Babe-Fishing/Dating » MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 03:09:37:pm GMT

That someone broke your heart and treated you wrong doesn't mean you block your heart to love and deny yourself those who really want to treat you right.

It also doesn't mean you start to pay others back for the hurt you suffered at the hands of someone long gone.

You deserve love, you deserve happiness and you deserve joy. There are people out there who'd gladly give these to you, let them in.

Yes, opening up will make you feel vulnerable and make you feel like you are going to be hurt again but opening your heart to love doesn't mean the process cannot be made relatively safe for you. In the hurt from the past lie lessons which you need to implement. Allow your mind to embrace these so that the hurt from the past makes you better and leads you into happiness not loneliness, sadness and depression. You have already been made a victim in the past, don't make yourself a victim in the present and future.

You deserve better so let go and be free.


**Graced **


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Piwizo(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 03:13:19:pm GMT

We have all had heartbreaks (well, most of us have). This has nothing to do with obeying the rules of the game or being a good person, one way or the other, it will still happen.
Not every heartbreak leads to a breakup. Sometimes it is just a heavy feeling of disappointment. What it will eventually turn out to be will rest on how it is handled.

Some people have recovered so well from heartbreaks that it seems their whole success story owes its origin to the heartbreak. For others, it has been the beginning of the end.
People will tell you to be strong like it is easy. Sorry, it is not. So if you feel like crying, please do. When you are done crying, I mean that point when the people trying to calm you down have all had enough and gone, when you are all alone, you need to have a discussion with yourself. This discussion might just save your life.

You need to tell yourself where you are coming from, where you thought you were going to, you need to remember who you were before you met the person gone then compare that to who you are today. If it is better then you have a reason to keep going, if it is worse then you also have a reason to keep going on. If your life was better before you met the person that just left you, it is a blessing as the exit of the person will give you the opportunity to return to the better person you used to be. If your life was worse before you met the person, the exit of that person becomes your independence, the point where you are solely responsible for who/what you are without anyone else sharing in the glory of it.

It may not be easy initially as you will miss the participation and involvement of the person in every step you take but each subsequent step makes it better. You were born to function first, as a single unit then as a member of a larger community. That is reason enough for you to rediscover your ability to do that.
The person over whom you are depressed has moved on to better things (or maybe not). While you are not in a competition, it will not be a bad idea to get better too.

Finally, what's all the fuss about? there are a million people out in the world who would make for better replacements.
Every disagreement is a chance to get better in a relationship but when splits happen then the breakup becomes a chance to jump several steps in upgrade.
Get up and put your energy back on, a better you awaits.


**positive**


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Thu, 13 Jun, 2019 - 08:40:56:am GMT

Heart break had made a lot of people commit suicide.


I still wonders why they go to that extent of taking their own life just because a guy or lady they loved left them to someone else.

I just wished I could talk senses into this people. Though I know how it feels for someone you love to leave you but nevertheless, you don't have to take your own life.

I remembered sometime ago... I was in school, during my final year in school. I and my fiance then had made up our minds to marry immediately I sign out. I was happy and can't wait to be MRS. I and my fiance started dating when he had nothing but just a small foam in his one room apartment. But we worked together and he became wealthy and he always say I'm a blessing to him. I can't wait to marry.

But the worst happened. When he said I'm having external affairs. Am double dating. I tried to convince him on why should I do that but I never knew he was the one having affairs with another lady, I found out and he lie to me but there was clash among us.

One day, he just called me after a week I left his place.. and told me its over.

This was someone I loved very much and my family knows him.

I almost got myself killed. I cried for days, months, but one thing I knew was when I cry... It makes me feel better. I feel better and light headed.

So, when I feel better, I tell myself, I have to move on. He's gone. I can't kill myself. He didnt love me. I can't kill myself for someone that didn't love me.

That was how I overcomed the death thoughts of heart break.

Heart break is just for a while. You need to tell yourself to move one. They never loved you. If they did, they wouldn't have left you. You don't have to kill yourself. If you do... They will still continue their life.

Why don't you gather courage and move on. Be a better person than you have being before.

**God's light**


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Velisa(f) .:. Sat, 15 Jun, 2019 - 06:37:42:am GMT

You have to let go of the past after an heart break.


Forget everything the person did to you.

Forget how you loved and you weren't showed love back.

Forget how you sacrifice and you were paid back with evil.

Forget all and move on.

And never try to bring the past into any of your new relationship.

That is the Main reason you have to forget the past.

Don't assume your new partner will do the same. That assume all men or women are the same.

We might all be humans but we are different from each otherS.

We don't carry the same spirit.

We don't all believe the same thing.

We have different opinions in life.

Live with your new partner like you have never been hurt before. If not, you will end up loosing that relationship. Cause once you don't trust your new partner, once you see him or her to be as the same as your ex while they are not... Then one day, he or she will break up with you.

You have to let go of the past.
And you have to know that not every relationship will lead to marriage.

Don't kill yourself because a sort of guy or girl left you. Let them go instead of them pretending like they love you, whereas they don't.

Don't try to stand in where you are not fit to be. You are better than the past.

**Determined**


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Presho23(m) .:. Sat, 15 Jun, 2019 - 07:09:08:am GMT

When you are in a sexual relationship, the only time you will be happy is when you are having sex.After sex, confusions sets in. Fear sets in. You begin to feel your partner is cheating on you. One boy was even like, "when she is with you, that's when she is yours, the moment she leaves you, she is another person's property". This kind of relationship will never end well, it is meant to end in heartbreak because it is not defined, when the purpose of a thing is not know abuse is inevitable.


The only reason heartbreak is rampant in our society today is because our young ones are in a sexual relationship not God-fearing relationship. When you are in a God-fearing relationship, even though she is not with you, you won't suspect her. You won't say she is another man's property, because you trust her and when there is trust in a relationship it will last and stand the test of time.


In a God-fearing relationship, when you two are not together, all you do is pray for God to preserve and protect him or her for you. All you do is to pray for you people's love to wax stronger and stronger. All you will do is to seek for ways to always make your partner know you are there for him or her. When you are in a God-fearing relationship, you will be sending Godly love messages to your woman, not erotic or sex messages because there comes a time when that excitement stops when you are no longer feeling how you were feeling at the initial stage.


You will be calling to encourage him or her in life, not to ask for sex-call or when she is coming to give you sex. You will not listen to gossips from strangers. You will not be gossiping about your partner to any third party. In conclusion, moving on after your heart has been broken is not an easy task, that is the more reason you need to guard your heart will all diligence, you are not a tool to be manhandled anyhow.


You are a human being, so it would be easy for me to advice you to just end the relationship if you know it is only based on sex, but the truth of the matter is after you end it the battle you will face might not be easy when you remember such nice times you had with your ex and the wonderful moments, you might be tempted to want to go back, this is why we advice that sex is for only married people, if he hasn't paid your bride prize don't allow him have sex with you, its for your own good.


**Great works are the product of deep thoughts **


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Youngbeauty(f) .:. Wed, 26 Jun, 2019 - 12:20:01:pm GMT

Don't think taking your life is the best thing to do,after having heartbreaks

Make your self look the best,don't let just a heart break takes the best out of you,
Go out meet new friends
have fun,keep your self busy with one or two things,look your self in the mirror and say
I deserve nothing but the best,if possible talk it out with a friend that is dear to you,get some advice

but don't lock your heart to others because you may not no when the right one is close,even wen they is no Mr right,they are still good ladies good guys out there that are looking for real love not some heartbreakers,
take your time clear your head,

Get rude of everything that remind you of him, if possible set them on fire not even a pin of him is left out,then say to your self
I am enough
Nothing is impossible,with me all things are possible
I can do this,i can fight it
My past is behind me,am moving forward,backwards never,
get ready to move on with your life,give time to yourself
Don't make a mistake of saying i can never love again or i hate men or women,that's the biggest mistake or world any guy or lady that is not in his sense will use

give chance to a new beginning a fresh start
Open your heart to love again,wen you stand a chance of loving again, when you hook up with someone never act like you have been hurt before because wen you do,u are giving in for your past to surface in your present that were you making a mistake,
Love him like you have never loved anyone,like it your first time
make him feel he means everything to you,don't let your past trouble your present relationship

make him everything,don't love him less,go out spend time together make new memories
with that u can forget about your past,it will be an history to you
so moving on is the only way and most of all making yourself happy,speak to you say to your heart no one can make you happy like yourself


have it in mind that in a relationship you expert the worst thing ever,don't think it will be that sweet and perfect,cos no perfect one,
just feel the moment

only you are the one person that can not give a broken heart to yourself










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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Tue, 09 Jul, 2019 - 01:08:01:pm GMT

Relationships break up are tough. No one gets through it over night. For some, it takes months. Others, it takes years. It all depends on how long the two of you were together.
One thing is certain: there is no easy way to get over a break up. And moving on is your only
option.

How to carry on
Heartache is a phase we all go through. Our heart breaks when a relative die. Our heart breaks when our pet runs away. It is a typical emotion all humans go through and feel.

Break up in a relationship is no different than losing a family through death. You also deal with a permanent loss with break ups. It can be very lonely and depressing. Losing somebody always gives the worst feeling in the world.

Some people could not handle the pain and the loneliness that they resort to committing suicide. Do not ever do that. Your life is too precious to end it because of one person who may not really be the "one".

Moving on from a break up requires a lot of effort, time and thinking. There is no easy way to make the pain go away. So instead, embrace it. Let the pain of losing your lover sink in. If you feel like crying or talking to somebody, do it. Crying and talking about the break up lessens the burden.

Take your time alone reflecting on the relationship. Analyze the reasons why the two of you have called it quits. Do not play the blame game. It is not important whose fault is it. A relationship is a two way street. The two of you are the captains of the ship that lead to a dead end.

If your partner cheated on you, he/ she must want something he/she cannot find in you. But that is not your fault. Your partner should be contented with what you can give. He/She knows what you can and cannot do when you have met.

After a break up
The best way to move on is to start opening yourself to the world. If you have a job, get busy with it. Finally, there's nothing that can distract your focus on your career. You could take opportunities from other cities or other countries. There's nothing more fulfilling than being successful in your profession.

Get a new hobby. Now that you have free time, Attend parties and meet new people. Being active socially can take your mind off your ex.
Getting over a break up was never easy. But the feeling lightens up when you surround yourself with friends and family. And besides, this is the perfect time for you to bond with your loved ones. Catch up with what you've missed and make up for lost time.

**Fearless**


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Confidant(f) .:. Tue, 09 Jul, 2019 - 04:47:31:pm GMT

This goes out to all of the people whose heart have
been broken but have been strong enough to let go.
For the people who have been hurt so badly that they
felt they could never love again, but kept their head up.
For the people that wish loneliness wasn't a part of them, but put up with it anyhow.
For the people that are okay with taking up all of the
room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty.
For the people who wake up in the morning with no
missed calls, but smile anyway.
For the people that have wounds still healing.
For the people that have so much tied to their past
relationship,but break those chains to start fresh.
For the people that want to look back so badly,but focus
on the road ahead.
For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to
call,but keep their dignity intact instead.
For the people that never wanted to let go,but had to.
For the people that still believe in love even after all of
the hurt their heart has endured.
For all the people that gave up not because they were
weak,but because sometimes it's better just to let go.
You will get your happy ending someday. Hang in there
and don't give up. Because all endings are also beginnings.

**Courageous**


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Re: MOVE ON AFTER A HEARTBREAK by: Velisa(f) .:. Thu, 11 Jul, 2019 - 08:46:51:am GMT

DON'T SAY YOU'LL NEVER LOVE AGAIN

You've lost someone you thought was the love of your life and I know you think it will hurt like this forever, but I promise you it doesn't.

I'm not saying you'll suddenly wake up one day and it'll be like it never happened - because it won't and There will always be a loss, there's no if's or but's about that. If you lose an amazing person from your life - that leaves a hole in your heart that nobody else can ever fill and

You can find happiness, you can find other people and things to fill your heart in other places and but the space that belonged to that person will always be empty.

Because human beings are unique and complicated creatures, and when you combine two of them together you get a love that is just as unique and therefore irreplaceable.

So don't try to replace them because you can't and and get out of the mindset that you'll never love anybody as much or that no other relationship will compare to what you've lost.

You don't love people "more' or "less' than each other - you just love them differently. The way you love somebody else will be different yes - but it will not be "more' or "less' or "better' or "worse' and just different and and that's okay.

You will find love again, but it's never going to be the same love and and it's only when you're able to accept that and open yourself to the idea, that you're finally ready to move on and

**Determined**


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