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Education » Dealing with Rejection by: Ninoevans(m) .:. Sun, 15 Nov, 2020 - 05:27:15:pm GMT

I never knew that rejection is a very serious issue that everyone especially young adults should learn how to deal with, until i came across the book "How to Handle Rejections" by the Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya. I was blessed by the book and the lessons learnt gave me sleepless night as i reflected on it. The book made me realized that we all in one way or the other have negatively affected the life of some of pur friends and colleagues without realizing it.

Some of us bullied our friends and colleagues and made them feel less than themselves. we were too quick to remind them of their poor background and defects. we even used their defects to nick name them and felt good joking about their weaknesses. By doing this, we bruised their self-confidence and made them feel rejected. Nigeria is not a place where people are allowed to be emotional and in our their usual ways the victims with pretend to handle it in our presence but when they get back home, they isolate themselves and reminisce on all the negative words that we said to them. we made them feel rejected and inadequate.

While some people were able to move on, others just suppressed it but it is still haunting them deep inside. we made them feel rejected, classless and without importance. we bruised their love, trust and friendship. Today, some of these people have trust issues, they live in solitude because they feel inadequate. some of them lost their voice and confidence. Some feel ashamed to confront us and are having problems keeping relationship. But these voices deserved to be heard. Some after professing love, abandoned those we claim we loved for another. This is the reason why many people are finding it hard to make commitment to their relationship. They vent their frustration and anger through other means like belonging to cult groups, engaging in drugs and illicit sex, battery of their spouse, keeping multiple partners, living a life of solitude, living in fear, always seeking fir people's approval and more.

To those experiencing some of the issues listed above, you need to go back and do a deep searching withing you. You need to identify what caused that anger, addiction, pain, fear and let go. This is because you're not the problem, you're not inadequate in fact you're just human. Don't let the words of others destroy your life. You need to let go of the past and give love a chance. Trust the future to give you a better experience, pray and seek counseling. To those who made the lives of other miserable through their acts and words, if you can remember them, just reach out to them and seek their forgiveness. Make them feel love again and gain back their confidence.

Have you in any way felt rejected or have anyone in any way made you feel rejected? share your experience with us on the comment section.

**Creativity lies in the imagination of man**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Abiodun(m) .:. Sun, 15 Nov, 2020 - 08:55:38:pm GMT

dealing with rejection. rejected can be hard. it can make you sad. hurt. surprised or angry. in general. getting rejected rarely feels good. so how do people deal with it. this factsheet is to share some tools and strategies to help you prepare for. cope with .and recover from rejection. accepting rejection can be difficulty. even after the initial hurt has passed. here are some things to think about when working on accepting rejection. you often need rest to heal with physical pain. the same can be said of the pain of rejection. so treat yourself. some people like exercising. or ice cream. or watching their favourite movies. do what makes you feel better. maybe your friends don't like the movie you want to see. or maybe your neighbour dog runs away. when you want to pet it. we get rejected all the time. recognizing and accepting the little ways that you might experience rejection can help you make it easier .when you get rejected for bigger things. like relationships or jobs. or school.
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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Chamak(f) .:. Sun, 15 Nov, 2020 - 11:26:20:pm GMT

This is a very interesting write up and a major issue in our society today. Rejection is something that every individual will experience in one way or the other whether we like it or not. It might happen to anyone either through your loved ones or people who are not close to you or it might even be from both.

Rejection is really something that needs to be studied because it affects people's emotions and when it is handled wrongly, the result is usually devastating. Many issues we experience in different facet of life these days are as a result of rejections. For example, commitment is now a big problem in relationships these days especially when the people involved have been rejected in one way or the other in their previous relationships.

Also, in rejection affects people too when it comes to job haunting. Many people have given up when it comes to looking for job because of the way and manner in which some of these employers treat people. That is why we see some people who are now self employed hardly say good things about salary based employment.

As regards the issue of rejection, a lot of awareness is needed because it will go a long way in helping people on how to handle it. People react to things differently so while there are people who handle rejection poorly, there are still some who handle it well and use it as a source of inspiration to become a better person.

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Obajichi(f) .:. Mon, 16 Nov, 2020 - 11:03:41:am GMT

People face rejection in many areas of life. In fact, this is one problem that has led to suicide. It also causes depression.

There are ways of dealing with rejection:

*by getting the issue out of your mind:- some people easily let go off issues & bounce back to their usual self.

*Talk to someone mature about the issue that makes you feel rejected.

*Hope for something better believing that being rejected today, does not mean denial. Tomorrow could turn out to be more glorious & you'd have the best of that which you were rejected for or denied from having.

**I love being me.**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Flat(m) .:. Tue, 17 Nov, 2020 - 03:37:33:pm GMT

Hmmm! Life is like a circle, it continues to rotate from one point to another, at the end of each point, we will meet different kind of things inclusive of human. It is not compulsory but it can be assumed that being rejected at some time might make someone think straight. You see, if you haven’t feel rejected before, it then means those that surrounds you are deceiving you. Rejection might be as a result of your own attitude, character, behaviour, the way you relate with the environment, it might be as a result of the way you handle things, it might be that the way they do things in that environment is not in line with your own way of doing things, it might be that you are currently facing what you think it's unsolvable. These are things that could make someone feel rejected but in the midst of all this, what is the right thing to do. If rejection is not properly dealt with, it can make someone to think of committing suicide, it can make someone to just assume some unrealistic expectations.

So, what we need to do in times like this is to run a check upon ourselves and see where the problem is. Because the problem might not be from outside, it might be within yourself, you might be the one that need to work upon your character, the way you handle things and most importantly always learn to talk to people whenever you feel rejected so that you will not enter into depression because the failure to talk with people, share your feelings with people might make one enter into depression and that alone is enough to end one’s life. Again, there are times when we assume that we are being rejected when there is no one rejecting us, we just need to just be happy, work upon ourselves and at all times talk to that person you feel is rejecting you.

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: TYMartins(f) .:. Tue, 17 Nov, 2020 - 06:59:52:pm GMT

Rejection is bound to come to us whether we like it or not. How we deal with rejections however is more important. Being rejected does not signify the end of the world or the end of the road, it may be a pointer for you to take another direction, tread another path or even call off that relationship for good. Fighting rejection off your way doesn't matter because newsflash: life happens. We face rejection for various reason. For some they've been rejected by someone they love, some might have been rejected from admissions, some might have been rejected from their dream companies, some might have even been rejected by themselves. Sounds funny right. We all have one or two things that have made us feel the pains of rejection bit guess what, we are still standing.

Life goes on the way it should. Life happens to many and what do we do about that, we move on. Dwelling on the pains from rejections or even dwelling in that state, refusing to move on is in itself detrimental both to your health and your sanity.

Rejections are like failures or mistakes, they are bound to happen. But as we learn from mistakes and failures, we can as well learn from rejections. One thing I've come to understand about life as it is, is that, for everything that happens to you to every situation that you find yourself in, good or bad, there's a lesson to be learnt. Most of us may not get to see that message being passed in the experience because we are hurting but every experience has a message, we need to calm down to get the message. Some rejections may be eye openers, some may just unfortunate, but we have to move on. Don't let the setback of now put a hold on your direction or your plans or your target. You are your own person. Every decision you make now determines the outcome you get.

**With God nothing is impossible**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Tue, 17 Nov, 2020 - 07:24:41:pm GMT

Nice write up bro. At some point in our life we feel rejected and lonely a lot of people have committed suicide as a result of rejection and loneliness.

I could remember on my twenty third birthday wen I was at home, I was hungry, broke and no one called to wish me a happy birthday.

At that point I felt like the worst person on earth, a lot of things were going on in my head as at that point. It even got to the extent that I felt like committing suicide because I felt no one ever liked me.

But that evening while I was strolling in my street with my deep thoughts of rejection I came across a guy coincidentally on the street, one thing leading to another we were discussing and talking about life as a whole, he made a statement that touched me and even changed my mindset.

He told me that man was never designed to be happy, man was designed to compete, adapt and fight for survival just like every other animal. Happiness is like a feather tossed in the air, so no matter how the wind blows the feathers, it would surely come down.

For me to be feel happy I have to construct my happiness my own way, because my body needs to be happy inorder for me to be healthy. It is not only what we eat that keeps us alive but what we also feed our thoughts.

There are alot of reasons to be happy, no one was born by mistake and everyone was born to be great. The only reason why I'm not happy is because I choose to channel my energy on the negative things happening to me at that point in it when I'm supposed to channel my energy on the positive happenings in my life.

Those words really moved me and helped change my mindset about life.

**LAGOS**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Abosedegrace(f) .:. Wed, 10 Mar, 2021 - 09:49:30:am GMT

Yes! People have made me feel rejected many times.

When I was in secondary school, people used to bullied me with the way my teeth are. When am trying to giving an opinion they will silence me by telling me that I have a decayed teeth. It was really painful those times. In fact I was always rejected for so many things ranging from being small in stature, some will go to the extent of calling me a dwarf, I received nicknames for being small in stature, they will make jest of me because I was not weaving my hair as a girl. It was always very painful then I tell you. And throughout my secondary school days, I was not really that free with my peers despite the fact that right from my junior secondary school I was topping my class and I was always receiving gifts on prize giving day. This didn't change anything. It doesn't stopped them from pricking on me. And I was never free with my peers. I remembered then that I can't laugh without first covering my mouth so no one will see my teeth. In fact it was recently I stopped covering my mouth while laughing when I came across a dentist who made me realised that I don't have a decayed instead I was born that way. Then I will always wonder why my teeth were like that because am not a fan of eating sweet things and chocolate, have never even like much sugar on my tea or anything so how come? I couldn't find any answers.

So many students out there are being bullied one way or the other and just like me, most of them had no choice than to live with it.

It aren't easy at all, I just pray this book about rejection you are talking about will get to everyone that needs it so they will be free. AMEN.

**Redeemed to reign**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Lilcent(m) .:. Wed, 10 Mar, 2021 - 10:46:17:am GMT

A lot of people have been victims of rejection one way or the other.

It could be at home, in school, at your place of work, in church etc.

Some people see rejection as a set back.

These eventually affects their self development and progress in the future.

Rejection has also resulted in some people going as far as commiting suicide.

Which is not the best way to go about rejection.

When you are rejected by people around you.

When people look down on you like nothing good can come out of you.

Rather than feel bad about it,

The best way to go about it is to motivate yourself.

Always remember that rejections are one of the storms of life you must face.

Believe in yourself and I want you to know that u're the best version of yourself.

There can never be any other personality like.

Which shows that you're special.

**liltech**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Joyodishika247(f) .:. Wed, 10 Mar, 2021 - 05:44:12:pm GMT

Rejection has become a very devastating situation in the world today, many has lost their lives and most importantly purposes of life, because of this crucial issue globally its has lowered people's self confidence and esteem and also increased the rate of suicide in the world.

A lot of ways to deal with this issue has been suggested but not practised,one suggestion that is popularly mentioned is the attendance of victims to counsels and also visitation to psychological therapist who will give advises on how not to be devastated when this occur.

Another thing, is developing oneself on how to be self and physically buoyant it has been discovered by some psychologist that cases of rejection has being rampant and rampage amongst the inferior and those suffering from PPD(people paranoid disease).

In addition,the rate of discrimination and segregation towards the rejected people tends to be of high rate and has caused them to involve themselves in a lot of social vices and most people has died silently because of the inability to voice out but this can be dealt seriously with one on one conversation between victims and someone willing to listen to them and also public enlightenment on several ways to deal with Rejection.

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Vickybrown(m) .:. Thu, 18 Mar, 2021 - 02:20:05:pm GMT

One of the worst situations that can happen to a man is to feel rejected.

Rejection can affect a man psychologically, physically, mentally and emotionally.

A lot of people have committed suicide as a result of rejection.

Which is a wrong way of handling rejection.

One of the best ways to overcome rejection is to be honest with yourself about how you feel.

You should also know it is part of life because at some point in your life you'll be rejected.

Learn to pick yourself up and be strong because it would only last for a while

**Just me**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: TYMartins(f) .:. Tue, 23 Mar, 2021 - 06:01:06:pm GMT

Rejection is a not an emotion anyone would like to experience twice. This shows the extent of damage rejection could have on a person. Rejection brings with it a lot of hurts, pain, anger, jealousy, envy, low self esteem, lack of confidence, a nagging feeling of failure and many more. The chances of rejection having a positive impact when put against it's negative effect is slim. It would cost more damage than give a positive outlook.
Rejection is hard to deal with especially when you feel or think you can handle it yourself. Truth be told, no one can deal with rejection alone, if you don't tell it to an individual, you have to tell it to a God. You just can't avoid telling someone. The essence of this is that it helps you overcome the negative effects that come with rejection.
Rejections can lead to suicide to tell you how serious it is. Looking at the low self esteem that comes along with it, the feeling that you are not good enough is not something you can dwell on. It could lead to depression and so many after effect.
When going through rejection or having gone through it,make sure you always talk to a trusted person. It would help you outgrow it as well as overcome it.
**With God nothing is impossible**

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Re: Dealing with Rejection by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Wed, 11 May, 2022 - 03:48:35:pm GMT

Rejection is an important topic that needs to be taught in society. Many people have suffered different rejection. Rejection can come in different forms and if it’s not properly handled can lead to an abuse which has serious damage to the mental health.

To deal with a rejection, such an individual first needs to acknowledge it. Many times, we pretend not to see what’s happening and decide to move on, whereas there’s a deep hurt inside of us. Don’t live under shadow instead, acknowledge it.

When you’ve acknowledge that, the next step is to value yourself. Many people have allowed others to talk them down, and these have been a problem in their mental health. Don’t let anyone trample on your mental health. Instead, know that you are worth more than what you think you are worth. You are priceless!

The next step to take when dealing with rejection is to do away with negative people and negative thoughts. Don’ t let them cajole or make you feel rejected, but always know that you are wonderful and fearfully made by God.

**Always put God first **

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