they may be immature but they know when an adult is really mature.
One time I was with a group of secondary school students, basically SS2 and SS 3 students,I was a teacher's aide at the time and they were just talking about all of their teachers cause one was going to leave at the time cause he was relocating but they really loved him and were sad he was leaving. So they were just talking about their teachers,those that were playful,the strict,the sadist,the realistic and approachable,the very sound and intelligent,the ones they were proud of,the ones that had integrity and always talked about morals,the ones they would like to be like,the matured and reasonable ones,the fake and lazy ones, they just went on and on pointing things out about their teachers and I marvelled at them,as much as these kids were annoying and acted immature a lot of times,they still had the sense of judgement from what they saw and observed.
How responsible you are,will tell how matured you are.

**Xpgpg**


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   Re: Maturity by: Temmylove(f) .:. Fri, 16 Oct, 2020 - 10:02:20:pm GMT


Exactly, maturity means to tolerate others.
Well, you can decide to exit a group if what they discuss or their focus of discussion is unhealthy
to you.
Let's say you are a believer and maybe you were added to a group by someone you know and the group is all about how to get slay Mama, slay queen and the likes. Nothing to edify you and so on, matirmat demands you quit or exist the group because in such case, you can't change the motive of the group because that has been the way they have been running the group.

In a situation where the motive is not stated, you can with the help of prayer introduce a motivating and imparting topics to the group and if you persist in doing so and it is not welcomed, you don't have to struggle with them.

To be matured means to be responsible, to be accountable.

**God's will be done**


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   Re: Maturity by: Chiboy(m) .:. Sun, 18 Oct, 2020 - 09:03:34:pm GMT

Maturity have to do with once mind set. The way you think , the way you responds and react to things is what makes you matured. People do mistake age for maturity, your age does not make you mature, you may look matured intense of growth. Your sense of reasoning is what make you mature. They are lot of elderly people that behave childish and lot of young people that behave mature.

When you talk about social media, they are lot of matured and immature people making use of social media. But the question is why are you making use of the social media. Different people and their different reasons, so if you as an individual is been added to a group and you are not getting the appropriate information you need from the group, then it's proper to leave, that does not make you a matured or immature person. You just have to leave because it not in-line with the purpose or reason why you are using the social media.

**Chiboy**


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