Babe-Fishing/Dating » Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 04:55:52:pm GMT

A guy took a lady out for a date and the lady was expecting a romantic date with food and candle lights.

While they were having fun the came up with some questions because he wanted to know more about the lady.
Then he asked the girl where she sees herself in the next five years? The lady was so upset with the question because she felt they were only supposed to know each other better since it was their first date.
The lady asked the guy if it was a date or an interview section and then she walked out on the guy.
The question is: is that actually a wrong question to ask a lady on your first date with her? Because the lady in question felt insulted with the question...


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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Abbie@21(f) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 05:26:59:pm GMT

I don't see anything wrong with asking the lady such questions of you see the relationship going somewhere, except you have doubts as to your relationship or trust issues, and to her, if it is what it is think it is, she should see herself already married to you with kids all over the place, of it is career wise her elevation should definitely be with you, because you are the one she loves unless she has a second thought or is planning on a break up somewhere along the way.
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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Adegboyelove(m) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 06:33:35:pm GMT

Although, to many it may be right and good but to may it seems wrong at that very moment because some talked can be proposed till further notice,it looks somehow asking someone that question and it may be irritating to the person at the first instance.

Although am not saying that an individual cannot ask such a question or the individual should consider it and another time to pass before such question is posed.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Nagiano(m) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 07:03:26:pm GMT

It is not wrong to ask a lady such question but on a first date, I don't think it is necessary. What the guy in this write up did was right the only issue was that the question came too early in other words, the guy asked the right question but at the wrong time.


But even if the guy was too quick to come up with such a question, it is not enough reason for the lady to be rude to him by walking out on the date because that in itself can be used to judge her character. Many might think that she's a disrespectful lady for walking out just like that.

The guy's question should have made the lady understand that he wants a serious relationship and not just a fling or to have fun with her and dump her late.
For a guy to ask such question, he wanted to see if there can actually be a future for him and the lady.

At least the guy even said something during the date because some guys don't even have a clue of what to say at all on their first date.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Jerrythegifted(m) .:. Wed, 30 Sep, 2020 - 07:39:34:pm GMT

To me, asking a girl where she sees herself in the next five years on a first date is not wrong.But I suggest you get to know her better It makes you and her to be sure and sincere about the answer.




To me, there's nothing bad in asking her where she going to see herself in the next five years?To be honest if she's really into you?Her reply will be"I want to see myself with you married in our own house and with kids".


If she's a studious type she'll probably say "I want to see myself in the university doing my masters".It all depends on how your girl takes it.



She might have dreams of going to places or visiting her dream city.Even asking her future questions like that will make her see a future with you.


But don't be too curious about her future,just live in the present and make memories,you know tommorow is not promised to anyone.


I once asked my girl a question similar to the question you asked.She talked about a future with me and she also talked about us visiting different countries,mesuems and having fun.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Omotayodavid(m) .:. Thu, 01 Oct, 2020 - 05:30:17:am GMT

That isn't a right kind kind of question to be asked on a first date, it is totally a wrong timing but a right question. A date should be about familiarising yourself with a lady, asking her interesting questions. You don't have to do too much, it's about making her feel comfortable with your words and presence. Asking a lady about where she sees herself in the next few years can be done afterwards, not on a first date.
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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Thu, 01 Oct, 2020 - 06:20:51:am GMT

I don't see anything wrong with that the question the guy asked because if u look at the question critically you'll realise that the guy has an internation of spending the rest of his life with her.

He needs to be sure that this lady in question is a wife material, he needs to be sure if the lady has what it takes to make a good home, he needs to be that this lady has vision before he makes the move.
Instead of answering the question she felt insulted and walked out on the guy. Which shows that she lacks manners, she lacks courtesy and she's very rude.
It's very obvious that she's mentally immmatured and she lacks vision and this shows that she's a true definition of a liability. It shows thatt if the guy eventually gets married to her, she has nothing to offer in the relationship aside giving birth to kids.
The dumbest she did was to go on social media to publicise her stupidity rather than keep it to herself. I read the news on a particular blog as well and I realized that it was the lady that published the news. Although later on the guy in question later published a video addressing the public of his intentions.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: KestyBrown(m) .:. Thu, 01 Oct, 2020 - 07:43:13:am GMT

People have their various perceptions and opinions towards dating and relationships. Here, I will give my humble opinion regards the topic, if it is right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her?

Now, to some it might not be right, as it is just to a first date, getting to know each other at first instance, just to be eating and doing other romantic things.
But, for a man to ask such questions means he really wants to know what the lady is after, if she is just after his wealth, or she wouldn't have the means to cater (meet the financial needs) all by herself. In my humble opinion, the man is not wrong at all, the man might be a person into serious relationships and wants to know who he wants to spend the rest of his life with, someone who can be independent as a woman, financially yet Submissive.
This topic also reminds me of a video that I saw some weeks ago, Online. Somewhat similar situation and question the man asked the lady.
My take away from the talk between the man and the woman is that, the man wanted a woman who can take care of his children when they both grow old, someone who is financially independent to spend on their children while he and maybe his proposed wife will spend a date in the Bahamas, while his children are enjoying financially, not suffering. My also opinion regards this, is that maybe both of them might not be right for each other, might not be compatible, else on a normal ground a lady is expected to respond responsibly to the question asked by the man, by going straightforward to answering a well learned and understable question, because the woman in question returned same questions to the man and stood up and left the restaurant where the date was, which is not right. It shows the lady might not even have a planned future yet, she might just be after the fun or benefits of dating.
Now the question is, as a man or woman are you ready for dating? Or you are dating for the Benefits or Fun? You don't use someone's emotions or seriousness for a relationship for Fun.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Blackie(f) .:. Mon, 26 Oct, 2020 - 04:15:36:pm GMT

God it feels so good to be back!!!

Back to the question, you asked if it's right to ask a lady where she sees herself in 5 years on the first date with her? Normally it's sort of right but then it depends on the scenario, seeing as it's the first date, i don't really think its necessary because some girls get upset easily by this kind of question, it makes them feel uncomfortable. It becomes of an interview than a date but if you guys are both so comfortable with each other , there's no problem in asking such question. That question is just to know if the girl is really prepared for the future, even without going on date or whatsoever I ask myself that question every now and then. I don't find it wrong if you're comfortable with each other but if the girl is a kind of person that gets upset or uncomfortable easily, don't bother asking.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Micheal(m) .:. Fri, 30 Oct, 2020 - 12:47:02:pm GMT

.....I don't see anything wrong in asking your partner that question.....in this life as a whole if you guys didn't get to know your plans for eachother on your future you guys aren't meant to be together .... secondly if you or your partner doesn't see herself or himself in a better place I mean a better place you get, please drop that person he doesn't have anything to offer you...... There is this scenario that happens some years back now...there I tho guy and a lady just met each other and they went on a date and this question comes up ....I mean the lady asked the guy this same question that goes like tho where did you see yourself in the next few years and the guy said he saw himself getting himself a better place like a new house and all materials things and the guy asked the lady Same question guess what happens the girl didn't say anything in particular I me a where he see herself in the next 5years to shock she doesn't even know what it means
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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Sharpminds(f) .:. Fri, 30 Oct, 2020 - 10:12:08:pm GMT

Of course it's a good question, it's part of the getting to know the lady. Some ladies are so dumb this days that all I see are beauties without brains, for crying out loud what is suppose to upset a girl in that question.

Real men don't waste time instead they are goal getters.
Like minds will always attct like minds, she was not just as purpose driven like him.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Flat(m) .:. Sat, 31 Oct, 2020 - 04:12:01:pm GMT

Hmmm! Actually, there are some certain things that should not be done when you meet someone for the first time, most especially when meeting a lady for the first time. Your first date with a lady is not a deep interrogation time to begin to question everything about her life. It is a different ball game when you guys have known eachother before but just going out for the first time. If that is the case, asking a question like that might not be wrong but that also can be determined on the kind of communication you both had before the date. Part of things that is good for us is to be observant because of the fact that humans are different and our focus are different. It is not everybody that so much lay emphasis on what do I want to be in the next 3years or 5years in the sense that not every lady trouble themselves about the future. Note, that does not mean they are not planning for their future but it shows that they do not want to run more than their destiny or taking the wrong direction just to ensure that those future plans comes to pass.
So, to me, I would say the guy is so eager to know the lady but that procedure spoilt it. Now, for you to ask that kind of a question it then means you must have lay down some questions as the foundation, then you build that on it. For instance, you might be talking about her academics if she is still a student, or the trade or work is learning if she is an apprentice. So, when you place talks like this first, I have 100% assurance that she won't react to it negatively. Therefore, it is important for us to first reason out the question before we then ask. So, going on a first date is good but ensuring it ends well is much more better.


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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: TYMartins(f) .:. Sun, 01 Nov, 2020 - 03:19:31:am GMT

Why would you ask such on a first date when it's not an interview for an employment opportunity. You are supposed to get to know each other or just have random interesting conversation. That's why some people are still single, acting all serious during dates. Please, who you epp. Dates ought to be fun. What if either of you is still finding themselves...still growing your career or even unsure of what to do, you put her under pressure to impress you on the first date and when she slacks, if the date ends up being successful, you act like she has been pretending all the way.



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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Princess(f) .:. Fri, 20 Nov, 2020 - 06:05:43:am GMT

Honestly, there is no wrong done when that question is asked at any point. It is a very important question that every individual should be able to answer. There's absolutely no reason for the lady in the story above to be annoyed. In fact, I feel the whole being annoyed show was displayed because she did not have an answer to that question. If the details of where you see yourself five years from now are really personal or you do not feel comfortable sharing it with the person you just met, you could use a general sentence like "I see myself rising and being fulfilled", then, you change the topic.

It is obvious the guy wants to know if the person he is dating has plans for the future and might want to think of ways to support her dreams.

Most times, some conversation with certain people can be life changing. If she doesn't have any idea of where she would want to be (which is rare), she could get inspiration from the conversation to aim for more in life.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Francis(m) .:. Fri, 20 Nov, 2020 - 08:21:39:pm GMT

Asking such question from a lady you are going out with is not wrong at all, it's a sign that you really want to know her the more or probably marry her. It means you have interest in her, not just ordinary dating. But I don't know the reason why she has to behave that way, she should be happy instead.
Well, not all women are moved by such question, but most of them are.
Maybe she don't want serious relationship like that, just a romantic one. All girls are not the same, some don't get time for serious guys.
Nevertheless,the question is not wrong to ask.

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Jummy(f) .:. Sat, 21 Nov, 2020 - 06:44:59:am GMT

Well, I think it's Necessary and also not necessary implying that he asked that question on their first date and also it's Necessary because the man in question is straightforward and wants to know the type of lady he wants to get in with, he wants to know her plan, her dreams and so on he might even want to help her with achieving her dreams.

I would really be loved to ask where I see myself in five years but sadly none has asked me that.....lol

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   Re: Is it right to ask a lady questions like where she sees herself in the next five years on your first date with her? by: Victoria(f) .:. Mon, 30 Nov, 2020 - 12:50:00:am GMT

I don't see anything wrong in a guy asking me where I see myself in five years the on the first date. I think the guy is actually actually a very sensible and important question. He doesn't want to be saddled with a burden so he needs to know right from the start where you lie and what you think before he delves deeper into any form of relationship. He's basically cutting his losses and being smart.
If I was smart enough to think of that kind of question, honestly I would ask too. I would want to know if the girl has plans for her life or not. I cannot be with someone who doesn't have a future. I get that most times, the future is bleak and unpredictable but it is always good to have a plan. Even if it may be a tad unreasonable or unrealistic, at least you need to have a semblance of a plan. There's this saying that goes "He who fails to plan, plans to fail." Obviously, if you don't see yourself anywhere in the next five years that means you don't have a plan and without a plan, there's obvious failure in sight and honestly, I don't want to be a part of a failing team. If I'm going to go long term with someone, I'm in it to win. I've got to be with a winner in order to win and not a loser.
I wonder why anyone would feel offended by that type of question. It's not like the guy is asking you to give him a play by play of your life plans. It's not like he wants to steal your plans either and for the sake of that which is holy, he is not asking to get into your pants. He only wants to see if you have a plan for your life. Any guy that see it fit to ask that kind of question deserves an applause because he's after all the right things.

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