I'll tell two stories and then I'll end my point.
First is a common one and the second is not so common, but you might have heard about it before.
A son meet his father and told him that he wanted to get married. He had come to seek for advice from his father on the decision he had already made. After a short while of silience, the father spoke up and told his son that until he was ready to say sorry (apologies) both for what he did and didn't do, he would fail in his marriage.
The second one was told to me by a close friend and church member. He said when he was ready to get married, he told his father and he asked him a question, which goes, 'if you come back home one day and find your wife with another man on bed, what would you do?'
Indeed, you'd agree with me that that was a very though question that a father could ask his son. Can you for a minute imagine on what your answer would be, if you were asked such a question.
So, he gave his answer saying that, he wouldn't fight or cause a scene. He would ask the man to go and then call his wife later to ask her on what it is that he is not doing well as a husband and he would improve on it.
These two instances all point to the same thing... As a man you have to be ready to take the blame, to compromise, to favor your wife and to say sorry to her, on a regular basis.
Like they say, those are 2 powerful words that have the ability to settle any dispute, and without it, a water can start.
A Mann was asked a question relating to a husband and wife scenario once and he said that, men have to be like lamb and do whatever the wife wants (reasonably) to keep the marriage. It is the duty of the man to keep the marriage and make the marriage work.
So, yes. A man has to be ready to say sorry to the things he do and do not do to his wife.
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Yeah I like the topic and the caption of this article as it regards a man or husband apologizing to the wife I think this is the right thing to do when a man is like to humbly apologize and to make the wife see that he was sorry for what he had done because trying to form busy or form a hard man will not get the house moving.
It is advised that every man learn to do this, though I understand that this is Africa and we have some kind of culture whereby man feels he is the head and that he has a right to do anything he likes without apologizing.
Looking at the authority that he has why think this is totally wrong because many things needs to be corrected in our tradition and culture so when it comes to husband and wife, though our all our ancestors has gotten this wrong right from the start.
They do not give women or their wives the respect that they deserve rather they make them feel like they are just ordinary women that do not have value.
But our eyes have opened so we should not feel like because we are men and this is to our advantage we should not do the right thing when a man is wrong that is not big deal for the man to apologize and begged a woman like to beg for forgiveness so when this is done appropriately the house will move forward and the love will increase other than concealing the bad and feeling like is not to be corrected so this is my view on this matter thank you very much.
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Thanks for the comments sir
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Lol! Am actually surprised and impressed at the same time. Like for real! A guy actually made this post and it is guys that have been commenting and concurring with the post. Am impressed and for the first time it seems our world is improving!.
It is not only the man that needs to be saying sorry always and ready to be the sacrificial lamb, its has to go both ways for the man and the woman because the two partners can be be liken to a balance wheel, if one is heavier than the other, it won't be balance so for it to be balance all the time and everyone is happy, both partners have to be ready to say sorry! Both have to be ready to be the sacrificial lamb!.
The word sorry is very essential in nature, the word sorry has turn some marriage to be divorce simply because the husband and the wife are not ready to say the word sorry to each other .
Any way I can say sorry to my wife because I wont peace to regin in my home.
There's nothing wrong in saying u're sorry to your woman.
There should be equality in a relationship if she offends you and tends to apologize to you.
You should also do the same for her as well.
But make sure you do not apologize when you've done nothing wrong to her.
It makes you look weak and on the long run she would advantage of it.
Saying sorry! This is one of the ingredients that have been found to be missing in so many relationships and this is majorly as a result of ego from both sides. I clearly understand the fact that this is mostly from the men side but we shouldn’t concentrate it on them alone but rather make it a balance situation.
Sincerely, ladies, let me tell you this, the only reason why a guy will not want to say sorry when he is at fault is when you do not present yourself worthy of it. You might not understand this, let me make it simpler, you see a lot of ladies out there are the one forcing themselves on that particular guy just because of one thing or the other. So, whenever he is wrong, instead of him to say sorry, he would not, you will be the one doing that just because you don’t want to loose him. This is vice versa, it happens to the guys too. So, this is one of the things we must discourage if we really wants this to be done freely. Never ever forced yourself into any relationship, because this will always lead the forcer to say sorry when he/she is at fault or not. Let the husband say sorry when he is at fault, let the wife say sorry when she is at fault. Saying this will not cause any depreciation in our title as a husband or as a wife.
Another thing I think is the major cause of this issue is the fact that no one is ready to accept the blame. Nobody is ready to accept the fault and this is one of the reasons why the relationship is not growing. So, it will be advisable if we just acknowledge that we are wrong when we are rather than we pushing the blame to our partner.
Therefore, say sorry when you are wrong and accept it when you are being apologized too.
As a man with the intention of getting married it is of importance to always learn the act of apologizing and that is always saying sorry but it is not always every time that you'll have to apologize. You only apologize for something that you know that you did wrong or something that you're not sure but if your other partner which is the woman is the one that is in the wrong then you just have to let her know her fault. So is not everything that you say sorry.
If you don't want to say sorry for what you have done and you just have to let her know the reason why you have done it and help her to understand the reason