Culture » IS KEEPING YOUR VIRGINITY TILL MARRIAGE STILL WORTH IT ? by: Obajichi(f) .:. Mon, 20 Feb, 2023 - 05:14:45:pm GMT
Her reason for such advice was the long years of delay couples are now experiencing in childbirth.
Of course her post attracted lots of reactions.
In the past , it was and still is to an extent , in our culture for single ladies to get married as virgins.
This culture is fizzling out probably much to our detriment .
Research has it that 15 Percent of Nigerian youth lose their virginity before age 15 according to the National Agency for the Control of Aids - NACA.
More young Nigerians are now engaging in sex much earlier and sometimes when you voice out or try talking them out of it , they reply by asking : Na who virginity hepp?
This means in proper English : Who has virginity helped?
This then means that many people do not regard that special part of our culture which preserves our sexual purity and promotes sexual morality.
When one preaches about virginity , they look at you as one who is from the dark ages and doesn't know ' what's up'.
Virginity, for ladies then, was a thing of pride and honour.
In fact, it was even shameful to a family if their daughter wasn't discovered on her wedding night to be a virgin upon consumation of the marriage.
These days, it is a free gift for whoever comes first.
How sad!
A lot who have tasted of the forbidden fruit before marriage are even proud to tell their mates that they have tasted the ' forbidden fruit'. They brag about it and flaunt it as an achievement.
Many are willing to give it at no price at all. Not because they were put under pressure by Poverty or bad company but because they willingly opted for it.
Many of them even put forth the argument that they know of people who got married as virgins yet they are still experiencing delays in childbirth.
They forget that there are testimonies attached to keeping ones virginity as well.
If youths are reacting this way to sexual morality, then is it still worth it for one to keep his or her virginity?
**I love being me.**
Re: IS KEEPING YOUR VIRGINITY TILL MARRIAGE STILL WORTH IT ? by: SamuelKingsley93(m) .:. Thu, 23 Feb, 2023 - 09:03:23:pm GMT
To Keep one's virginity until marriage is a personal decision that depends on one's beliefs, and cultural background. Some people choose to remain sexually abstinent until marriage for religious, moral, or personal reasons especially In Nigeria. while others do not place the same emphasis on virginity and are willing to lose their virginity for money or for the fun of it.
Keeping your virginity comes with potential benefits such as reducing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), pregnancy outside of marriage, and emotional distress that may arise from casual sexual encounters. Additionally, some people may feel that waiting until marriage to have sex can strengthen the emotional and physical bond between partners.
So is virginity still worth it? I don't really know. They are both merits and demerits of them both. But we have more merit of keeping our virginity than losing it.
**Samuel Kingsley**
Re: IS KEEPING YOUR VIRGINITY TILL MARRIAGE STILL WORTH IT ? by: RobertGrant(m) .:. Fri, 24 Feb, 2023 - 02:09:52:pm GMT
Hmm, to me what I will say is that back then this was one of the priority for a woman but nw it looka as if that law it's no longer there, but there are some men that is still looking for such women. So I will say keeping ur virginity it still worth it, because you don't know or you can't tell hw tomorrow will be or look like. So it still worth it.
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Re: IS KEEPING YOUR VIRGINITY TILL MARRIAGE STILL WORTH IT ? by: Wonders(f) .:. Thu, 02 Mar, 2023 - 09:04:35:am GMT
The advancement in everything has indeed caused more harm than good. The movies they are producing nowadays are not even helping matters.
To be honest, it's not all about keeping virginity because we have young girls that are victims of rape and sexual assault. We can't talk to them about keeping their virginity.
So it's more about being pure till marriage. It's about fleeing from fornication which has become a thing of the past now. As I mentioned earlier, the movies they are producing nowadays are not helping matters.
A guy will tell you he loves you only for him to let you know that for you guys to be in a relationship. You must consent to have sex.
This is because he's being exposed to having sex a long time ago, so it's not something he can abstain from again. How sad!
To me, it is worth it, because you won't only be remaining pure, you will be honoring your body. You will be obeying God's command about fornication. So it's worth it 100%.
**Wonders**