Babe-Fishing/Dating » IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Velisa(f) .:. Mon, 18 Feb, 2019 - 01:37:07:pm GMT

I found that many relationships is either the guy is a jealous type or the lady. My question is, is it right for jealousy to be in relationship? Because I know that love should not carry jealousy cause love never jealous. Why do we then see cases of jealousy in relationships whereby love is been proclaimed? Why is there jealousy if we truly love ourselves. Then why are we jealous? Are we supposed to be jealous? Does it means a jealous partner does not love you? There was a time I felt it's because the person so much loves you and won't want to loose you to anyone. But lately I begin to feel love does not jealous. I want to hear every other persons opinion of what you think about this. I need clarity on this. And is searching through your partner phone a sign of jealousy? Cause I knew I've done that before. And within me I never see it as jealousy but I felt there was something he was doing secretly. I felt no trust to be sincere. I felt he has some babes and maybe he just want to deceive me. But now I want to know if it's a sign of jealousy. Though I was never jealous. I only want to make sure he was not deceiving me cause we met not long. I had a similar experience when I went out with my girlfriend to get fiance place. As we were chatting, he took the lady's phone and was about scrolling through it but she noticed and collected the phone saying she knows he wants to search his phone. And there are some situations whereby if a lady is away, the guy will start asking questions like what are you doing? Who are you with? What are you doing there? Can I call you on video call let me see where you are? And lot more like that, like suspecting the lady. Please are all this right in a relationship? Are they supposed to be? Or we are supposed to be professing love to each others.

**Determined**


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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Gentleman1(m) .:. Mon, 18 Feb, 2019 - 03:16:06:pm GMT

first of all let me just categorically tell you that you are very wrong.

re"> love goes with love. God does not have love in him, but God IS love and he is a Jealous God. so saying Love does not have jealousy, you are wrong.
re"> Secondly, if you say you are in love with someone, and if you dont care if the person you love is with someone else or hanging out with someone else, then you probably are not in love. it is very normal to be jealous and its very healthy to be jealous. but what is not good is being jealous without self control. a man or woman who loves excessively and does not have self control can be a disaster. lack of self control is what make people do many damage not because of jealousy. when one is peaceful, patient and have good self control, your jealousy will be a blessing to the person you are in love with.
re"> lastly, about what you feel, it could be love, it could be curiosity, it could be insecurity and it could be that you just want to be in control. which is also what affects many men that they think that they are jealous or being in love. some people just want to be in control.
re"> most men fall in the category of wanting to be the controller or dictates where and how she moves her life, they wants to be in control. and some is insecurity, they feel they will loose the person any moment. such is not good. and if you know any man who wants to be in control at all time, run from them. they will never give you breathing space. so, observe.
re"> true jealousy is good. if it goes with self control.

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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 07:12:43:am GMT

I would say being jealous in your relationship is not really bad cause you are just trying to make sure you are both sharing true love. God is love yet he said I am a jealous God. Do not serve any other God except me. So being jealous in your relationship is more or less like wanting to make sure you and your spouse are truthful to each other. Jealousy comes as a result of fear of infidelity. But it is important that you control your jealousy. In a relationship where true love really exist there should be jealousy. Reasons is because you so much love that person and you won't want to loose the person. If you are into relationship with someone who is not bothered of who is always calling you everyday... Then my dear, I guess he does not really love you. Love attract jealous.





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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 01:54:12:pm GMT

It is appropriate for jealousy to exist in a relationship there is nothing wrong with that, someone once said true love is not being with someone you can live with but being with someone you can't live without. Some people don't understand this, as people in a relationship even when you're engaged, dating, married or in any form of relationship at all that doesn't stop people from flaunting around your partner but as someone who is matured you don't allow your jealousy take the better part of you, me as a person will never go through my partners phone, it's my own opinion as long as she is beautiful and I love her so much I also know that there are others outside who are just teasing her and playing with her, some guys take pleasure in doing that, telling ladies all those nice stuffs, so as a guy I don't want to go through my woman phone and see such funny stuffs, sure I will get angry but the truth of the matter is that I already broke my babe trust by going through her phone without her consent, meaning I was hoping to find something and when I actually found what I was looking for I get angry, blow it out of proportion and become jealous and do stuff am not supposed to do, so you should be jealous about your partner but don't make the mistake of loosing your partner as a result of jealousy, as a lady know that they are guys who will always disturb you even though they know you are engaged they are like pests, and as a guy value your woman because we have those I am here for you guys who will jump at any misunderstanding between you and your partner, understanding still remains the bedrock of a relationship, don't allow meaningless things end your relationships.
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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Divinkeme1(m) .:. Thu, 21 Feb, 2019 - 10:23:26:pm GMT

Its not appropriate at all. There is bi need for jealousy to exist in a relationship because were there is jealousy there is always strife and hatred. Two people in a relationship should not jealous them selves except what they share among themselves is not true love. There is a saying that goes that if I love you I will not steal from you. So even if one person is the bread winner and the other do not have something meaningful to bring income to the house for the mean time is not a guarantee for the one with financial infancy to get jealous. Instead of been jealous one should think of what to do to add value to the relationship in his or her own little way. If two people who are in love can work together in peace and harmony the relationship will not only be the best but it will rather be the talk of the town. God will exist I'm it because where there is love God dwells there because bible say God is love. In conclusion I will be very glade to point out that its not ideal for two in a relationship to be jealous. Thanks
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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Piwizo(m) .:. Fri, 22 Feb, 2019 - 07:47:45:am GMT

I don't think so, how will people in love with each other be jealous of one another, it doesn't sound right to me, what are you jealous of about your partner, when you know quite well that what ever belongs to him or her also belongs to you, what brings about jealousy sometimes is insecurity, when a partner tends to be insecure then jealousy will be evident in a relationship, what kind of partner are you, and what time are you involved with, because a jealous partner might blow things out of proportion, a jealous partner can be easily convinced that her partner is cheating on her, as a child growing up i have seen jealousy as a result of selfishness and greed, i agree people will say but our God is a jealous God, but that's God, and you are not God, neither did you make the sacrifice He did, so please it is in your own interest that you don't become jealous in your relationship at all, it is not needed, me tend to get tired of a jealous partner who always look for something which isn't missing, like searching through your partners phone, who does that? only someone who is insecure, please protect and guide your relationship from danger because it is really difficult to be in a good relationship these days, so if you are in one treasure it with your life.
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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Wed, 12 Jun, 2019 - 12:58:24:am GMT

Jealousy in relationship is normal.


But it is said that loves does not work with jealousy.
You are not supposed to be jealous when you love someone.

There is a lady I know very well, if she sees any lady with her fiance, she would get mad at him without even knowing the reason they are together, or who she is to the guy.

It happens repeatedly that she broke up with the guy, even the guy came pleading but she refused to accept him back.

Jealousy in relationship is normal but it is not good. A lot of relationship experience jealousy which causes break up at the end.

Jealousy comes with lack of trust. The reason why I said it isn't good is because it comes with lack of trust, it is when you don't trust your partner that you will be jealous if him or her.

You don't trust the person, so when you see any guy or lady around your partner, you feel they are dating. You feel they have something together doing that involves live. That's just a prove that you don't trust the person at all.

If you want to save your relationship, please take away jealousy and lack of trust.

The devil is everywhere seeking for whom to destroy. Don't let the devil use you as a device to destroy what you built already.

Because once the devil sees that you don't trust your partner, he will enter through there into your relationship and at the end you break up.


**God's light**


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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Dynameak(f) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 01:16:28:pm GMT

God is love yeah and he loves us jealousy so much that, it displeases him whenever the isrealites look upon other gods lovingly. We were created in Gods image and we evidently posses what's in God, hence, jealousy can be a spice in a relationship if it's approached from a healthy path but jealousy gets unhealthy when it moves you to harm another either by words or actions. As partners in a relationship, you can jealously love your partner such that they love the Lord and extend His love to you but you shouldn't allow that loving jealousy generate into one that will make you hoard your partner so much that you resrict their interaction with other people in their lives.
**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **


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Re: IS IT APPROPRIATE FOR JEALOUSY TO EXIST IN RELATIONSHIPS? by: Dynameak(f) .:. Wed, 20 May, 2020 - 01:17:20:pm GMT

God is love yeah and he loves us jealousy so much that, it displeases him whenever the isrealites look upon other gods lovingly. We were created in Gods image and we evidently posses what's in God, hence, jealousy can be a spice in a relationship if it's approached from a healthy path but jealousy gets unhealthy when it moves you to harm another either by words or actions. As partners in a relationship, you can jealously love your partner such that they love the Lord and extend His love to you but you shouldn't allow that loving jealousy generate into one that will make you hoard your partner so much that you resrict their interaction with other people in their lives.
**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **


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