Romance » IF YOUR SPOUSE COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING. THEN YOU NEED THIS... by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Mon, 29 Apr, 2019 - 05:10:01:pm GMT
We don't like it when spouses keep repeating things. We believe if it has happened in the past then it should remain in the past but to some, it just feels like that past can never go away. They cannot help it and must always make reference to things.
"That's how you did the same thing in 1997.."
I know how frustrating this can be. I mean, a spouse should be able to overlook things and not have to complain about every single thing.
But see, it's a 2 way thing.
It is equally as frustrating for a spouse to have to repeat the same thing over and over again. Take the example of a husband always throwing boxers and socks on the room floor which the wife does not like. It would be expected that it should stop after a few reminders. This is the point people are told to just do what needs to be done (i.e. if he throws it on the floor then you keep picking it) but then you wonder why these items cannot just be put in the right place in the first place.
When we talk about spouses complaining about everything, we also should talk about why we keep doing everything.
Tolerance is key but balance is important.
Re: IF YOUR SPOUSE COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING. THEN YOU NEED THIS... by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Wed, 01 May, 2019 - 11:20:46:am GMT
I had this issue with my partner. Women are always fond of laying complains. This is one thing she does so much. Always complaining.
She keeps things of the past, some she had said before or the ones she hasn't and will wait till when you offend her so much, she then bring it up.
This at times got me frustrated.
But think of this, if your partner is always complaining,
Don't you think there was a reason for her complain?
Don't you think you keep repeating same thing she talks about?
You should learn to balance yourself. Take time bro meditate on her complains. Balance it. Stop saying, she complains too much.
Check yourself. And make amendments.
Re: IF YOUR SPOUSE COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING. THEN YOU NEED THIS... by: Velisa(f) .:. Thu, 02 May, 2019 - 09:52:06:pm GMT
You mustn't try to correct your partner over everything.
One of the fastest relationship and marriage killer is trying to point out every little thing your partner is not doing right.
One of the worse evil you can ever do to your partner is to take away their freedom of self expression. The worse emotional position to push your partner into is that place where he or she starts becoming overly conscious of the things they do or say when you are around, because you are a fault picker.
I know you are a perfectionist, I know you like to meet your cup of tea exactly where you left it, but don't take away the power to let your partner be his or herself by correcting everything.
Allow room for mistakes.
Some ladies cannot join a conversation when they're in the same room with their man. Cause the moment they are alone he will start pointing out all the things she said wrong, things she shouldn't have said and how she embarrassed him in public. Don't take away the power to be herself anywhere and any Time.
Don't pick on her shoes all the time, the last thing you want in that relationship or marriage is for her to get to that emotional point where she starts feeling like nothing she does is good for you. You will destroy her by pick pointing her mistakes all the time. Give room for errors, it's all a part of the love experience. Don't complain about the way she styles her hair, don't comment on her heavy foundation all the time, sometimes ignore the witchy eyebrow, where you want her to be is a place where she feels good about herself, not that horrible place where she doesn't feel good enough for you.
I am talking to you ladies too, this goes both ways. You must learn to ignore certain things he does, don't pick on his mistakes all the time. Talk about it once, then let it slide for a long time before bringing it up again.
Listen to me, when your man gets used to your nagging and complaining all the time, the relationship is as good as over.