Babe-Fishing/Dating » HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 03:00:22:pm GMT

Stay away from undefined relationships, a person who truly cares about you will define what it is you are being asked to be a part of.

You are a person deserving of care, attention, dedication and commitment. That involves asking you to be a part of the journey. But how can you be a part of the journey when you have been repeatedly refused definition of the journey?

What are we doing?
Where are we leading to?
How long will this take?
What role do I play?
What are the backup plans?

These are questions that should have been given answers to, when asked by you.

You do not want to wake up in 5 years time wondering why you spent the last 5 years in a relationship that was never a relationship.

What gets defined gets measured, Peter Drucker said but if this relationship cannot be defined, how can it be measured, let alone achieved? Why should you stay in it?

It will be scary to think about moving on after having committed. You may look back and feel all you need is just one more year, but that won't count because a person who never involved you in a journey enough for you to know, or respect you enough to explain it to you, never really loved you like you truly deserve.

Have your relationship defined today. It doesn't need to be achieved today but know what you are into.


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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Piwizo(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 08:48:03:pm GMT

A relationship that has no goals and no plans which you are working towards, is not a defined relationship.

A relationship whereby all you do when you meet is have sex, then it's not defined.

A relationship in which you don't know why you are into it. Then it isn't defined.

It takes a serious partner to get a defined relationship.

It can't be really easy to achieve that. But you must have a goal for your relationship.

To avoid heartbreak, you must learn to identify a relationship that won't last or a relationship that isn't trustworthy.

And once you define that you are in a undefined relationship. I will advice you leave.

A relationship should have goals. You both should be able to sit and make decisions towards the future even if you don't have much at hand.


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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Fellybabe(f) .:. Sun, 09 Jun, 2019 - 06:48:50:am GMT

A defined relationship at times end up breaking.

Yeah! You both made plans, you decide when you are getting married.

You already made plans of everything about your future down but break up still comes and take over.

Am not saying having a defined relationship is wrong but I just want you to know that it is not a guarantee to marriage.

In fact, the more trust you put in that relationship the greater your pains when you break up.

After you've made so much plans of when to marry. You already trust your partner with everything. And there is a break up, it will affect you seriously.

Many defined relationship don't even work well at the end. Some guys will deceive the lady just so she can be so committed to him and making her see the relationship as the right and defined one.

But future tells at the end.

**God's light**

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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Velisa(f) .:. Sun, 09 Jun, 2019 - 05:25:11:pm GMT

Most relationships at times are very hard to define.

You don't even know where the relationship is heading to.

You both as partner doesn't discuss anything.

You make no plans together.

You don't care to talk about each others career.

You don't care to talk about each others plan.

All you do every time is either having sex or quarrelling.

Such relationship can not last and will never have a good end.

You've being in a relationship with a guy for seven years, yet no plans of marriage, no plans of anything. All you do is have sex day and night.

You even sextant couples who are married.

It's absolutely absurd.

Let your relationship have a meaning.

Guys, if you are keeping a lady, you've loved to marry but changed your mind because you don't like her attitudes. And you know already that you can not marry her. Tell her the truth and let her go.

Stop destroying the future of innocent girls.

Stop wasting their precious time. Ladies get old quickly than men. And they are very weak vessels.

If you can't define your relationship with that girl, then let her go.

If you can't define your relationship with that guy, then let him go.

If it looks like you are in a relationship that looks like just mere friends relationship, then you should know there is something wrong there.

Let it be shown that you are in a relationship not a friend stuff.


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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Confidant(f) .:. Tue, 09 Jul, 2019 - 06:10:01:pm GMT

Many people believe a man is never complete until he finds a wife, the supposed missing rib and just as there is the right missing rib, there is also a fake or wrong "missing rib". If you are unfortunate to find the fake "missing rib" you are doomed or finished not complete.

Being in a wrong relationship is not just stressful, it makes your heart tired and your soul worn out. No matter how much effort you put in or how good you try to be, it still seems whatever you give is not enough to keep the relationship. You get hurt, you worry and are sad. Such relationships leave your mind with questions such as

"why is relationship so difficult or complicated, why can't I just be happy in relationship".

Happiness in relationship is not too much to ask, loving without worry is not expensive. In fact, everyone deserves to be happy and have peace of mind. This is not something impossible, but that is not possible when you settle down with the wrong person.

Relationship is not complicated, it is so simple and if you choose to be in one, all you need is to be honest and loyal. You suffer when you settle with someone who is not honest or loyal.

Be with someone who is the same privately, publically and personally. Don't be with someone who is comfortable holding you in private but ashamed of holding you in public. Don't just believe people who only say they love you, believe it when they show that they love you.

Don't let him show you to his family whilst he has other women in his life he doesn't want to let go. Don't let her introduce you to her pastor when she has Exes she can't live a day without talking to.

Don't go looking for a perfect relationship, look for a loyal one a person who will stay with you until the end of your journey in life someone who will stand together with you in difficult times. Be with someone who wants to see you happy even if they are not part of your happiness.

Someone who won't betray your friendship for anything, someone who is afraid of losing you. Be with someone who protects you. Someone who does the little gestures that show you are important and are happy having you in their life. Gestures like "I miss you" text messages in the middle of the day, in your busy schedules, Being the first person they want to talk to when something exciting happens during the day the random call just to hear your voice.

Don't be with someone who lies to you, for you are not a kid. Nobody needs to tell you lies to keep smiles on your face. Be with someone who speaks the truth.
Be with someone who will fight for you if the one you are dating is the opposite of the one I have spoken of in this message, then maybe it's time to call it quits. Don't waste your life with time wasters, for time is one of the most expensive commodities in life. It is more costly than money. You can always regain lost money but not lost time.


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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Tony4mega(m) .:. Thu, 03 Oct, 2019 - 02:41:45:pm GMT

Love is quite different from lost, the first should not be mistaken for the second in a relationship when this is taken or noted in a relationship it will serve as a compass that will help guide them make decision in thier relationship but when this which is the foundatiom is not noted before dating thr relationship stand a great chance of crashing that is it will not stand the test of time at all.

**Let love lead**

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Re: HAVE A DEFINED RELATIONSHIP by: Dynameak(f) .:. Tue, 19 May, 2020 - 09:25:53:pm GMT

A thing without definition is useless and more to it is a commitment that doesn't have a guide. To define a relationship is simply to make known what the relationship is about and to the immediate environment what it stands for.

Any relationship that doesn't get a definition from the beginning is opened to breaking off at some point either from disorganized priorities from parties involved or individual excesses which has more to do with characteristics. To define a relationship gives it meaning and such definition serves as a navigator for the relationship. A lot of abusive relationships were founded on a weak ground which clearly kicked off from a lack of definition to why the relationship is in existence.

Supposedly, in a mentor-mentee relationship if the Mentee doesn't make his/her intention known to the supposed mentor about the desire to be mentored in an area then such relationship is baseless because it lacks definition. Also, if a random guy pops lovely lines in admiration of your appearance and being a lady moved by what you hear smile in response to such commentary but didn't take out time to talk what's happening between you and the guy but in your head you already have a love relationship image magnifying itself ushhhhh you are already in an undefined relationship and that's so unhealthy. Not just the female gender is victim of undefined relationships, the male gender fall victim too. For instance, a man might feel because he gives a young lady gifts that he authomatically is in a love relationship with her but the lady doesn't feel a thing for him.

The most important thing to do when you meet someone is to define what's up between the both of you so as to avoid stories that touch the heart because assumption is a big time killer.

**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **

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