Babe-Fishing/Dating » MISCONCEPTION ABOUT LOVE by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Sun, 05 May, 2019 - 02:53:46:pm GMT
It is true that love grows gradually, BUT it grows only where it is watered.
Some people go into relationships believing that with time they will get to love the person they are with. Some people get married with the confidence that they will get to understand and love each other later in marriage. Most times the pressure is from our parents and family that care about us. Talking about
"Don't worry, Michael is a nice man, you will learn to love him as you move on."
"Sarah is a good woman, you may not love her now but you will learn to love her later when you're married."
And yes it is true, they are not wrong at all. Even for two people who love each other crazy from the start of the relationship we still need to keep growing our love for each other as we move on. It doesn't start and end after I DO. we have to keep learning new things and new ways to keep falling and falling and learning and growing the love we have.
But love has to be watered. There is no magic moment anywhere inside a relationship or marriage that will make you fall deeply in love with that person just like that. It doesn't work that way. Let me show you how the science of falling in love works
In other for anything to grow, first there must be a SEED, and they must be a committed GARDENER.
Not just one committed gardener. But two
The one you are hoping to fall in love with, and the one that is already In love with you.
Then the seed that needs to be planted and consistently watered? - Is PEACE!
Being at peace means you are comfortable with the person and the qualities they possess. Being at peace means that even though you are not in love them right now, you cannot say you don't find them attractive. I mean that peace that will make you scream YEEESSSSS when they want to touch you. Being at peace means that you might not be in love with that person but you feel comfortable around them, and they make you happy. Being at peace means you that will be willing to go through what it takes to give falling in love with that person a chance. This means you are willing to be open, welcoming and ready to reciprocate their efforts as you seek to water your relationship with them.
Don't just take "love grows gradually" and run with it. Make sure there is something to grow. Love will not grow where you cannot stand the idea of being with someone. Love will not grow where their touch irritates you. You have to first feel that inner peace on your inside and on every side, that's the seed that will grow into the love you want to build.
Re: MISCONCEPTION ABOUT LOVE by: Velisa(f) .:. Sun, 19 May, 2019 - 06:57:25:am GMT
There are people you might get to love as time goes on, and also there are people you might hate getting into a relationship with.
I know how it is for someone to be asking you for a relationship with you. No matter what, you don't just have to quickly make your decision. You need to know that person and decide if you will love that person or not.
I do feel the best idea is to date someone who loves. But it's never complete when you don't love the person in return.
Though a lot of people agree to that fact of loving someone that loves you and not someone you love.
Well, that's imbalance. Love the person that loves you and you won't be a prey to that person.