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Romance » HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Ogiejoe(m) .:. Wed, 16 Apr, 2014 - 03:54:09:pm GMT

How to know the right man

As a woman, there are times it looks difficult to know the right man and you just feel like giving up on it. Here is a list of how to know the right man.

1 Create a list of qualities you want in a Dream Guy, and expect to get about half on any date you go on. For example, a list may say "He Must: 1) Work on or have a higher education, 2) Have a job, 3) Have a car, 4) Treat his family with respect, 5) Refrain from drug use." Choose traits and qualities that are important to you as this list will be a tool to better understand who you're dating.

2 After you create this list, open up the door! Tell any and every guy that is interested in you that you are willing to date them, friends, best friends, acquaintances even, but they must understand that they are not the only one you're dating. This means there should be no jealousy, and no one gets hurt in the process.

3 Schedule dates with each of the men, and keep a mental list of those qualities running in your head during the date. When you get home, check off the qualities you saw displayed, and write the gentleman's initials next to the mark so you know which one displayed that particular quality.

4 Continue dating and complete this process for however long you feel you need. Things may take a lot longer than you think, and the relationship may take turns you never saw coming. This step-by-step is just a spring board for you to get out and on the hunt. When you feel ready for a committed relationship, look over the list and see who has the most qualities you wanted.

5 When you find the two best men, think over what qualities you wanted that they might not have, and decide if you can handle the fact that they don't have those qualities. Can you handle the fact they don't have a car? Can you handle the annoying things he does during dinner, like talk with his mouth full, slurp when he drinks, or talk too much? If yes, then don't rule them out. Then think about how they make you feel when you're around them. If conversation and that "spark" aren't there then obviously it's not right for you. If they are, then perfect.

6 Search your heart, and make a choice, letting everyone else know that you are no longer in the market, at least not for a while. Explain to them that although you like them as a friend, and enjoyed the dates, you're just not interested in a relationship with them.

7 Schedule a final date with the number one guy, and discuss with him how you feel and what your intentions for the relationship in the future are, and ask him if this relationship is going to go further. Talk with him about where you want it to go, and where he sees it going, and if he truly is the one, then be willing to wait a reasonable amount of time.

NOTE: DON'T GO DEEP WITH ANY UNTIL YOU ARE SURE OF THE ONE YOU WANT

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Velisa(f) .:. Mon, 24 Jun, 2019 - 06:38:45:am GMT

I used to say that when you get the right man or woman and you are not committed or faithful to the relationship, the relationship won't stand. You will still end up breaking up like he or she is not the right man or woman.

You can be searching for the right person while you are not the right person. If you must search for someone who will love you, then you must also be ready to love the person back. If you must search for someone who will care and pamper you, then you should be ready to do the same back.

Cause once you are not sacrificing anything to the person, and the person is the only one doing everything, it will get to a time, he or she will become tired of you. And they will just have to break up with you cause they see you don't care in the relationship.

At times, we cry to God and pray for the right man or woman, yet when he or she comes, we don't make them feel we've been praying for them to come. We don't make them feel, we love them. It's very bad.

Most times, we are the cause of our problem. Not that we've not find that right person. We have... But with our own bad character and lack of care, we let them slip off our hands.

**Determined**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Gooddypye(m) .:. Tue, 25 Jun, 2019 - 07:28:04:am GMT

Well, it's a good idea. But to me it sounds funny cretins a list and listing your choices and all that. But though it's a good point.

But let me say this....

I guess this points are for well doing ladies. I mean ladies with good job, ladies with respectful behaviour and good looking. Ladies who are financially stable. Ladies who are well doing to the call.

Not the ones that doesn't even have a job, it didn't stop there. Some don't have any degree certificate. Some just have only secondary school certificate. Some don't even have a good look. Though Bible says, all creation are made beautiful and wonderful but lack of money to maintain oneself makes lot of people to look the other way.

So, imagine such a lady making a list and choice of men. Am sure you already know the type of suitors that will come her way.

Am not saying such ladies don't have choice but all this rules and regulations given here can't work for ladies who are managing. Who even hardly see one suitor come their way and some you will see some god forsaken guys who are drug or alcohol addict come tripping their ways and very well to won't want to marry such people.

I do say if a lady is looking for a wealthy handsome hardworking guy, then she should also be someone who worth him.

**Fearless**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Youngbeauty(m) .:. Sat, 29 Jun, 2019 - 03:46:21:pm GMT

on how to know the right man is simply having to know the things you want in a man, just as it is with writing business plans and putting measures in place to get it done. So in this contest the plans are those things you wish to see in a man. Why should i accept this man? What are the characters he has that other men don't have that makes him the right person? Those are the things you consider before saying yes to any man.

To know the right man is a very serious task because one man can not have everything you want and that is the honest truth. So the best way to go about it is to know the most important traits and characters you want to see in a man and then watch them closely as they come to you. So once you see those traits my dear I think you can give such a person a try... But beware, for some people fake what they are not which is why you need to watch closely

even when some girls pray in other to get the right one,God can still give them but due to their rudeness they will lose him in a moment

all you do is to make sure that you are ready to keep him if you later get luck to have him,be prepared cause keeping the right man is not a joke stuff,and you need to watch very well,not all that act like sent are sent

**Obedience is better than sacrifice**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Flat(m) .:. Wed, 01 Jul, 2020 - 11:48:52:pm GMT

When the butterflies of another relationship start to blur away, how would you tell if the individual you're with is actually the individual you ought to spend a mind-blowing remainder with? There are an assortment of variables, and there are no simple "tests" to see exactly to what extent your latent capacity fortitude endures, however there are a few things you can search for that will assist you with measuring long haul similarity.

1. YOUR VALUES ALIGN.

Having a discussion about qualities, for example, family, otherworldliness, self-awareness and wellbeing is vital to ensure you and your better half are on the same wavelength as long as possible.

2. YOU CAN HAVE HEALTHY CONFLICTS.

Differences and clashes are not exclusively not out of the ordinary in any drawn out relationship, they can be evidence that you're in the privilege solid relationship on the off chance that you both handle things maturely. It's a sound sign that correspondence is flawless and the two partners are communicating their sentiments properly.

3. YOU BOTH HAVE A HEALTHY LEVEL OF INDEPENDENCE.

You would prefer not to be mutually dependent on one another to a degree where you lose your self-sufficiency. On the off chance that you or your accomplice need to depend or expect each other to deal with every one of their needs, this isn't acceptable.

4. YOU HAVE GOOD SEXUAL CHEMISTRY.

On the off chance that your accomplice is extraordinary on paper, however you come up short on a sexual sparkle or science, this can be significant down the line. You would prefer not to feel remorseful for the absence of sexual science, and you don't need your accomplice to feel regretful about the absence of science either, particularly in case you're spending the remainder of your carries on with together.

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Victoria(f) .:. Tue, 20 Oct, 2020 - 05:24:43:pm GMT

I usually wonder how on Earth I can know that too. As a child raised in a Christian home, the religious answer would be that when it is time to find him, the holy spirit will minister to you. Honestly, I'm not quite satisfied with that answer. How am I even supposed to hear him speak, is there supposed to be like bells ringing and wind blowing and then I'll come to a sudden realization that this guy is the one for me? That's usually what comes to my mind when someone tells me something like that and frankly I am tired of hearing that answer.

I feel when you meet your right guy, you'll know it. Do not lie, I know deep in every girls heart, she has a perfect description of what she wants her perfect guy to be. As ladies, we usually have a long list of requirements for our husbands or boyfriends to fulfill before we can ascertain that they really are the ones. These lists are usually fitments of our imaginations and lists we conjure up from novels we've read and movies we've watched. It gives us a warped sense of judgement and drives us crazy, for real.

I feel when you meet a guy that meets all your requirements, then you can know automatically that he is the one. But on the other hand, what happens when you can't find someone who meets all your requirements? Do you throw in the towel and say you aren't going to be in any relationship and then subject yourself to a life of loneliness, despair and regret? I hope not. That wouldn't be a sensible option. The perfect guy would be a guy that loves you unconditionally. How do you know that guy? He's the one that never gives up on you and keeps on chasing after you even when you act uninterested. I do not mean the stalker kind of guys though. No way. Your mister right will eventually come around and you don't need to wait around for the rest of your life. You'll find him, okay?

**Live, love and heal...**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Abbey(m) .:. Wed, 21 Oct, 2020 - 10:22:02:am GMT

This goes to the ladies knowing the right man is not what you can discover very easily, in this case ladies have to be careful before taking decision on who to be in relationship with, this day people get divorce for no reason or for less reason

men are like a finished product which has an expier date, and also ladies can't enjoy life with out men God created us to help each other, God has already destind the life of everyone

A lady can't discover the right man in relationship because guy usually keep away their original character in courtship but after been engaged or let me say after marriage then you now know the truth colour of a man

I think the right thing in this case prayer only God can lead you to the right path, only God can lead you to the right person

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Holashayo(f) .:. Wed, 21 Oct, 2020 - 11:01:17:am GMT

"don't agree with any until you are sure of the the man you want". That is the only part that I agree with you on.

I see it as a waste of time and a dirty act by dating one than one man in order to know the Mr. right. Let me tell you, you can never find it with that thinking.

You have to be in the right place for you to get the right man.

Dating series of men will only bring you

Confusion and false love.

It is not possible for you to get the right man with your knowledge because human looks at face but God looks at the heart.

Do you think it will be okay if you tell a guy you have someone else you are dating?. Even if he doesn't talk, he has some dangerous plan in mind for you.

He will sense that you are actually looking for the right man among them, so he will start living a fake life just to get you. He will start pretending for it to look like he is the right man for you.

You, of course cannot see his mind, so you will mistake him for the right man.

Love is not about qualifications, characteristics, achievement or wealth. It is a natural affectionately for you.

If you are so concerned about a man's wealth or attitude which can never be change, lies will definitely comes in. I had dated a guy that was so jealous about me dating another guy who is richer than he is. So he lied to me one day that he has secured a job worth 40k per month. I couldn't believe it, so I did a little investigations on it and I discovered that he was ling.

I have tried to change a guy I was dating before. He changed but it was of a pretense just to satisfy me. Little did I know that he had a guenue love for me then, but I made a big mistake.

Love matters most In every relationship.

A guy may have all the attribute you want but yet he is not the right man for you. And the man you dislike most might be the right man for you.

I have learnt my lesson so I don't believe in having series of boyfriends for check.

**Damiswag**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: AdaJesus(f) .:. Fri, 18 Dec, 2020 - 10:20:33:am GMT

@Youngbeauty:

Well, I feel when the right man comes for every normal lady, deep down inside you, you just know he is the one.

Others can come, and you feel like it, but deep down there is always this insatisfaction that you just know he's not the perfect man.

And when the perfect man comes, everything feels alright and just seem cool. You don't struggle to impress him, you don't fight to have him, and you find out that most times, understanding is so mutual.

You both tend to understand each other deeply, and most times they may not possess all of the 100 percent qualities, but deep down inside you, you just find the attraction to stay glued to them.

Plus, when you find the right man, most times, they don't even rush you, they tend to push thisngs slowly like there's this assurance that everything is gonna be just alright...

Lastly, I feel, when you meet the right man, you tend tk feel more at peace than ever before, you tend tk confide in them more, and the right one helps you discover certain aspects of you that you never figured out, becaue it's just like meeting the other part of you that was far away.

It feels so beautiful to be with the right man

**AdaJesus**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Chamak(f) .:. Fri, 18 Dec, 2020 - 12:23:34:pm GMT

Sometimes I see some topics and I'm amazed as to why it should come up in the first place because there is no formula out there or procedure that will make all men behave the same way so why come up with a list of attributes that you feel will work for you as the steps for every lady to know the right man to marry.

Every woman has their unique preferences as regards men and what a woman is looking for in a man is completely different from what another woman is looking for in another man so sometimes I just feel some topics are not meant to be dwelled on.

Funny enough, there are many women out there that won't even consider anything listed on the post as an option because it just doesn't fit in. There are many ladies out there that prefers men that will be beating them blue black all the time because they feel that is the only way they can sit up but there is nothing on the list here that talks about that.

To me I just find it awkward that some people just feel they can come up with a list of the right man or woman.

**chamak collections**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Fri, 18 Dec, 2020 - 02:24:59:pm GMT

@Velisa: that's was so inspiring Velisa. You can be busy searching for the right man while u're not the right woman for him.

The real truth is that you might eventually find him, but the question is do you have what it takes to keep him???

Most ladies are so materialistic to the extent that they see marriage and relationship as a means of running away from responsibilities.

When the right man comes into your life he would stay for some time but he would eventually leave because he might not be able to cope with that attitude.

Most ladies are looking for a man that earns seven to eight digits as salary but they themselves do not earn two digits.

Most ladies are so proud and rude and the worst part is that they expect guys to come into their and tolerate to their silly attitude in the name of love.

If you want the right man you need to have what it takes to keep him.

You need to be prepared for him.

Love is about sacrifice, commitment, perseverance, patience and hard work.....

**Just me**

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Abbey(m) .:. Wed, 10 Aug, 2022 - 01:21:45:pm GMT

How to know the right man can be determine in the olden days but in these present generation of our own time my sister you can't actually said that this is the right man , I am a man and we man are very desperate in nature even some one who you think that is not the right man can actually be the right man .

It take only the grace of God to know that right man whom God has prepare for you not by your own personal thinking or believe.

Some ladies will even go to the extreme of saying I trust him in thses generation forget about trust even don't trust yourself also rather than putting your trust in another person .
At this junction seek for God attention in prayers and you will be lead to the right man.
Don't forget God first then others.

**Abbey **

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Re: HOW TO KNOW THE RIGHT MAN by: Abbey(m) .:. Wed, 10 Aug, 2022 - 01:29:01:pm GMT

Don't forget that pretenders are every where with their sugar mouth , young guys of today are full of lies some will even get married to a lady because of her money after getting all the money he will be no were to be found.

As a girl you can be in a relationship with many guys as possible but how do you figure out the right one will be the problem the heart of a man is full of evil so don't rely on anyone yet except if it ment to be .

Take your time nurse your ambition because getting married is to be happy and have fullness of joy .
Also applicable tk women we have good women and also the bad women so it all goes together .
**Abbey **

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