Diaries » How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:24:39:am GMT
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Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:33:17:am GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 06:42:44:am GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 07:15:33:am GMT
Well I have done alot of mistakes in the past but there's one I always remember even though I've moved on from it because I now see it as a blessing in disguise.
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Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 08:22:50:pm GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 08:41:12:pm GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 09:11:03:pm GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Sardyne(f) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 09:11:03:pm GMT
**-The beloved of God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Garey(m) .:. Sun, 13 Sep, 2020 - 10:33:11:pm GMT
@Sardyne: Brilliant dear! I would say a large number of humans have done things they regretted doing due to some following factors one of which is low self esteem, inferiority complex. Peer pressure, lack of understanding, lack of wisdom, pride, Anger, prayerlessness, parental upbringing, ignorance and lots more. However, when you come into Christ and into the knowledge of the truth, you would soon understand that those things do not matter anymore because Christ had forgiven you even before the foundations of the earth were laid. He has taken responsibilities of those things ungodly and cannot be affectionately named and had nailed them to the cross. Who God sees is you being the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus because your sins and lawless acts he do not remember anymore. However, one things that keeps pulling people back is condemnation. When we rate out errors so high that the cleansing blood of the lamb and we ask questions like can God really forgive me. Another is not being able to forgive ourselves. This is what the devil have used to hold many captives. Not forgiving oneself, especially when there a fruit from the negative event. That would lead me to quoting 1john 2:1-3. We have an advocate in the Father and this is so true. Let's take off the yoke from our heart and hand it over to Jesus. Let's lay it down at his feet and consciously tell him to help us bear the weight of the guilt but you have to let go and let God, stay away from things and event that remind you of the guilt by renewing your mind always and you would experience victory.
**God gat us **
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Oluwaseyeini93(f) .:. Mon, 14 Sep, 2020 - 07:02:57:am GMT
Past mistakes has a way of creeping into our hearts and we find it difficult to let go of them and we realise that the hurt suddenly form a basis in our decision making. It even hurts more if you've scolded someone for that same mistake. But there's a good new, you can be free from that... How? Here are few tips
**Blessed be God who has blessed us with all Spiritual Blessings**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Uwubabright(m) .:. Mon, 14 Sep, 2020 - 11:39:41:am GMT
Feeling guilty about some of your action is a normal human experience especially when you've done something that is against you belief, principle or orientation. The truth is that you must note that we are all prone to mistake and that is what makes us human. Here are some of the ways to deal with guilt.
1. Understand why you feel guilty.
Guilt works best to help us grow and mature when our behavior has been offensive or hurtful to others or ourselves. If we feel guilty for saying something offensive to another person, that’s a warning sign with a purpose: change your behavior or you will push away your friends or family. We can still choose to ignore our guilt then, but then we do so at our own risk. This is known as “healthy” or “appropriate” guilt because it serves a purpose in trying to help redirect our moral or behavioral compass. The problem arises when we don’t need to reexamine our behavior or makes changes.
2. Makes changes, instead of wallowing in guilt.
If your guilt is for a specific and rational purpose, take concrete steps to fix the problem or behavior. It’s easy enough to apologize to someone whom we’ve offended by a careless remark. It’s a little more challenging to not only recognize how your 80-hour-a-week career may be harming your family, but to also change your work schedule (assuming that there were legitimate reasons for working 80-hours a week in the first place). Healthy guilt is telling us we need to do something different in order to repair relationships important to us (or our own self-esteem). Unhealthy guilt’s purpose, on the other hand, is only to make us feel badly. While sometimes we already know the lesson guilt is trying to teach us, it will return time and time again until we’ve actually learned the lesson fully. It can be frustrating, but it seems to be the way guilt works for most people. The sooner we “learn the lesson” and make amends, the sooner the guilt will disappear. If successful, it will never return for that issue again.
3. Recognize that no one is perfect and move on.
Not even our friends or family members who appear to lead perfect, guilt-free lives. Striving for perfection in any part of our lives is a recipe for failure, since it can never be attained. We all make mistakes and many of us go down a path in our lives that can make us feel guilty later on, when we finally realize our mistake. The key, however, is to realize the mistake and accept that you’re only human. Don’t engage in days, weeks or months of self-blame — battering your self-esteem because you should’ve known, should’ve acted differently, or should’ve been an ideal person. You’re not, and neither am I. That’s just life.
**Life is a teacher**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: DamilolaOluwadahun(m) .:. Tue, 22 Sep, 2020 - 02:23:54:pm GMT
I think mistakes are quite inevitable as humans. The truth is just that some mistakes have a more lasting effect than others.
**All things work together for good to them that love God**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Jerrythegifted(m) .:. Fri, 02 Oct, 2020 - 08:10:55:pm GMT
We make mistakes,thats what makes us human.I have made mistakes in the past and I feel guilty but I don't stay in guilt.Firstly know you're responsible for your mistakes.But that doesn't mean you should put this guilt on your shoulder for the rest of your life.
**I'm gifted**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Holashayo(f) .:. Fri, 02 Oct, 2020 - 08:58:04:pm GMT
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Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Abosedegrace(f) .:. Sat, 27 Mar, 2021 - 04:04:35:pm GMT
I also have a not so good past experience that opened my eyes.
I used to think I am very strong to the point I can be so close to a guy and nothing will happen. Nothing will move me that was how i used to think until I got involved with one guy when I went to Jos to pay some school dues. School was not in session so I couldn't stay in my lodge because students were not around so I went to stay in a family friend's house and in the family they happen to have a guy with the name Musa, he is a year older than me.
I became quite close to Musa because of my carefree life, I didn't care until I realised I was developing some feelings for him, I told him and he said we will discus it that night when we are alone. When we were alone that night, one thing led to another and we started kissing to cut the long story short, this guy had a condom with him ready to have sex with me. Can you imagine?.
When I decided to talk about my feelings to him, I wasn't talking about having sex with him so right there at that moment when I understood what was going on, I asked him what he think of me, he said some things. I asked if he loves me, he said we will figure it out but we should have the sex. I bluntly refused because I suddenly remembered one video of Steve Harvey I had watched which warned ladies not to allow guys have the cookie until after 90 days or more, I later chased him politely out of my room.
When he left I realised, I needed to change my thinking and I can't be so carefree like I used to be with guys and nothing will happen. When I left, he didn't even ask for my number and since then we have not talked. It was somewhat painful but I was glad I didn't allow him have sex with me.
Today happens to be his birthday because his mum posted his pictures.. I just stared at the picture with no emotion at all but am glad I learned my lessons and since then I have been very careful with my level of closeness to a guy.
I think we all shouldn't punish ourselves too much when we make mistakes instead we should focus on the lessons needed to be learned and be grateful for everything.
**Redeemed to reign**
Re: How have you been able to handle the guilts from mistakes done in the past? by: Obajichi(f) .:. Tue, 17 Jan, 2023 - 04:17:09:pm GMT
The best way I handled such was by trying to forget about it and just move on.
I must say that it was a difficult process because I'm the kind of person who tries to be very careful before taking actions so as to avoid mistakes or regrets, but I had to work it through.
It only made me better and wiser too.
**I love being me.**