Babe-Fishing/Dating » IMPORTANT QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE MARRIAGE by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Wed, 01 May, 2019 - 10:49:38:am GMT
Many times, you find people asking how to know when they or their partners are ready to get married. Is it when you hit puberty, when you clock 18 or 21, when you graduate from school, when you complete NYSC, when you get a job or when you become rich?
For marriage, you basically need mental maturity, financial means, partner or parental consent (depending on who you are) and the desire to do so.
This list may vary slightly when you apply the position and requirements of different religions and cultures but it basically is the same thing.
Using the above list tends to make us forget the use of one tool, self-questioning. There are questions that need to be asked and from experience, a person is not prepared to be married until they have been answered positively.
A man should ask
Am I ready to teach her new values she may resist, patiently?
Am I ready to give up my last resources to fund her desires?
Am I ready to run the risk that she will be different from what I currently see?
Am I ready to listen attentively even when I need to speak, knowing that only one person can talk at a time in a healthy conversation?
Am I ready to believe and trust her, over external sources?
Am I ready to learn from her?
A lady should ask
Am I ready to humbly accept his leadership of my new home?
Am I ready to learn from him?
Am I ready to listen and let him speak in a conversation?
Am I ready to trust him over external sources?
Am I ready to support him with my resources, if the need arises?
Am I ready to run the risk that he'd be different from what I currently see?
Until a person is able to answer "yes" to all the questions above, he or she is not prepared to be married regardless of how much money is being earned or how many degrees have been earned.
Re: IMPORTANT QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE MARRIAGE by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Wed, 01 May, 2019 - 11:07:28:am GMT
What to know before getting married ...
Marriage is not a child's play
mariage is a life time commitment.
So before talking about marriage.....
one must be financially, mentally, and physically stable.
First thing is hard work, for you to be financially stable you must work had try and be the best in whatever you do, be the best you can be.
You have to be able to make decisions for the benefits of each other.
Setting your priorities right no more unnecessary spending( save for marriage not for wedding) as a man taking your friends out and buying them drinks has to stop( some guys have drank bungalow in the name of give everybody whatever they want) and ladies buying hair of 150k has to stop.
Commitment know that once you get married it's you and ur spouse and less of family so if you are still a mummy's boy or mummy's girl you have no buisness talking about marriage.
Responsibilities are you ready for that?
Another thing needed is.....
Maturity, Maturity and more Maturity,... At least a regular income to cater for two people and if possible a side hustle if the man has a regular job.... For the women, you have to remove your rose colored glasses and face the fact that....
Daddy is now second person, the first one is now husband, patience because you are from two different backgrounds, so work towards a common ground, learn how to manage income and stroke your man's ego, ONLY WHEN Necessary and not CONDONE VIOLENCE OF ANY KIND, moreover be willing to work with your man to achieve a good level of success in the house....... Above all involve Almighty God
Re: IMPORTANT QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK YOURSELF BEFORE MARRIAGE by: Velisa(f) .:. Sun, 05 May, 2019 - 01:17:53:pm GMT
There are certain questions you should ask yourself before getting married to that guy... Marriage is a lifetime thing.
Earlier on after church... I had a discussion with one of the pastor of the church. We had to fumble on marriage as a topic of our discussion.. I learnt a whole lot of truth from what the pastor said....If you want to marry a man, there are some things you should consider as a lady...which are...
*Fear of God.... Believe me or not, any man who doe snot have the fear of God will lead you astray... Watch his prayer life...watch his relationship with God... Watch his dealings with God. If his ways are not right with God. He will lead you astray.
*His Career... Any man you want to marry should have a career that won't be a burden to you. It shouldn't be a man that will won't accept or support your career. But a man ready to support you.
*His mindset... You should Marry a man that you have the same mindset with. It shouldn't be a man whose mindset won't go with that of yours. You need to plan together and do things in one mind.