Romance » Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Ninoevans(m) .:. Tue, 26 Jan, 2021 - 03:21:11:pm GMT
The Nigerian economy is harsh with everyone looking for ways to survive the harsh realities of the covid 19 era. In the midst of these pandemic, the needs of man remains constant and resources also remain scarce. Love which is a basic necessity and an innate desire also remains constant. The truth is that everyone has to be extremely careful before they jump into any form of relationship because there is depression and frustration in the land. Many people are basically surviving because of their loved ones that they look forward to sharing pleasant moments with everyday. Heartbreak during these period may be very disastrous especially when one or both parties are unable to manage it properly.
Everyone should first of all try to take care of their mental health and look out for emotionally stable and matured partners to go into a relationship with. There tales of guys killing their girlfriend because of infidelity problems and their inability to manage such situations. Infidelity is also on the rise as many ladies in this present age, are easily swept away by their lust for money and material things. So they run after men that can provide these material things for them even when they are in a stable relationship. Some of the girls of this age have up to 3-4 boyfriends who they keep to meet their different needs. Guys are also not left out as they use the opportunity to lure innocent young girls into immoral acts once they acquire some level of success.
In other to avoid story that touch the heart, it is important that people look out for partners that are emotionally stable so that they will not be sent to their early grave. No matter how much you love a guy, if he is not emotionally stable and shows the tendency of being violent towards you, end the relationship before it goes deep and out of hand. This is because, such guys can easily murder you if they are faced will difficult situations that they cannot handle. Gilrs these days are also taking their lives because of infidelity. Let's be careful and stay safe. God help us
**Creativity lies in the imagination of man**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Abbey(m) .:. Sun, 07 Feb, 2021 - 06:56:28:pm GMT
The country is not encouraging during this period because everyone is struggling to survive to put food on the table this time is not easy, I pity those parents with many children and also this children will eat three times in a day.
During pandemic majority of people find it difficult to feed their families, does that mean we are not going to to the necessary things in our life one have to be very careful with the kind of person who you are going into relationship with, although with our prayers and effort I believe things are going to be right during this period some ladies pick up there race any run after men in return for money.
I appreciate every parent I could se very clearly that to be a parent is not easy things are getting hard every day, every one looks for possible ways to survive.
If it happen that you won't to go into a relationship think twice before you take your decision and make sure that the person who you are moving on with is emotional stable not a person who will be deceiving you for nothing look for a person who will love you deeply and accept you as you are.
**Abbey **
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Abbey(m) .:. Sun, 07 Feb, 2021 - 07:16:46:pm GMT
because things are hard that doesn't mean we are not going to live our lives, we will live but it may not be as we desire, because things are hard that doesn't mean that we are not going to get married or have a family everyone already know that struggle continue.
There are some guys out there which believe that until they get rich before they settle down and build there family now the question is untill when will you get rich, some guy believe if they are in a relationship with a girl and they did not have money they can't manage the girl, it depends on the type of person who you are dating and also in this case understanding matter.
So don't think beyond your memory because of your health if you think too much your body system will be affected negatively, don't let the success of your peers to you under pressure work hard and have the determination that you will also succeed in life don't look down on yourself don't create chance for depression to overcome your heart.
Every one are shouting things are heard and they are building houses, everyone are shouting there is no money and they are doing great things buying cars.
**Abbey **
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: TYMartins(f) .:. Mon, 08 Feb, 2021 - 11:49:41:am GMT
Emotional Maturity is really a criteria for marriage, not only marriage though, but a criteria to live and maintain your sanity. In every relationship and as we go through life, it is very important that we stay sane by keeping our emotions in check. How you've handled your emotions so far would be a determinant on how mentally stable you are assured to be.
Many people have always placed logicality above emotions like emotions aren't something worth looking into. Emotions are like the very blood that flows through man. You can't go through life without the expression of emotions. We are emotional beings. We were created to express emotions. Those hard guys and hard girls you've been seeing all around are also displaying a form of emotion. No one is emotionless, except you are lifeless or without a heart. Fear, love, anger, joy, sorrow, anxiety, excitements are all emotions that keep us going. No matter what we face or go through,we are required to express a form of emotion.
Having being created as emotional beings, it is important for us to mature emotionally. When we were babes, we acted like babes, but as we grow and mature by the day, we ought to act like matured people. It's funny you still see a grown man or woman act so immature and you wonder why...the answer to that is AGE IS NOT MATURITY. There would be a time that comes where your age won't matter but how mature you are in handling things would be required of you.
2020 was a year no one saw coming. No one thought of it, no one prepared for it. As it came , so has it gone but it's effect would still be felt. Your ability to stay sane and emotionally stable would have been tested and tried yet you came out strong. It shows how emotionally matured you are. Some lamented their way through,while others too charge of the situation.
Our parents were not left out. Their ability to ensure everyone in the family was okay took a great deal of emotional strength. So, why would you want to ignore this as a single or about to be married person. There would come times when things may not go as planned, where you would need to rely on your partner for strength just to find out it's a dead end as well. A time would come when nothing out there would make sense and all you just want is to go home but to what? Your partner does not have the ability to even help you stay calm. Uncontrollable emotions flying about with no one to keep either calm.
As an individual, you need mature emotionally to stay mentally stable in a world that's evolving unstably.
**With God nothing is impossible**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Lilcent(m) .:. Mon, 08 Feb, 2021 - 12:13:45:pm GMT
Many attimes it's not very easy to deal with heart breaks.
Some people would tell you to move on when the person you're in a relationship with breaks up with you like it's so easy.
Which is not true.
That is why many attimes I don't blame people for their harsh reactions or their inability to handle their when they're heart broken.
But I strongly believe is that the best way to move on for the heart break is by forgiving the person that hurt you no matter how bad you feel.
That is the first step to moving on from that relationship.
Forgiveness brings freedom to the heart.
It might take time for the wound to heal, but it heals when you forgive the person that hurt you.
Always remember that what is coming is better than what is gone.
**liltech**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: KestyBrown(m) .:. Mon, 08 Feb, 2021 - 01:15:28:pm GMT
Emotions is what makes we humans, an entity of being (human being). As we age we tend to grow in maturity as well as emotions.
What is Marriage? Marriage is the interconnection or best put, the union between two matured, I repeat, Matured humans, not children not small averaged minds. Now, marriage involves a matured man and matured woman who have come of age and are rational in making decisions. In Marriage, there are important factors one needs to look upon, some of which are financial aids, academic criterion (in some cases) and emotional maturity.
The emotional maturity is the main thing to be talked upon. A young man at the age of 28 can marry, if he has financial independence and other obligations to see him through as a man and father. The other important thing is emotionally matured/balanced. A man who doesn't know how to handle his emotions wouldn't build his home strong and firm. If he is one that any little thing that happens, makes him flare up, leads to argument, anger or fighting with his significant other shows he isn't emotionally ready for marriage. Likewise, a woman, she is known as the Building rock (home builder) of her family as the man is the Pillar of the home. Any successful family one sees today, know that the woman has added advantage to the success of a family.
In our contemporary times, people think its just about dating and sleep all around with people that makes one matured. No, it is about the compatibility, trust and the emotional needs to cater for each other's wants.
In essence, build good emotions for a successful marriage.
**The pursuit of Excellence is gratifying and healthy **
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Holashayo(f) .:. Mon, 08 Feb, 2021 - 01:33:38:pm GMT
Emotional maturity!.
Let's say we got a partner who we assume is emotionally stable during courtship, but end up showing the opposite of it after five years of marriage.,what should we call that?.
This country is not helping in that area at all. Imagine man who got a family to take care of who keep suffering from lack of job or inadequate income. Do you think gentleman would not become the violent man in the house?.,of course he will transfer the aggression to his wife.
I know a story of a man who is married but not with a child because the man doesn't have a capable job at hand and the wife got no job. They have both searched for a good job since they graduated, but all efforts proves aborive.,so they are only feeding on the money the man got from teaching.
They are both managing and living fine.,not until they heard the news of their house being sold to a rich man, who gave the two months notice, to pack away from the house..as if that wasn't enough of a problem., It was also annouced that the school where the husband was teaching was bought by the same man, and he dismissed some of the staffs for the new ones.,in which the husband is among them.
The husband, on getting home was fustrated and angered...he become so lousy and violent in the house and outside.,that he went to cause a sense at one of the companies he submitted letter to, and even went for interview.
He was so angry and wanted to know why they didn't call him after they promised they will call.
Imagine that. A man who went to school, spend money and graduated.,all in the hope of getting a good job.,but the country end up turning him down.,o don't think he will be emotionally stable.
**Damiswag**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Victoria(f) .:. Thu, 04 Mar, 2021 - 07:39:34:pm GMT
Emotional maturity is one of the key things needed for a marriage or any relationship to succeed. I was once thought that before going into a relationship, you had to make sure that you were financially stable, emotionally mature and psychologically sound. Dating or marriage is super expensive even without children being brought into the mix. In a relationship, you have to buy gifts, call everyday if not several times in a day even, you have to go over to his or her place, the parents' place and you have to buy gifts for them when you go over to theirs too and don't forget the siblings and the extended family members too. It's all a never ending cycle of spending your money over and over again. Also you have to make sure that you are sane enough for a relationship. If you're the type of person that tends to be extremely violent when you lose your temper, then you haveno business going into a relationship. You should seek for help from a therapist first before you go into the relationship because you can't go into the relationship and then make life miserable for someone else's son or daughter. Being mature emotionally is a very important thing too. If you know that your emotions are still like that of a child then you shouldn't be in a relationship either. As you grow, your emotions should also grow with you. You can't grow and be a big girl and then leave your emotions to run around all over the place like a toddler who just started to walk. This means you should act mature. No more deep rooted jealousy over tiny and minute things, no more unnecessary fights, no more quarrells and arguments over things that can be solved with mere words. You should be able to own up to all your errors and mistakes. You can't be perfect but at least try to be. Do your best to be the best you can be.
**Live, love and heal...**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Victoria(f) .:. Thu, 04 Mar, 2021 - 07:40:18:pm GMT
There was a friend of mine who was always getting in and out of relationships. She didn't stay in a relationship long enough for it to count as an actual relationship. She was always getting into fights with them and then after the break up, she would come crying to us her friends and ask us what she did wrong again. We would keep quiet though. We had told her a million times what was wrong with all her relationships but she would never. She was the problem. Well, not she herself as a person but her attitude. I'm sure if she came to this world as a guy, she would be one of those underground fighters. She was the kind of person to pick up fights unnecessarily. She was something else
She was a friend of mine but even I was scared of her. We didn't even want to tell her the problem in her relationships because we were super scared that she would get mad at us but we just had to do it because we were her friends and friends were supposed to be truthful to each other at all times and also because we were tired of her asking the same thing over and over again. Well, it wasn't like she stopped asking anyway. She actually did get angry with us when we told her but she quickly got over it when she saw that we were acting quite non chalant about it. We ourselves wouldn't have known if some of her exes hadn't confided in us. Apparently, she was always looking for ways to pick up fights. To them, it was like she was picking those fights because she wasn't fully interested in being in a relationship. The truth was that she only got into those fights because she didn't know how else to handle situations she wasn't comfortable with. Her emotional maturity hadn't reached the extent of learning how to settle matters without a fight.
**Live, love and heal...**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: KestyBrown(m) .:. Fri, 05 Mar, 2021 - 05:10:33:am GMT
Marriage, as we all know is the communion, or best put the coming together of a matured man and a matured woman inorder to become one flesh in holy matrimony. The maturity encompasses all facets of life, emotionally, financially, academically as well as other required features. The main feature to be addressed in this write up is the emotional feature.
It is really surprising to see a matured man and matured woman not guiding their affections over petite (small) matter, some rather choose violence instead of peace. This shows their immaturity and childlishness when it comes to marriage, it basically shows that they are not matured enough to manage their marital status.
Agreed, we are all humans, we have hearts/mind which gives us emotions, but when it comes to some certain parts, its best we keep calm and look at it from the person's perspective, is it really worth it to go into fight with the individual(partner/fellow)? But no, some people don't reason that way, and the side effects is somewhat damning.
Imagine working on the street and because of menial understanding between the man and his wife, the man retaliates and tarnishes the image of the woman in public because of his anger issues. This is not right, as the man is succinctly being immature.
Seek emotional independence and intelligence in marriage as a skill, ans your marriage will be blissful.
**The pursuit of Excellence is gratifying and healthy **
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Fri, 05 Mar, 2021 - 02:24:21:pm GMT
Before one should think of marriage.
You have to as yourself if you are actually prepared for task ahead.
Marriage is a lifetime decision.
So it is not something a man should just go into because others or your colleagues are already already getting married.
You've got to be emotionally matured enough before you think of getting married.
When you lack emotional maturity.
It might result in you losing your partner on the long run.
You've got to train your mind to control your emotions.
If not u'll keep losing it all the time.
**Just me**
Re: Emotional Maturity: A Criteria for Marriage by: Abbey(m) .:. Wed, 10 Aug, 2022 - 01:08:16:pm GMT
You will accept the fact that marriage is not what you run into it should be based on what you have plan for or ahead of before taking an action .
What is emotional maturity i will say it is a way of life in a person mind in terms of looking at things ,approaching things and taken properly or Handel things in the right side .
If you are not emotional mature you can not be a husband or be a wife both male and female have to be emotionally mature before coming together if not crisis will not live your home even for once.
Husband you can be broke down for some month and if God has given you a mature wife no one will hear about it she will cover up for you until you are back to the normal position.
**Abbey **