Romance » LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Mon, 29 Apr, 2019 - 05:02:00:pm GMT

When it comes to spouses, correction needs an informed approach. For example, a misplaced public correction is more likely to crush and shame than achieve positive growth. It is the same with the tone of correction, the volume of correction and the actual words said.

A correction screamed will gradually grow resistance or fear in the other. A harsh tone is eventually going to be bounced "back to sender", damning the consequences.

With many of us though, correction is a cocktail of harsh tones and brutally crushing words screamed publicly and privately.

This is destructive.


**Fearless**


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Re: LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 06:21:49:pm GMT

And one thing is that...

Some spouse crush or shout at their partner at the presence of their children. I consider this very wrong.

Don't overturn the position of a spouse in front of your child(ren). Instead, call the spouse behind and make the correction there, then let the spouse correct the position with the child(ren).

Children are intelligent and pick things around them. It is easy for their young minds to see one spouse as unkind or always wrong, which can then go on to form a bad foundation for dislike for them.

And also among the public. Know where you scold your partner.



**Graced **


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Re: LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Velisa(f) .:. Sat, 18 May, 2019 - 08:33:23:am GMT

It is totally wrong when you correct your partner not calmly but crushing them in the public.


I could recall a day, I was walking down the street and I saw a guy beating his girlfriend with a belt from the market down the street. It was crazy somehow and I demanded to know the reason why he is beating his girlfriend along the street from the market. And I felt the guy was sick somehow. Cause if he was well, he won't do such a thing.

I was told the girl did something wrong. But it shouldn't be up to that extent. I felt bad for her.

When you scream at your partner in the public or you crush them in the public, it brings disgrace to you and not that partner. Cause everyone will be wondering if you are sick. It's absolutely abnormal to do that in the public.

Get home first, before you calmly correct your partner and it shouldn't be in the presence of your children.

**Determined**


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Re: LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Obinnaoguji(m) .:. Thu, 30 May, 2019 - 08:31:09:am GMT

Well articulated. How and when we do things are not important, they help us hold opportunities when need be.


Most times we forget that the way we treat a part of our lives is virtually the same way we treat other parts of our lives. We are a whole being that thrive on mindset and believes. These mindset and believes act as the filter when we want to make both minor and major life decisions.

If you don't know how to accept and receive corrections objectively, you may not likely know how to give such. Correction must be done constructively to achieve its purpose. It must be done at the right time. It must also be done at the right place. Every human is rational to know when he has given or is being giving the right correction. Do we have deaf ears? We do. But that is not your responsibility to make him take proper action.

Not every time you feel like talking will you talk. Ask yourself, what mood is this guy in? Is he at the right place to be talked to? If not, can I ask for his excuse to the right place for me to talk to him? These questions already set you to the right journey towards actualising your goal.

Generally, some people may resent to your correction, but I bet you they will munch on it in their solitude. With your work done, it's no longer your business whether or not they have done that which they need get done to better their lives.

For the sake of our own learning we may as well consider their feedback and perspective on the subject matter we considering.

**Obinna Oguji**


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Re: LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Thu, 13 Jun, 2019 - 09:52:26:am GMT


@Velisa: "I could recall a day, I was walking down the street and I saw a guy beating his girlfriend with a belt from the market down the street. It was crazy somehow and I demanded to know the reason why he is beating his girlfriend along the street from the market. And I felt the guy was sick somehow. Cause if he was well, he won't do such a thing."


Am still yet to know why some ladies allow love to blind their eyes.
A guy you are not married to, can beat you endlessly like this in the public but you still stuck your head to him.

This are part of the reason why you see fighting in marriages. Husbands mercilessly beating their wives.

When you have noticed the type of person he was while you both are still dating, you can't leave him, you stay there like as if a rope was tied to your neck, that if you move an inch, you will die.

I hope our ladies will not die in ignorance.

**God's light**


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Re: LEARN HOW TO CORRECT YOUR PARTNER RIGHTLY NOT CRUSHING THEM by: Divinkeme1(m) .:. Thu, 13 Jun, 2019 - 07:27:46:pm GMT

Its indeed a topic wort discussing because some persons have actually learnt an act of using cutting and demeaning words on their friends not to talk of their spouses. Most persons forget the fact that if u use abusive words on some one outside especially, u are dealing with the core of their existence. U are dealing with the lace that makes the person up. So we all as women and men should learn to correct our loved once right especially in public and not the other way round.
**Blessed by God**


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