I saw on facebook how a woman was beaten by her husband after she checked the partners phone and saw a dirty chat with another lady and being angry, she confronted the him, though she claim she did not do the man anything. She said the man beat her up and put some marks on her body after the confrontation. She later asked the followers to advice her if she should remain in the marriage or just find her way out of the marriage.
I don't know about everyone but let us think about it and drop our comments.
Key points about this:
1. Why check the phone except you don't trust your partner?
2. Will checking the phone help the relationship?
3. Is the man right to draw his hands against his wife because of mere confrontation?
4. Should checking of phones be permitted in marriages?
Please drop your thoughts
It depends on the way you both understand it, going through your partner phone is nothing .
Since you lovec him or her you can go through his phone , a wife can say my dear husband let me see your phone so I see no problem in that.
But in Africa we see everything as abnormal it depends on the understanding you have with your partner.
First things first, there's no justification for the man beating the wife irrespective of what she has done.
But sincerely speaking going through your partner's phone is something I don't encourage at all...
You must learn to respect each other's privacy...
Relationships should be built in love trust and communication.. if you trust ur partner, you'll not spend your unnecessary time going through their phones...
Going through your partner's phone is not idea for any relationship, it might even problems in the relationship. The only time I feel it's advisable you go through their phones is when you been noticing some suspicious movement or attitude from him or her..
I also don't like that habit going through your partner phone is not good no someone should learn how to be calm sometimes.
I you won't to take his phone or her phone take excuse and take it , that will be better instead of looking for things that can cause issues.
There are things you will see on your partner phone that you might not like so it is better you stay back from it .
@Olatoke:. Don't look what is not missing so that what is not missing will not look for you....
There’s nothing wrong with checking your partner’s phone, but this depends on how well you relate to your partner. As a lady and as a guy, there’s nothing wrong with going through each other’s phone because if you claim to love each other, it’s not a big deal.
Relationships are an adventure that needs mature minds to unravel each step in it. Many relationships are not working today because of the wrong knowledge that people bring in - many just got engaged with knowing the verifiable facts about what it entails.
Over the years, movies have always painted a rosy relationship, and this has got into some people that they’ve refused to see that relationship needs two matured minds to make it work. The first 3 months can be rosy and all the butterflies are still flying, but there are certain times where it seems as if all butterflies flying in your belly have died.
Having a full understanding of your partner will determine whether to check his or her phone. What work for others might not work you - find your pattern and stick to it.
**Always put God first **
Why go though your partners phone at all? what will the person be looking for? if your partner checks your gallery, that is ok. but what is a partner looking for in messages and chats that the sending didn't send to you?
If relationship is fine and still pushing on even with little hiccups, don't dig out unknown well because you might just find what you don't wish for
Oluwatomisin. You are right there is nothing wrong going through your partner phone.
The reason why men don't allow there girl to check there phone is because men use to cheat on ladies.
If you love someone and you claim the person is your partner then he or she supposed to have access to your phone .
@Iyan😍 nice one
**Don't be a good student and a bad teacher.**
@Iyan😍. The fact that you are married to your spouse doesn't give you the right to access his phone when you like....
It's his privacy and you should respect that...
First of all, the man has no reason whatsoever to beat the wife. He has no justification for his reactions.
Secondly, why check people's phones? To me, I believe it's someone who has insecurity issues or a gossiper that goes about trying to check other people's phones. I don't support anyone checking out my phone behind my back and I don't do that either.
In this situation, it is not only about people in love, some people just go about checking their friend's and loved ones' phones because they are either insecure or gossipers.
It's wrong to be checking people's phones behind their back, it doesn't matter if it's your partner or daughter or friend or parent's phone. It's wrong to do that to anyone.
Then, again and again, the man beating his wife because of that isn't the right way to handle the situation.
@Vickybrown: so you are telling me that I did not have right to my husband phone capital no I have access to it my brother.
In the first place what his he keeping on his phone that he did not won't me to see , alright if it was the wife that keep phone form the husband people will say the wife does not have respect or something , but if it was the husband that keep phone from the wife then they will say the husband is the head of the house so he can check his wife phone.
If you don't have any thing hidden on your phone you won't be keeping it away from your wife.
@Wonders: well said I totally agree with you on that....
@Iyan😍 You must learn to respect your husband's privacy irrespective of the fact that he's your husband.
@Taofeek: that is good brother one should learn how to respect each other, if you are looking for his or her phone you may see things you don't won't to see so stay out of his phone or her phone .
It's a matter of understanding its nothing much at all .
Well I feel the only time you can try your partner's phone is if u've been observing any suspicious movement. Well that's enough reason for you to check his or her phone. But anything aside that is not advisable at all....