Babe-Fishing/Dating » IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Velisa(f) .:. Mon, 18 Feb, 2019 - 01:37:07:pm GMT

I found that many relationships is either the guy is a jealous type or the lady. My question is, is it right for jealousy to be in relationship? Because I know that love should not carry jealousy cause love never jealous. Why do we then see cases of jealousy in relationships whereby love is been proclaimed? Why is there jealousy if we truly love ourselves. Then why are we jealous? Are we supposed to be jealous? Does it means a jealous partner does not love you? There was a time I felt it's because the person so much loves you and won't want to loose you to anyone. But lately I begin to feel love does not jealous. I want to hear every other persons opinion of what you think about this. I need clarity on this. And is searching through your partner phone a sign of jealousy? Cause I knew I've done that before. And within me I never see it as jealousy but I felt there was something he was doing secretly. I felt no trust to be sincere. I felt he has some babes and maybe he just want to deceive me. But now I want to know if it's a sign of jealousy. Though I was never jealous. I only want to make sure he was not deceiving me cause we met not long. I had a similar experience when I went out with my girlfriend to get fiance place. As we were chatting, he took the lady's phone and was about scrolling through it but she noticed and collected the phone saying she knows he wants to search his phone. And there are some situations whereby if a lady is away, the guy will start asking questions like what are you doing? Who are you with? What are you doing there? Can I call you on video call let me see where you are? And lot more like that, like suspecting the lady. Please are all this right in a relationship? Are they supposed to be? Or we are supposed to be professing love to each others.

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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Gentleman1(m) .:. Mon, 18 Feb, 2019 - 03:16:06:pm GMT

first of all let me just categorically tell you that you are very wrong.

re"> love goes with love. God does not have love in him, but God IS love and he is a Jealous God. so saying Love does not have jealousy, you are wrong.
re"> Secondly, if you say you are in love with someone, and if you dont care if the person you love is with someone else or hanging out with someone else, then you probably are not in love. it is very normal to be jealous and its very healthy to be jealous. but what is not good is being jealous without self control. a man or woman who loves excessively and does not have self control can be a disaster. lack of self control is what make people do many damage not because of jealousy. when one is peaceful, patient and have good self control, your jealousy will be a blessing to the person you are in love with.
re"> lastly, about what you feel, it could be love, it could be curiosity, it could be insecurity and it could be that you just want to be in control. which is also what affects many men that they think that they are jealous or being in love. some people just want to be in control.
re"> most men fall in the category of wanting to be the controller or dictates where and how she moves her life, they wants to be in control. and some is insecurity, they feel they will loose the person any moment. such is not good. and if you know any man who wants to be in control at all time, run from them. they will never give you breathing space. so, observe.
re"> true jealousy is good. if it goes with self control.

**Bayo**


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 07:12:43:am GMT

I would say being jealous in your relationship is not really bad cause you are just trying to make sure you are both sharing true love. God is love yet he said I am a jealous God. Do not serve any other God except me. So being jealous in your relationship is more or less like wanting to make sure you and your spouse are truthful to each other. Jealousy comes as a result of fear of infidelity. But it is important that you control your jealousy. In a relationship where true love really exist there should be jealousy. Reasons is because you so much love that person and you won't want to loose the person. If you are into relationship with someone who is not bothered of who is always calling you everyday... Then my dear, I guess he does not really love you. Love attract jealous.





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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 01:54:12:pm GMT

It is appropriate for jealousy to exist in a relationship there is nothing wrong with that, someone once said true love is not being with someone you can live with but being with someone you can't live without. Some people don't understand this, as people in a relationship even when you're engaged, dating, married or in any form of relationship at all that doesn't stop people from flaunting around your partner but as someone who is matured you don't allow your jealousy take the better part of you, me as a person will never go through my partners phone, it's my own opinion as long as she is beautiful and I love her so much I also know that there are others outside who are just teasing her and playing with her, some guys take pleasure in doing that, telling ladies all those nice stuffs, so as a guy I don't want to go through my woman phone and see such funny stuffs, sure I will get angry but the truth of the matter is that I already broke my babe trust by going through her phone without her consent, meaning I was hoping to find something and when I actually found what I was looking for I get angry, blow it out of proportion and become jealous and do stuff am not supposed to do, so you should be jealous about your partner but don't make the mistake of loosing your partner as a result of jealousy, as a lady know that they are guys who will always disturb you even though they know you are engaged they are like pests, and as a guy value your woman because we have those I am here for you guys who will jump at any misunderstanding between you and your partner, understanding still remains the bedrock of a relationship, don't allow meaningless things end your relationships.
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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Divinkeme1(m) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 10:23:26:pm GMT

Its not appropriate at all. There is bi need for jealousy to exist in a relationship because were there is jealousy there is always strife and hatred. Two people in a relationship should not jealous them selves except what they share among themselves is not true love. There is a saying that goes that if I love you I will not steal from you. So even if one person is the bread winner and the other do not have something meaningful to bring income to the house for the mean time is not a guarantee for the one with financial infancy to get jealous. Instead of been jealous one should think of what to do to add value to the relationship in his or her own little way. If two people who are in love can work together in peace and harmony the relationship will not only be the best but it will rather be the talk of the town. God will exist I'm it because where there is love God dwells there because bible say God is love. In conclusion I will be very glade to point out that its not ideal for two in a relationship to be jealous. Thanks
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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Piwizo(m) .:. Fri, 22 Feb, 2019 - 07:47:45:am GMT

I don't think so, how will people in love with each other be jealous of one another, it doesn't sound right to me, what are you jealous of about your partner, when you know quite well that what ever belongs to him or her also belongs to you, what brings about jealousy sometimes is insecurity, when a partner tends to be insecure then jealousy will be evident in a relationship, what kind of partner are you, and what time are you involved with, because a jealous partner might blow things out of proportion, a jealous partner can be easily convinced that her partner is cheating on her, as a child growing up i have seen jealousy as a result of selfishness and greed, i agree people will say but our God is a jealous God, but that's God, and you are not God, neither did you make the sacrifice He did, so please it is in your own interest that you don't become jealous in your relationship at all, it is not needed, me tend to get tired of a jealous partner who always look for something which isn't missing, like searching through your partners phone, who does that? only someone who is insecure, please protect and guide your relationship from danger because it is really difficult to be in a good relationship these days, so if you are in one treasure it with your life.
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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Wed, 12 Jun, 2019 - 12:58:24:am GMT

Jealousy in relationship is normal.


But it is said that loves does not work with jealousy.
You are not supposed to be jealous when you love someone.

There is a lady I know very well, if she sees any lady with her fiance, she would get mad at him without even knowing the reason they are together, or who she is to the guy.

It happens repeatedly that she broke up with the guy, even the guy came pleading but she refused to accept him back.

Jealousy in relationship is normal but it is not good. A lot of relationship experience jealousy which causes break up at the end.

Jealousy comes with lack of trust. The reason why I said it isn't good is because it comes with lack of trust, it is when you don't trust your partner that you will be jealous if him or her.

You don't trust the person, so when you see any guy or lady around your partner, you feel they are dating. You feel they have something together doing that involves live. That's just a prove that you don't trust the person at all.

If you want to save your relationship, please take away jealousy and lack of trust.

The devil is everywhere seeking for whom to destroy. Don't let the devil use you as a device to destroy what you built already.

Because once the devil sees that you don't trust your partner, he will enter through there into your relationship and at the end you break up.


**God's light**


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Dynameak(f) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 01:16:28:pm GMT

God is love yeah and he loves us jealousy so much that, it displeases him whenever the isrealites look upon other gods lovingly. We were created in Gods image and we evidently posses what's in God, hence, jealousy can be a spice in a relationship if it's approached from a healthy path but jealousy gets unhealthy when it moves you to harm another either by words or actions. As partners in a relationship, you can jealously love your partner such that they love the Lord and extend His love to you but you shouldn't allow that loving jealousy generate into one that will make you hoard your partner so much that you resrict their interaction with other people in their lives.
**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Dynameak(f) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 01:17:20:pm GMT

God is love yeah and he loves us jealousy so much that, it displeases him whenever the isrealites look upon other gods lovingly. We were created in Gods image and we evidently posses what's in God, hence, jealousy can be a spice in a relationship if it's approached from a healthy path but jealousy gets unhealthy when it moves you to harm another either by words or actions. As partners in a relationship, you can jealously love your partner such that they love the Lord and extend His love to you but you shouldn't allow that loving jealousy generate into one that will make you hoard your partner so much that you resrict their interaction with other people in their lives.
**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Flat(m) .:. Mon, 15 Jun, 2020 - 02:27:30:pm GMT

IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS
This is serious but one thing that is certain is that jealousy is very need in relationship but it should be controlled. In might sounds somehow but let me explain myself. You see it is appropriate for jealousy to exist in relationship because it still shows a signal that both parties still love each other. It will only become a danger when it then becomes uncontrollable. When your partner doesn't put up any act of jealousy, please check and ensure the relationship is still secured. Most especially when your partner is jealous before but later change, hmmmm, that does not mean the change is for good o, but check and see.
Even God himself made us to understand that He is a jealous God, and since he created us in his own image. So, if we are an image of God, that means we are prone to have a trace of jealousy in us.
In conclusion, it is not inappropriate when jealousy exist in a relationship but it becomes inappropriate when it is not controlled. Therefore, learn to control your jealousy, it is very important to the growth of your relationship.


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: ACETONE(m) .:. Tue, 16 Jun, 2020 - 07:34:57:am GMT

As humans, we all feel twinges of jealousy, probably on a daily basis. From envying a friend's killer wardrobe to being jelly that your coworker got that promotion you were eyeing, instances of jealousy are perfectly normal - though not always healthy. The same goes for relationships: It's pointless to pretend that being in a happy relationship is synonymous with the absence of jealousy. But how can you differentiate between healthy and unhealthy jealousy in a relationship?

There's a fine line between jealousy and possessiveness, and it's important to keep yourself in check. If your partner introduces you to an attractive new coworker, it's natural to feel a small twinge of jealousy. But if that meeting causes you to snoop or make hasty accusations about the two of them, that's not healthy in the slightest.

"Jealousy is unhealthy when it leads to mistrust," says Francesca Hogi, a love and life coach based in NYC. "It's one thing to feel jealous, it's another thing to allow it to sabotage your relationship. If you're not trusting your partner, there's a bigger issue there. It's also unhealthy when it leads to self-loathing. Comparison is the enemy of happiness - don't fall victim to it."

That being said, jealousy in relationships can often arise when you're feeling unimportant to your partner, and is indicative of larger issues. Here are seven times your jealousy might be warranted, because they could be red flags that you and your partner aren't on the same page and need to regroup, communicate, and get back on the path to a healthy, mutually supportive relationship.


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Blackie(f) .:. Tue, 16 Jun, 2020 - 11:05:42:pm GMT

Jealousy is an emotion we can't resist. To feel is human. It's appropriate to feel jealous in any relationship but it's mostly important to not let jealousy get the best of you. Jealousy is just like marking a territory. You don't want any guy or girl to come closer to your partner because you're scared they would steal them from you, it's totally normal to be jealous, that's why trust is important in a relationship. If you trust ypur partner completely you won't have any reason to be insecure because you know, whatever happens he'll never leave your side.

Jealousy is just a side effect. No matter what you shouldnt let it overtake you.

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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Flochords(f) .:. Wed, 17 Jun, 2020 - 01:22:30:pm GMT

If you really love a person, you will not want to see another guy or lady hovering around the person too much, it makes you have a sense of jealousy and that is because you really do love the person and you don't ever wish to share the person with anybody. But the jealousy here should not be over expressed through insults, fights or arguments but maturity is really needed here because you will really need to know how to communicate your feelings to your partners in the right way, so it doesn't end in fight or even in a break of relationship. Because if jealousy is not properly managed it can lead to a break in a relationship.
It is appropriate for jealousy to exist in a relationship but it must be adequately managed. Ways of controlling jealousy in your relationship include:
TRUST YOUR PARTNER: You unnecessarily get angry at your partner due to jealousy if you don't trust your partner, because every step that he or she takes begins to make you suspicious and feel insecured. But if you can trust your partner enough, even when you see him or her talking to the opposite sex, you won't start thinking otherwise easily because you trust your partner enough and believe that he or she will not cheat on you no matter what. Even that kind of trust mostly do help/ enable the partner not to want to betray the trust you have for his/her.
LEARN TO GIVE EXCUSES: This will really save of a lot of heart aches, if you try to always find excuses for people when they are not doing what you are expecting from them or when you feel the person is doing something wrong of which you have no clue/ clarity about. For example you met your fiancée with a lady in the restaurant, instead of just shouting and putting up a fight immediately, why not assume firstly that " maybe he came here to eat alone, and he met an old friend and they decided to eat on the same table to gist, this alone can relieve some heart tensions, you can also make an excuse of maybe " They went there for a business meeting" all this will help you not to behave irrationally but to control your jealousy. Because truly, those maybe the reasons why they are there together and its very much possible that there is nothing between them, but if you just react irrationally due to jealousy, you may eventually be the one at fault and lose your relationship(probably) for no specific reason.
COMMUNICATE: The importance of communication cannot be over emphasized in a relationship. Lack of communication gives room for assumption, and assumption can be disastrous in a relationship. When you are not comfortable with your partner sense of relations with the opposite sex, talk it out, tell him about it, listen to his own part and then you guys can amicably think of a way out. Communicate with your partner a lot about everything and jealousy will be correctly controlled in the relationship.
PRAY ABOUT IT: If you have insecurity issues as a lady or as a guy in a relationship due to jealousy that makes you behave irrationally, pray about it to God to help you control it. Because if you don't control it, it will end up controlling you. Pray when you feel your partner is having external relationship aside you. Sometimes, you don't need to waste your energy shouting at your partner, don't always waste your energy because you can actually go to God in prayer and he will take control of the situation for you so far you are a child of God indeed, that is the advantage we have as children of God that others don't have. The heart of kings are subject to God, so is the heart of your partner too. Tell God about it and there will be changes. This last part is mainly for children of God that have given their life to Christ, so if you have not given your life to Christ, you can do that today, because tomorrow might actually be too late and then you will be able to enjoy this benefit from the father too even over your relationships.

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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Victoria(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 02:25:49:pm GMT

Is it appropriate for jealousy to exist in relationships. If you ask me, I feel it's normal to get jealous when you're in a relationship. It's very common and very normal. I would actually be wary of anyone who says that he or she has never been jealous in his or her relationship before. That just means you don't even care enough to get jealous. I am a girl and I tend to get jealous easily. When I see my man spending too much time with a particular female or even his friends at large, I automatically get jealous because I want to know what it is that they're saying. I want to know how is it that she makes my boyfriend smile so bright when she calls. Call it being selfish or possessive but I really want to know why because i actually want to be the main reason for his smile. I feel the lore i make him smile, the better. And the more an outsider lakes him smile, the less he smiles at me and then everything goes downhill from there. I'm not saying that is a fact. It's all in my head and based ony own hypothesis. It may be true or not or it could be simply a product of my own paranoia. Either way, it's what I believe.
I and any other person with this type of belief need to actually learn how to curb these feelings of jealousy. Like I said, it is okay to be jealous but when it gets too much, it isn't appropriate. Excessive jealousy can push a person to do things that he or she isn't supposed to do at all. Have you watched any of these crime movies or read a novel of that genre whereby the crime was brought about by the fact that the perpetrator was jealous of something the victim had.
I don't want that to be my end so I'll learn to control my jealous streak.

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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Phaithh(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 10:35:44:pm GMT

It's actually good to feel jealous but over jealousy is bad. Jealousy in love relationship context, is being protective of what you have or own. You won't like to share your spouse with anybody.
When a certain girl is giving my guy too much attention right in my presence, it can rear up jealousy in me. It's natural but if I should start creating a scene by shouting at the girl or even going violent - then that is so so wrong of me.
Let the jealousy be normal not abnormal. Most people are operating under abnormal jealousy. They are ready to bring down the roofs just because of this jealousy.
Let trust go along with the jealousy, because you are sure, he won't cheat on you or do anything unpleasant.
You know, we have the cute jealousy - telling him lovingly that you won't like anybody stealing his attention but you. You don't have to be trailing him around or watching his phone or even hiring a bodyguard.

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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Sat, 08 Aug, 2020 - 06:05:16:am GMT

Personally, I can't date or marry any girl that doesn't have a tinge of jealousy for me, and vice versa.

Small jealousy or moderate jealousy is needed, it shows one cares about his or her significant partner. Jealousy is man's nature, so it's nothing to be ashamed of.

However excessive or over-the-top jealousy, is a no-no for me. It kills my love for a girl faster than a marksman bullet to his target. When a girl gets overtly jealous over little things, or even ask I cut off my female friends that have been there before she came, without any CREDIBLE reason(s), then I'll have to find my way out of that relationship. Most times, it leads to headaches from the nagging partner.

But one partner should try his or her best to be open about his or her dealings with opposite genders, to reduce his or her partner's chances of getting overtly jealous. Don't give him or her reasons to get overtly jealous.

Normal jealousy - a welcome development

Excessive jealousy - hell to the NO!!
**I am LoyhaL!**


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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Sat, 08 Aug, 2020 - 06:06:09:am GMT

A healthy dose of jealousy is a part of human beings. It is normal and expected in a relationship and it occurs if you trully care about someone.

Jealousy is that emotion that makes a person fight for love in the case of two rivals.

Jealousy is when you can't bear the thought of another person having any form of intimacy with your partner.

Jealousy is that emotion that allows you to get hurt when you feel your partner is cheating on you.

Jealousy makes you put in your best in your relationship so that your partner sees no one but you.

Its not about being insecure. I may be secure in a man's love for me but he is human and humans have weaknesses. If as a result of this weakness he cheats on me, or just looks at another woman with desire in his eyes, i will be hurt. I will be hurt because i love and care about him. That feeling of 'hurt' stems from jealousy. But if it doesn't bother me. If i have no qualms about his unfaithfulness whether true of false, then i don't love him. And whatever he does will have no effect on me.
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   Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Luckygeorge(m) .:. Today - 04:33: pm GMT

love, it could be curiosity, it could be insecurity and it could be that you just want to be in control. which is also what affects many men that they think that they are jealous or being in love. some people just want to be in control.
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re"> most men fall in the category of wanting to be the controller or dictates where and how she moves her life, they wants to be in control. and some is insecurity, they feel they will loose the person any moment. such is not good. and if you know any man who wants to be in control at all time, run from them. they will never give you breathing space. so, observe.

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