(Go Down)

Diaries » How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:24:39:am GMT
Have you ever found yourself thinking about something you did in the past? If yes, then let's discuss.
What are some of the negative effect of dwelling on past mistakes? Are there any? Is there any correlation between mistakes done in the past and the present even  after the past errors has been forgiven? Should we still go about the mistakes of the last even after Forgiveness? And how can we break from the guilt of the past?


**-The beloved of God**

Views (866) .:. Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:33:17:am GMT

He that is in Christ is a new creature, simple truth that we must always remember. Old things are passed away  and all things have become new.

If you are redeemed from your past mistakes ,  you are  no more the person you used to be in the past.  The guilt, shame and pain of the past are taken away and you are cleansed by the blood of Jesus.

When God forgives, He  doesn't keep record of your wrongs,nd He forgives totally. We are the only one that still has remembrance of what we did. So what is the problem with us, if God has forgiven us, why can't we forgive ourselves?



**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:42:44:am GMT

We just must believe that we are different from who we used to be, and that we are a totally new creature. That's the only way out of guilt and condemnation, and that is how we can get the restoration that we are privileged of in Christ Jesus. 

We have to see ourselves just exactly how Christ sees us. Guilt can be so strong and condemning. If we dwell so much on the wrongs of the past, we get entangled in the web of the guilt that comes with it and this doesn't do more than condemnation. That is exactly what the devil wants. But we must bounce and enjoy the privileges from the finished work of Christ. 

The devil do not want us to be free even after we have been forgiven. He will always try to bring to our faces the wrongs we have done in the past just to haunt and condemn you before your face. Rise up brethren,it's high time we apply the reality of what Christ had done for us, according as His word has said. Totally redeemed.



**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 07:15:33:am GMT

Well I have done alot of mistakes in the past but there's one I always remember even though I've moved on from it because I now see it as a blessing in disguise.

           I used to be a very smart kid in my secondary school days and that made me very popular in school. I met a friend popularly known as Zidane and that guy really influenced my life negatively. 
           I started skipping classes to hang out with him, I started clubbing as well because I wanted to be trending like my friends from there he taught me how to bully students in order to estort money from them even when some teachers called me and advised me abt my recent behaviours I didn't listen I kept on doing it believing I was doing the right thing. Not until I failed in s.s.2 which was more or less like a turning point for me. Most of my colleagues didn't believe I could fail because they knew how smart I was. When I decided to focus on my studies and ignore my friends, reading became so hard for me because the idea of being a failure kept on ringing on my head, I didn't know who I could talk to or confide and so dat mindset of being a failure got so stuck to me that I had to even accept I was a failure.
      I struggled to finish secondary school and gaining admission was now a big problem because I could not even pass my Waec exams. Not until I met a good friend of mine called Elijah who happened to be very good at reading people and one certain day  we had a long conversation and he told me alot were bothering me and those thoughts has been taking me back wards, it was then I disclosed every single thing I was going through to him. He just laughed and at that point I felt embarrassed that he was just laughing at my problems. He just told me I had an unimaginable strength to fight through my past mistakes and move on from it, but the most important thing was to accept that I failed and then be willing to move on from that mistake I had made in the past because the future is always better than the past but the past would always serve as a good experience for me on the long run. It was from that moment I picked myself up and that was a big turning point for me because the words of my very good friend changed everything.
          I believe I'm a human and I make mistakes which is normal but the most thing is to always learn from your mistakes because it makes you a better version of yourself.

****


Likes (1) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 08:22:50:pm GMT

Never let your past have anything to do with your present, else you will also be in a state of acknowledging and experiencing the negatives of life which in turn might lead to a decline in your health. Those who are in Christ and do not walk after the flesh have nothing imputed upon them. Stop going around with any guilt, rather, make peace with God.

Things of the past should be left with the last. The past shouldn't be what determines our present let alone our future. Bygones should be left as what they are: bygones. Once you open about the blunder you found yourself in and ask God forgiveness, let it go, and turn away from doing that. The Holy Spirit is always there to help out, just in case you are finding it difficult to get over the guilt. We can learn to also trust in His strength too. Stay on the Word of God and find help.

What the Word of God does is to help show us who we are meant to be in Christ. We are indeed the redeemed of the Lord, only spending time with His word can fully reveal the reality of that truth in/to us.


 





**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 08:41:12:pm GMT

Staying on His, and knowing the true reality of our adoption in Christ will help us forge ahead and let go of hurts and resentment. This is one critical aspect of our lives that we need to really look into because it's capable of bringing delays and set backs. It won't allow move forward because all you will always see is negativity with no positivity.

Infact it can lead you into having inferiority complex, you won't see much good in yourself that much. It is capable of destroying your self image and of course end up hindering you from fulfilling the purpose of God for your life.

The negative effects are so many, you can't afford to allow anything hold you down. Don't let anything keep you from achieving the goals you have set for yourself. Forge ahead and become the best you can be.

Remember that when you open up to God and genuinely repent, He will hold no charge against you. So why not forgive yourself. Why still hold yourself in self imprisonment?




**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 09:11:03:pm GMT

You must have a consistent relationship with God because that is where strength can be found. In Him also is where our existence is defined. We are nothing outside Him but complete in Him. Who else can we tell our mistakes to if not for Him. Only intimacy with Him can help us to completely be free from all errors.

Lastly, I must add that we have to be mindful of the kind of company we keep. We should move away from those who keep reminding us of our past mistakes. Only those with a mind of Christ will relate with your past the way the way they ought to. They will help to encourage you to move on and fulfil the purpose of God.


**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 09:11:03:pm GMT

You must have a consistent relationship with God because that is where strength can be found. In Him also is where our existence is defined. We are nothing outside Him but complete in Him. Who else can we tell our mistakes to if not for Him. Only intimacy with Him can help us to completely be free from all errors.

Lastly, I must add that we have to be mindful of the kind of company we keep. We should move away from those who keep reminding us of our past mistakes. Only those with a mind of Christ will relate with your past the way the way they ought to. They will help to encourage you to move on and fulfil the purpose of God.


**-The beloved of God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Garey(m) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 10:33:11:pm GMT


@Sardyne: Brilliant dear! I would say a large number of humans have done things they regretted doing due to some following factors one of which is low self esteem, inferiority complex. Peer pressure, lack of understanding, lack of wisdom, pride, Anger, prayerlessness, parental upbringing, ignorance and lots more. However, when you come into Christ and into the knowledge of the truth, you would soon understand that those things do not matter anymore because Christ had forgiven you even before the foundations of the earth were laid. He has taken responsibilities of those things ungodly and cannot be affectionately named and had nailed them to the cross. Who God sees is you being the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus because your sins and lawless acts he do not remember anymore. However, one things that keeps pulling people back is condemnation. When we rate out errors so high that the cleansing blood of the lamb and we ask questions like can God really forgive me. Another is not being able to forgive ourselves. This is what the devil have used to hold many captives. Not forgiving oneself, especially when there a fruit from the negative event. That would lead me to quoting 1john 2:1-3. We have an advocate in the Father and this is so true. Let's take off the yoke from our heart and hand it over to Jesus. Let's lay it down at his feet and consciously tell him to help us bear the weight of the guilt but you have to let go and let God, stay away from things and event that remind you of the guilt by renewing your mind always and you would experience victory.
**God gat us **


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Oluwaseyeini93(f) .:. Mon, 14 Sep, 2020 - 07:02:57:am GMT

Past mistakes has a way of creeping into our hearts and we find it difficult to let go of them and we realise that the hurt suddenly form a basis in our decision making. It even hurts more if you've scolded someone for that same mistake. But there's a good new, you can be free from that... How? Here are few tips


• Ask God for forgiveness and believe He has forgiven you. God does not hold grudges, he's even pleased to see you sober and pleading for His mercy.

• Apologize to yourself and let go
When you offend someone, you can easily apologize expect to be forgiven. So also are you to treat yourself, sincerely apologize to yourself and let go.

• Let go of the underlying emotions
Whenever you do something be it wrong or right, your nervous system is called to action. So when you do something wrong, those emotions are still there, so you try so hard to forget but it looks like the hurt has come to stay. Just pick out the lesson from the situation and let go of the underlying emotions.

**Blessed be God who has blessed us with all Spiritual Blessings**


Likes (1) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Uwubabright(m) .:. Mon, 14 Sep, 2020 - 11:39:41:am GMT



Feeling guilty about some of your action is a normal human experience especially when you've done something that is against you belief, principle or orientation. The truth is that you must note that we are all prone to mistake and that is what makes us human. Here are some of the ways to deal with guilt.

1. Understand why you feel guilty.

Guilt works best to help us grow and mature when our behavior has been offensive or hurtful to others or ourselves. If we feel guilty for saying something offensive to another person, that’s a warning sign with a purpose: change your behavior or you will push away your friends or family. We can still choose to ignore our guilt then, but then we do so at our own risk. This is known as “healthy” or “appropriate” guilt because it serves a purpose in trying to help redirect our moral or behavioral compass. The problem arises when we don’t need to reexamine our behavior or makes changes. 

2. Makes changes, instead of wallowing in guilt.

If your guilt is for a specific and rational purpose, take concrete steps to fix the problem or behavior. It’s easy enough to apologize to someone whom we’ve offended by a careless remark. It’s a little more challenging to not only recognize how your 80-hour-a-week career may be harming your family, but to also change your work schedule (assuming that there were legitimate reasons for working 80-hours a week in the first place). Healthy guilt is telling us we need to do something different in order to repair relationships important to us (or our own self-esteem). Unhealthy guilt’s purpose, on the other hand, is only to make us feel badly. While sometimes we already know the lesson guilt is trying to teach us, it will return time and time again until we’ve actually learned the lesson fully. It can be frustrating, but it seems to be the way guilt works for most people. The sooner we “learn the lesson” and make amends, the sooner the guilt will disappear. If successful, it will never return for that issue again.

3. Recognize that no one is perfect and move on.

Not even our friends or family members who appear to lead perfect, guilt-free lives. Striving for perfection in any part of our lives is a recipe for failure, since it can never be attained. We all make mistakes and many of us go down a path in our lives that can make us feel guilty later on, when we finally realize our mistake. The key, however, is to realize the mistake and accept that you’re only human. Don’t engage in days, weeks or months of self-blame — battering your self-esteem because you should’ve known, should’ve acted differently, or should’ve been an ideal person. You’re not, and neither am I. That’s just life.


**Life is a teacher**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: DamilolaOluwadahun(m) .:. Tue, 22 Sep, 2020 - 02:23:54:pm GMT

I think mistakes are quite inevitable as humans. The truth is just that some mistakes have a more lasting effect than others.


Consider someone who unintentionally got pregnant, if such a person is not careful, that mistake might mar the person's future.

Mistakes will always be what they are but how well we move will determine to a large extent how our lives turn out.

One of the negative effects of dwelling on past mistakes is guilt, fear of trying again, trust issues, etc.

There are mistakes that have consequences even after forgiveness. For example, someone who has to live with HIV/ AIDS for the rest of their lives due to past mistakes or an employer that lost her job because of a mistake, etc. 

I believe that forgiveness only brings us to a place of cleansing our conscience of guilt and its accomplices, forgiveness helps you face the consequences of your actions better and not clear off the consequences.

We should always learn from our mistakes no matter how daunting it is, that's the only way to enjoy freedom. 

I have made mistakes too in the past that hunted me for months but one key thing that helped me to move forward was coming to terms with the fact that if God can forgive me, I should forgive myself. 


**All things work together for good to them that love God**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Jerrythegifted(m) .:. Fri, 02 Oct, 2020 - 08:10:55:pm GMT

We make mistakes,thats what makes us human.I have made mistakes in the past and I feel guilty but I don't stay in guilt.Firstly know you're responsible for your mistakes.But that doesn't mean you should put this guilt on your shoulder for the rest of your life.


Jesus can take away those guilt,it doesn't matter what you have done in the past,once you admit your mistakes and confess them to Jesus,he will forgive you and save you.
.


Like they say..."change is constant".I remember last two years.I used to go to my friend's place,then we do bad things I don't want to mention here.A year later,I just felt this need to change.So,I stopped going to my friends place.At first it was hard,I had to act like my friends didn't exist.It was for the best.

After some months,I went back.In a different way this time.I went back to tell them I was sorry for the things we did together and I felt guilty.The change I made,changed them all.

We stopped doing bad things.

I did restitution: Restitution is one of the ways to get the guilt off your mind.Saying sorry where necessary has helped me to handle my guilt.

Remember,like they say... thinking about the past mistakes will only make the present feel like a mistake too,but the present is a gift.

I have a practical method of letting go of your guilt.

Write your mistakes on a piece of paper,go to the dust bin and throw it away,affirm yourself that you've let go of the past guilt and mistakes.

Stay in the present and be happy.

**I'm gifted**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Holashayo(f) .:. Fri, 02 Oct, 2020 - 08:58:04:pm GMT

Notwithstanding, our mistakes are so grievous that it had to stay with us forever. The mistakes we made for so long will soon or later reflect in our present and one way or the other, affect our future.
If only that one can go back to the past and correct some mistakes, we will all live a stainless and uncomplicated life, but it is not possible.
I have made terrible mistakes in the past and now, am still living in that guilt. I wish I could turn things around and perfect my ways. 
Mistakes are meant to be corrected, but it would have damaged so many things before it can be foreseen.
But mind you, living in your guilt won't correct any mistake than to move on. Look unto God, the eraser of every mistakes.
You are now a new creature, old things have passed away, all things have become new.
Move on with your life and move out of your guilts.

**Damiswag**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Abosedegrace(f) .:. Sat, 27 Mar, 2021 - 04:04:35:pm GMT

I also have a not so good past experience that opened my eyes.

I used to think I am very strong to the point I can be so close to a guy and nothing will happen. Nothing will move me that was how i used to think until I got involved with one guy when I went to Jos to pay some school dues. School was not in session so I couldn't stay in my lodge because students were not around so I went to stay in a family friend's house and in the family they happen to have a guy with the name Musa, he is a year older than me.

I became quite close to Musa because of my carefree life, I didn't care until I realised I was developing some feelings for him, I told him and he said we will discus it that night when we are alone. When we were alone that night, one thing led to another and we started kissing to cut the long story short, this guy had a condom with him ready to have sex with me. Can you imagine?.

When I decided to talk about my feelings to him, I wasn't talking about having sex with him so right there at that moment when I understood what was going on, I asked him what he think of me, he said some things. I asked if he loves me, he said we will figure it out but we should have the sex. I bluntly refused because I suddenly remembered one video of Steve Harvey I had watched which warned ladies not to allow guys have the cookie until after 90 days or more, I later chased him politely out of my room.

When he left I realised, I needed to change my thinking and I can't be so carefree like I used to be with guys and nothing will happen. When I left, he didn't even ask for my number and since then we have not talked. It was somewhat painful but I was glad I didn't allow him have sex with me.

Today happens to be his birthday because his mum posted his pictures.. I just stared at the picture with no emotion at all but am glad I learned my lessons and since then I have been very careful with my level of closeness to a guy.

I think we all shouldn't punish ourselves too much when we make mistakes instead we should focus on the lessons needed to be learned and be grateful for everything.
**Redeemed to reign**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Obajichi(f) .:. Tue, 17 Jan, 2023 - 04:17:09:pm GMT

The best way I handled such was by trying to forget about it and just move on.

I must say that it was a difficult process because I'm the kind of person who tries to be very careful before taking actions so as to avoid mistakes or regrets, but I had to work it through.

It only made me better and wiser too.


**I love being me.**


Likes (0) .:. Dislikes (0) (Reply) (Quote)

Welcome, Guest: Join Beneyoyo / Login!

Stats: 7,355 topics. Date: Thursday, 28 March 2024 at 01:11 PM