Babe-Fishing/Dating » MISTAKE WE DO DURING FIRST DATE by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Sun, 05 May, 2019 - 02:50:46:pm GMT

One mistake we make when we are just getting to know someone is telling them all about our business, its so wrong.

You know that moment when you're out with a crush and you get talking about your dreams, visions and goals with the intention of getting to know each other better, be careful not to give out Information that should be personal to you alone.

Sometimes we open up too much and tell the other person about all the things we are looking out for in our ideal mate, giving the person the opportunity to mislead us by trying to fit into the qualities of the person we have told them we are looking out for, even when they are not, much to our own disavantage, because Pepsi and shawarmma in a restaurant with A.C will not allow us keep our big mouth shut. We just start talking and talking until we expose all the qualities we are looking for in a partner, and they start play acting.

Let me ask you a question, what is the need of an assessment if the candidate already has the answers to all the questions?

What else do you want to assess if the bro or sis already knows what your taste and speck is? They already have your marking scheme, and the funny thing is you gave it to them in the name of getting to know each other.

If he already knows you are crazy about a brother that takes church seriously, any time you call he will say he is in church, or he just left prayer meeting or that he is escorting his pastor to a missionary journey. Its easy for him to say because he already knows the kind of things you want to hear. You handed him the marking scheme, he didn't even have to work for It, just one bottle of coke and he got to know you even more than he got to tell you about himself. Can you now see why relationships don't last? Because people start pretending to be what and who you have told them you're looking out for, and it doesn't do you any favour at all.

Learn to talk less when you're out on a date with a potential someone, learn to keep your mouth shut.

He doesn't like being in a relationship without sex, but because you told him you don't date guys who want to have sex before marriage he will tell you since he was born he has never liked sex too, just to get you impressed. Then three months after his endurance he will start touching you and demanding for sex, leaving you wondering why he changed. Yes he changed, he changed into something you want him to be in other to win your heart, now he is changing back Into his original self.

I am talking to both sexes here, not the men alone. Have some sense guys, learn to walk in wisdom. She knows you don't like demanding women so she plays along, three months later you start hearing "my hair is due".



**Fearless**


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Re: MISTAKE WE DO DURING FIRST DATE by: Velisa(f) .:. Tue, 21 May, 2019 - 07:05:54:am GMT

Well said, but I think some people won't do such a damn thing by changing into what you want due to what you said.


There are people who are very sincere and will just have to tell you the truth.

They just have to let you know that they don't fit the type of person you are looking.

This could be hard to see. But not too hard as any one thinks. There are sincere people that don't change just to fit in the way you want it.

They will tell you, if you can't endure and take them the way they are, They are just ready to walk off.

Not that they don't love the person but because the person has some quality he or she is looking for in someone that they don't have and they just have to give way for the person to get that person they need.

If the person did not get the type of person he or she needs, they will walk back to that same sincere person. And accept the person the way they are.

Some people might fit your look out. Like they are really what you want but believe me they might not be sincere. They might still have someone else they are hanging out with.

That's just the truth.

So, stop searching for the right partner with all the qualities you are hoping to get. Nobody is perfect.

And mind what you say on your first date with someone.

There is nothing wrong if you keep that guy or lady for friends for sometime before saying yes. Just to know them better.

**Determined**


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Re: MISTAKE WE DO DURING FIRST DATE by: Piwizo(m) .:. Sat, 25 May, 2019 - 09:46:58:pm GMT

The reason why many people make mistake during their first date is because they are too anxious and overly excited about the prospect of being on an outing with the person they are interested in, and sometimes they want to be perfect but what they fail to understand is in their quest for perfection, they make mistakes that might cost them dearly.


Some people become so free that they are like over the partner and when the partner sees that this person is so anxious, he or she capitalizes on it and use it against you. So be wise especially the ladies, because they tend to suffer more heart break in relationships due to the lies that guys tell them. On your first date with a total stranger, don't tell a guy your weaknesses, just let the conversation be on a lighter note, and be observant, don't also demand too much from the guy in that outing, some girls will go out on a date for the first time and want to eat everything.

Another thing is you need to have the right attitude, don't talk to him anyhow, humility is very key, don't start boasting that, he should be happy you decided to go on a date with him and all that, as if you are some celebrity, that turn people off a lot.

That's you presenting yourself in a wrong way because the guy will have a bad impression about you, it makes him think you are hungry. Then one thing you shouldn't do in your first date is to begin to list the amount of relationship you have been in, and why it didn't work, that is not the best way to get a partner, it makes a guy feel you are desperate and some might even feel you have been used lot of times!!!

Your conversation on a first date should be spontaneous, talk matured and act different, let it be a friendly chat, don't bring a thousand and one question, and never ask the guy for transport fare as a lady but if he gives you, you can accept it, the reason i said you shouldn't ask him for transport fare going home is because he might be also watching you and analyzing you, so you need to be wise, moreover its a first date and you hope for them to be many more.

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Re: MISTAKE WE DO DURING FIRST DATE by: Obinnaoguji(m) .:. Wed, 05 Jun, 2019 - 12:30:38:pm GMT

Awesome, but the truth of the matter is that your first date ought to be interesting. Don't make it otherwise by closing your mouth and making the whole experience look boring. You must talk, but relevantly. Focus on the next party not on you or what you want in a man or woman.


Admire and try to know more about the next party not through questions and answers but through body language and generally how the party responds to some things you say and do. This is not the time to start interviewing. Not at all. It must be conversational.

With this as you pay attention you will get to know him or her well. Remember that you won't totally know someone after your first date, but this helps at least to a great extent.

**Obinna Oguji**


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Re: MISTAKE WE DO DURING FIRST DATE by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Thu, 13 Jun, 2019 - 07:49:31:am GMT


@obinnaoguji: It's true you need to talk to keep the outing interesting. But you just have to mind what you say.


Not telling the person the kind of man or woman you've loved to marry.

You can talk about better things....
like your interest and hobbies
talk about your best game
your best favourite food
why you so much like that particular food or game
talk about your favorite colour and song
Talk about what you love to have as a gift. It could be a flower and talk about the reasons you love flowers.

Just say some lovely things like...

You mustn't tell someone about your business and earning. It's bad.

And most times, only talk when you are asked.

So, to keep the conversation flowing, you can ask.

What's your best food?
What's your favorite game and why do you love it?
What is your favorite song and why do you love it?
What is your favorite place and why do you love going there?
And before he answers all this... Time will have gone far.

Just avoid family and business... Avoid saying your secret... Avoid saying your worst.

**God's light**


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