Romance » MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: Obajichi(f) .:. Fri, 11 Nov, 2022 - 09:50:25:am GMT
Many of them never wanted their women to work.
Whether they were Westerners or Africans, majority of the men felt they could and were meant to handle the financial burdens. It was simply their pride and honor to do it, regardless of the circumstances. They saw it as a manly fulfillment.
Fast forward to this jet age, when things have drastically changed.
We talk about gender equality now and that what a man can do a woman can do better and that includes working , management and so on.
Hmmm! These days some women even earn higher than their dates or husbands.
We also have many men especially in Africa, who shy away from financial responsibilities in the home and in relationships.
There are still some men who live up to their financial responsibilities too.
Some couples prefer to spilt the bills. They believe it's reasonable and fair that way.
Imagine a scenario where a man goes on a date with a lady and the lady decides to pay the bill. Some men don't see anything wrong with this.
In fact, some men , nowadays do appreciate it when a woman pays for them especially if they've been dating for a long time because they believe it takes two to tango. Some ladies believe they owe you nothing, so, they foot can the bills.
A lot of African ladies believe that the man must always pay the bills and doing it otherwise, is an anomaly.
Some men consent to outings or marital relationships with ladies or women because they are sure the women will foot the bills.
What do we call those kind of men ?
But some men consider a woman paying the bills as an insult on their ego.
Do you think a man must always pay the bills and does paying the bills accord him more respect these days ?
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Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: PrinceBenjamin(f) .:. Sun, 13 Nov, 2022 - 11:42:16:pm GMT
Mine answer to this is yes, as a man is your responsibility to pay bills for your wife and children doe your wife is there to support you, it is still your responsibility to do the it.
Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: Wonders(f) .:. Mon, 14 Nov, 2022 - 01:09:28:am GMT
First of all, I don't believe in whatever this "Feminism" mean which many ladies are preaching today. I'll always stand with the original idea coming from the bible that the man is the head, he has more authority and he should be on top of the situation always.
It's on this note I'll pen down that while the man doesn't have to always be the one to pay the bills. He should be on top of the situation at all times.
For me, I believe the man should always be ready to get the bills paid because he's the provider and he should stand as one. However in situations where the lady in question here offers to pay the bills, whatever it is, I believe it isn't a crime if the man decides to allow her.
However the main point remains that, a good and responsible man that wants a relationship, family will stand as a man is supposed to stand. Always ready to get things done, always ready to be on top of the situation.
To me, I believe that's how a man earn his respect, and this "I'm the head" title they are always yearning for. I believe that's the best way to get that respect and honour. It is and it will never be by shouting up and down that "I'm the head"
Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Mon, 14 Nov, 2022 - 10:39:37:am GMT
Hmm! This question is something that has caused a lot of problems in some homes because both genders don't want to handle their role while some gender is doing the roles of others. In the beginning, God created man and woman for specific purposes but the world has turned the standard to suit their selfish desire.
According to the precepts of God, Man is designed to take up responsibility because he is the head of the family. A woman is a helper and that implies a man must be handling some responsibility while the woman is to help in handling the responsibility not that they are meant to carry the responsibility in the first place.
Don't be carried away by the noise of the world and by their ideology instead learn to follow the precepts of God. As a man, if you have the capacity make sure you take responsibility also as a woman don't just put all demands on the man if you can help out. Marriage is sweet when you both understand your roles.
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Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: Florida(f) .:. Mon, 14 Nov, 2022 - 02:14:21:pm GMT
It is the responsibility of the man to pay the bills, while the woman is to support.
Lazy and irresponsible men leave the woman to pay all the bills. She can support you but always be ready to foot the bills at home and your children bills too.
In the case where the woman earns more than the man, there should be an agreement between the couples how and what they intend to do, not the man automatically assuming she just takes the whole responsibility like that.
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Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: SamuelKingsley93(m) .:. Mon, 14 Nov, 2022 - 07:52:50:pm GMT
To be precise No.
Back then in the days of our fathers, as you said Men do take pride in footing the bills because back then, men have good jobs that do paid well more than what the women do earn and also women don't ask men out on a date back then like this age.
Men derives joy in footing the bills, it makes then feel in charge what's that word...hmm dominance and it also shows he is capable of taking care of the lady. And for a man to have that feeling, he has to earn more than his date.
Most men have the feeling that if women are richer than them, they have loose their manhood; their dominance. Because most women won't take you serious.
So it is not a must for a man to pay the bills, I think the person who should shoulder the bill suppose to be the one who invited the other for the date.
Imagine one of your friend went out to a cafeteria or any eatery and he suddenly call you to join him. who will foot the bill? is it you or your friend?
The answer is simple your friend will unless you extent your order to the limit, he won't agree to. Then you have to foot that bill.
So that answer to the question, it is not always. It suppose to be on the person calling the date on.
Re: MUST A MAN ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS? by: Queen(f) .:. Sat, 26 Nov, 2022 - 10:35:32:pm GMT
Yes please, except she offers.
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