Religion » It"s not always about you! by: Tony4mega(m) .:. Mon, 17 Feb, 2020 - 10:50:48:pm GMT
Yes.... You matter! Your life matters! Your assignment matters! Your fulfillment matters! Your marriage matters! Your opinion matters! Etc. You truly matter o o oh! Believe me, I continually try to make your matter to matter seriously! "Anything wey matter to you na serious matter to me - even if the matter na small matter for my side before-before, but because na your matter, the matter don grow"! You matter, my dear!
"But bros.... (my husband, my wife, my boss, my bishop, my neighbor etc).... no be only you matter too! Me I try matter small, kwanu!" Maybe oh, you matter more than me, but I still matter! I matter to God! I matter to my family! I matter to my friends! I matter to those my life has touched! I matter to the small society "wey I de flow de glow!" And most importantly, I matter to me!
So, if in my personal scale of "mattering', sometimes "me matters come before thee matters", please don't crucify me! It's not really selfishness! It is my small way of placing value on my own life & destiny purpose! No! No! No! I am not challenging your "mattering' more, I am only saying, please consider me too! "I just de beg say make you shift small make I siddon even drivers de allow some passenger for front seat!"
I know it is NOT always easy to allow other people to matter their matter where you matter & shine their shine where you're shining! It is hard for me too! But I am fighting it seriously! That's why anytime that "demon' called narcissus starts tugging at my heart, I remind myself of this my checklist, *"The characteristics of the self absorbed"*
-i- always thinking I am superior & my issue matters most!
-ii- not having a real concern for others less fortunate than myself!
-iii- trying to devalue others in order to show how powerful I can be!
-iv- hiding my true insecurities & challenges under my successes!
-v- using my surface friendships as a tool only to advance myself!
-vi- imposing my views on others without considering their options!
-vii- controlling everything & never allowing anyone be their true selves around me!
Hmmm.... I have to fight this everyday! And I encourage you to fight it too! This journey to be more like Christ is not easy! But, the Holy Spirit will help us!
"Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil cleave to that which is good.
"Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love in honour preferring one another" - Rom 12:9-10
*I pray that this week, whatever good thing you pursue will be established for you in Jesus Christ name! I also pray for you that in your blessing, you will be a true, compassionate blessing to others!*
Much Love
Jesus Exceeds Expectations!
**Let love lead**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Flochords(f) .:. Fri, 10 Jul, 2020 - 03:31:02:pm GMT
Truly, it is not always about us alone, but about people's life that have been attached to us. For example, Jesus came to this world, not just because of himself but because of us, he came to die for our sins, that we have eternal life, so his coming to this earth and his fulfilling purpose is not just about him, but it was about us, our lives was attached to his own, in such a way that if Jesus failed in doing that, we will all be damned at last and we will never be reconciled back to the father. So most times, we think the way we live our lives is just dependent on us alone, but I tell you it is not , there are lives that have been attached to your life. If you fail to fulfil purpose today, then you will not just be failing, you will cause other people to fail too, and if you suceed, you will cause other people to suceed too.
If we all begin to live with this mindset of "It us not always about us, but about other lives that have been attached to our's" then we will begin to live rightly, we will begin to live a life of purpose, a life that will bring about fulfillment and a life that will be a blessing to others around us. Then we will be sure that we are not the cause of other people's (lives that have been attached to our's ) failure only if they decide to fail by themselves.
No man is a lone ranger, you are attached to lives and other lives are attached to yours too, that is why we came into this world through people and people will come out through us too, so always be conscious of this truth so that even if you weren't serious before because of yourself, be serious because of the lives that are attached to your lives already, and they will forever be grateful to you for fulfilling purpose because it is through that they are able to fulfil theirs too.
**christ's own**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Flochords(f) .:. Fri, 10 Jul, 2020 - 03:31:04:pm GMT
Truly, it is not always about us alone, but about people's life that have been attached to us. For example, Jesus came to this world, not just because of himself but because of us, he came to die for our sins, that we have eternal life, so his coming to this earth and his fulfilling purpose is not just about him, but it was about us, our lives was attached to his own, in such a way that if Jesus failed in doing that, we will all be damned at last and we will never be reconciled back to the father. So most times, we think the way we live our lives is just dependent on us alone, but I tell you it is not , there are lives that have been attached to your life. If you fail to fulfil purpose today, then you will not just be failing, you will cause other people to fail too, and if you suceed, you will cause other people to suceed too.
If we all begin to live with this mindset of "It us not always about us, but about other lives that have been attached to our's" then we will begin to live rightly, we will begin to live a life of purpose, a life that will bring about fulfillment and a life that will be a blessing to others around us. Then we will be sure that we are not the cause of other people's (lives that have been attached to our's ) failure only if they decide to fail by themselves.
No man is a lone ranger, you are attached to lives and other lives are attached to yours too, that is why we came into this world through people and people will come out through us too, so always be conscious of this truth so that even if you weren't serious before because of yourself, be serious because of the lives that are attached to your lives already, and they will forever be grateful to you for fulfilling purpose because it is through that they are able to fulfil theirs too.
**christ's own**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Flat(m) .:. Mon, 13 Jul, 2020 - 08:54:48:am GMT
Sincerely, it is not always about you. Like I do say, the best way you can love yourself and you won’t be selfish is to put others into consideration, that is, loving others just as the way you love yourself. When you understand that it’s not always about you, it will allow you monitor your life style, it will allow you watch your daily living, it will allow you understand that a lot of people are somehow connected with you and you are also connected with others. The consciousness of you knowing that it’s not always about you makes you guide your thinking.
Was talking to one of my uncle some days ago and he said something to me while I was discussing some issues, he said, you work for your money alone, but you don’t spend the money alone. I began to ponder on it, families will come seeking for help, siblings will come, friends will come, in-laws are also included even those you serve as mentor for will also come. All will come to us at one point in time to seek for our assistance, so if you now believe it is only you that matters, you might feel reluctant to offer it. But do not forget that we are always at the middle, it is only God that is at the topmost floor, which means that some are definitely below is and some are definitely above us, therefore we need to be of help to this below us and be of help also to those above us.
Also, understand that it’s not always about you makes you act selflessly, and having the interest of others in mind. It does not apply that you don not matter also, in fact you matter than any other thing, but have it mind that as you put the interest of others into consideration, some other people are also putting your matter into consideration. So, always be happy and live with this understanding.
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Re: It"s not always about you! by: Davzee(m) .:. Mon, 13 Jul, 2020 - 01:00:26:pm GMT
Everything is not always about you, for once in your life put someone in else first. The feeling of caring for others is a very good feeling. If you do good for others the people also will do good for you, not only the person. God himself we reward you for your good deeds.
Caring for others instead of yourself is a selfless act, which is a good thing to do. Love your neighbors as yourself.
Love is one of the fruit of the spirit we Christians have to have. God also wants us to love our neighbors as ourselves.
Everything is not always about us, when we notice people around us needs help, you can help them, let us try to help people who needs us.
This is a very very wonderful topic, God bless you.
Thank you.
**No doubt**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: ChukwukaEmmanuel(m) .:. Wed, 15 Jul, 2020 - 06:18:26:am GMT
Yeah our self worth and values should not be understood cause it determine how far we can make it in life and achieve our goals and plans for the future. We should be able to see that we matter in our day to day matters.
But in so doing, we shouldn't neglect the fact that other people are of importance as well. In fact people are so important that you cannot make it in this life without people. So, therefore, we should not just be focused on our personal matters but also yield to the needs of others. This simple act of care can be of great help, if not today maybe tomorrow.
One of the greatest assets one can ever acquire is people. If you can successfully get people to be on your side, there is literally nothing that cannot be achieved. Money, resources, ideas, help e.t.c, all these and more come along when you are able to understand and see the value in other people not just in yourself alone.
This idea of self centredness has robbed many people of blessings, help and progress they are supposed to get in this journey of life. Why? Because we get too focused on things that can benefit us more than making impact in the lives of other people. While grooming our self w orth, we should also tend to see the best in others, not just seeing it but also taking part in helping them achieve destiny. Impact
**Fanzy**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Blackie(f) .:. Wed, 15 Jul, 2020 - 07:34:57:am GMT
For real it isn't always about you alone! Truly you matter, everything about you is important but have you ever wondered that you're only using yourself as an excuse to help other people. A friend comes to you for help, you also don't have much but you have atleast the amount the fellow needs urgently but because of your own selfishness you do not help. Everything isn't always about you, helping others with the little you have won't kill you. Sometimes the people we help might be the gateway to our success but uf we keep using ourselves as excuses, There's a chance you might miss the Opportunity given. Life also revolve around other people and not just us. The way we help the less privileged is as important as the way we help ourselves. Helping others won't cost you your life, it won't devalue you neither will it make you look any less, if anything it makes you a better person than you are. Be also careful of the kind of people you help, some only wants to be helped so they can see the downfall, may we not help the wrong set ofpeople in Jesus name(Amen).
**--realitycheck**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Abosedegrace(f) .:. Mon, 23 Nov, 2020 - 09:38:14:pm GMT
For anyone to be fulfilled in life you must have J.O.Y(JESUS First, OTHERS, YOURSELF). Jesus first because he is the reason for your existence, He paid the price,used His blood for the ransom, so in all we do we should always put God first. Ephesians 2:10. "For we are His workmanship,created in Christ Jesus unto Good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
We are saved to serve, we are to put God first In all we do, He is the pillar that holds our lives, He can kill and can also make alive.
Secondly we are to consider others You need to know it is not always about you, one shouldn't live life in a "me me me just me" way that is selfishness which is not Good. As a leader or a boss check your orders, do some mind check, question yourself "if it were to be me would I be pleased?".
A self centered man will have no one around him because no one will want to associate with a selfish fellow. When you are making a plan among a committee, carry others along, don't state your opinion as being compulsory just because it is convenient for you.
Add value to people's lives, don't turn them down when they come to you, be a channel of blessing to people.
Sow to God's kingdom and into people's lives.it is what you do that will come back to you, your input determines your outcomes.it shouldn't be all about you alone.
Think less of yourself and think more of others.
**Redeemed to reign**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Chamak(f) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 09:43:10:am GMT
This is a very interesting topic and it is a fact that everything shouldn't always be about you alone because there some people that are found of always complaining about themselves and hardly will you hear them talk about other people around them.
Though some times in our lives we are faced with challenges that overwhelm us and in such period of time we are only bothered about ourselves and how we can overcome such problem forgetting that no matter the challenge we are facing at any giving point in time, there will always be someone out there who will be experiencing a bigger challenge.
We should all learn to be our brothers keeper and Care for our neighbours and people around us just the same way we care for ourselves. The world doesn't revolve around you alone and you're not the only one with problem in this life.
Sometimes in life, it takes you helping someone else to help yourself indirectly without knowing and that is why it is good to learn to share your issues with someone sometimes because like the saying goes a problem shared is half solved.
**chamak collections**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Temmylove(f) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 10:43:02:am GMT
Yeah, I concur with you bro, it's not always about me or you. That was why Jesus said we should love our neighbors as ourselves. Loving others should be our habit. We should not always be concern about what we will eat, what we will put on and the money that must always be in our pockets.
I have a friend that hate the idea of you being self centered, we almost separated because of this issue. I am a nice person but I can rate myself that I only think about others then only when I have in abundance. My friend will always question me, what plan do you have for others, it is wrong because it doesn't potray the true of nature of Christ Jesus and we need to because that is one of our assignment here on Earth.
There was a time I was so sold out to the work of God, I hardly get worried about my own stuff but I am always thinking about how to make the work of God in my hand prosper and not to be done in a wrong way.
I was a Sunday school teacher, an interpreter, among the follow up team and a choir member. It wasn't funny for me to do all these and I still have my circular job.
One thing I noticed then was that as I was busy doing the work of God, God was also busy doing all that needs to be done in my life.
Trust me when you think about others, someone somewhere will think about you. Don't forget that the Bible told us the we should not be deceived, God cannot be mocked, whatever a man sows he shall reap.
This morning while praying, I prayed for other people about me andfew minutes after my prayer, I was also called by someone not so close and blessed with prayers. That is just it, there are many blessings attached to being obedient to God by loving others.
I changed my mind set about being self centered and it's been helping, why not do the same and get from over about yourself. Shalom!
**God's will be done**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Nagiano(m) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 10:54:40:am GMT
Even with the last protest that ended last month many of us should have realised that in the race of life it is never about you alone. When the protest initially started we could see how every youths supported each other and we understood that despite the fact the we all have our individual challenges we still needed to come together as one and lend our voice so that the world could hear us and we saw how other countries too around the world supported by also lending their voice.
Sometimes don't just get carried away and feel that the whole world is against you up to the extent that you become blinded and can't even notice that many people out there are going through worse situations than yours but they still put smiles on their faces.
Learn to be your brothers keeper and learn to share your problems so that help can locate you. Also, learn to listen and be observant because sometimes you'll think you have the biggest challenges ever until you get to hear another man's problem.
Life is about everything in existence and every body matters not just you alone. And finally we should learn to never allow our difficulties weigh us down because no matter the situation, there is always a solution.
**Man United for Life**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 11:57:14:am GMT
Oh yes it's not always about you but it's about other people attached to you in one way or the other. We lived in a very large world where we relate with both our families and also with those that are not connected to us by birth so in that kind of world you don't just live for yourself only but you are expected to live for those ones too.
Apart from living for other people there's someone that totally needs us and the person is God. Please don't think you are doing God a Favour by living for him instead you are only doing it for your own benefits. Many of us have become so fond of ourselves that any little talk we start boasting here and there.
It's good to talk about our achievement and success but don't allow it become your lifestyles of living. Don't forget that that thing you are calling a success is just small out of other's people's achievement in life so why not submit under the authority.
Don't just live for yourself but always consider that God created you for a purpose and you can't fulfill this purpose if you start by living for yourself. Maybe you've already started fulfilling out of the purpose and the moment people start commending you, you start feeling your self and start thinking it's your wisdom that's doing it but that's totally wrong and you can move to the next level with that kind of mindset.
Do away with SELF mindset and ask God how you can start living for him and definitely he will show you the way because he said Acknowledge me and I shall direct your path. That's his word and he will surely keep to his world. Stay away from Self but be divinely guided by God
**Always put God first **
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Francis(m) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 02:41:06:pm GMT
Yes, very true. Yourself, your love ones, your friends, family, partners, matters most. When you matter to someone, that is when you will have a matter to worry about. Meeting someone, or having someone in your heart is not by accident, you have been destined meet for a particular reason.
Take him/her as the responsibility you have to carry. Your partner in the journey to success matters.
Your academic, job, matters.
Don't think with selfishness, think about other people that matters in your life.
You are not the only one that matter.
**Francis**
Re: It"s not always about you! by: Flat(m) .:. Tue, 24 Nov, 2020 - 08:37:16:pm GMT
@Flochords:
Hmmm! You see, life is like a tree, the sustainability of the tree is determined by how far the root has gone down the earth, which means that if the root is just appearing on the surface of the earth, it will be easy for it to get destroyed. Same thing applies to our life’s as human, our sustainability in this earth is seriously determined by how well we seriously managed the people that surrounds us. This people represents the roots, if we do not allow a well coordinated relationship with them, it might cause a delay for us at some point. It is a justified fact that human beings are the most difficult creature to manage and so with this understanding, one need to be seriously careful when dealing with them.
Another thing I will want us to understand from this subject is that, it is not all about you does not mean you should go ahead chewing more than you can bear. A lot of people atimes just because they don’t want people to see them as someone selfish, they don’t want the people to see them and call them a wicked being, they don’t want people to see them and call them an heartless person, they then go ahead to do more than they have in capacity. Sincerely, there is no sense in it if after placing others first you begin to grumble about it. Let’s take for instance, I have #1000 with me and that’s what I need, then a friend came around and also in need of that same amount; from here now, I can say am not in the capacity to help because am also in need of it but if I have a higher amount with me, then I can go further. So, this is my own perspective.
Therefore, always be ready to help but ensure you don’t complain, grumble or feel sober after placing others.
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Re: It"s not always about you! by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Wed, 03 Mar, 2021 - 08:19:44:am GMT
We live in a kingdom where self has to die though before we became son’s and daughters’ we all want all for ourselves but the moment we proclaim God has our Lord and personal savior he will start working over us to bring us into perfection.
Many people want all the whole earth to be theirs but unfortunately if you ready to be called a genuine child of God all these things have to go because you can’t carry the burden of self along with God. All of us have different attitudes and temperament which tends to make us behave differently thereby bring up chaos or conflict among the body of Christ.
There are so many things you need to ask God to take away from your life the moment you start walking with him though it is not easy because his plans will have to alter your plans but many are not ready to give it up. Allowing his plans to alert our plans will not show up immediately but it will be a gradual process so open your heart to God so that he be able to walk perfectly on you.
Furthermore, always remember that God didn’t created you for you only instead he created you for people and one of our purpose is to love God and also love people around us, so always remember that what you have is not for you only but it is meant for all people around you also so don’t be a self person instead learn to give to others too.
Finally, always remember that it’s not always about you but learn to think about others too. Looking at our master Jesus we will realize that his main purpose for coming to this world is for us to be restored, so he sacrificed myself just to make sure that we human don’t perish. Make sure you learn from him and always pray to God to take away the spirit of self.
**Always put God first **