Imagine a lady saying that her fiancé keeps worrying her daily that unless she give into his sexual advances, he wouldn't believe that she loves him. Seriously, I thought she would give him a good response but she was rather pleading. She said, this is a brother I love with the whole of my heart and I am convinced that he is meant to be Amy husband, that she cannot imagine what would happen to me if he should now quit my life.
You see, well you fail to be determined, you will definitely see what is right but won't follow it if you fail to discipline your self, you will find it difficult to make wise decisions. You see, I want you to firstly eradicate it from your kind that there is only one person that fits you for your soulmate. Because this is part of the reasons why a lot of people still stick to one person despite all visible odds that serves as signals to the impossibility of that marriage. They still stick to that conviction that can't take them anywhere. How can you tell me that you have a conviction about someone and that person is making sexual advancement towards you, still standing on the point that he will have to make is wish a reality and you are still talking about conviction.
So, the question now is, should she still stand with the conviction and stay with the guy or walkout of the relationship just as I said.
What a hard decision to make. But I feel before one makes such decision, you should just follow your heart and nothing more.
Relationship is more than just giving out sex,or having sex with the opposite partner .when you are in a relationship with someone you should know your worth your level and your capacity of understanding.
Even biblically sex before marriage is bad ,Christianity religion did not support that ,youth of these days sees nothing bad in that because they tagged it yo love .
You you are sure that you love me prove it with sex we are making a big mistake although is part of love making but there is another way to make love instead of sex.
After your marriage you can have sex as much as you wish .
That is the trick most guys use for ladies ,guy will ask you if you know that you love him he will have sex with you if you are not careful and you fall into the victim he might not marry you in the nearest future.
Ladies I don't say you shouldn't love ,it is a good thing to love have spouse but becareful of your personality don't let guys sees you as a nobody but somebody.
If he requested for sex and you don't give him let him go if he like,let him know that after paying your dowury before he has asses to have sex with you.
By now I think most ladies should AV sharpen up as this style that guy's uses doesn't sound new again except that even the lady as ever the ladies actually wants it themselves.
One thing I understand as a man is that it's not easy for a matured man to live long without having sex as it is being said the body is not firewood so this applies to the ladies themselves and I know the fact that we all have different sexual libidos at different levels as we want it more than ourselves.
some people's sexual libido may be very very high while some sexual libido may be very very low.
The fact is that both parties needs to play maturity so no matter what if a man loves a woman or a lady a needs to learn to control himself and wait.
Even as I've said before the waiting period is not so easy as the urge is very high only then could one understand what I really mean and even the ladies that have a high libido also.
Meanwhile in whichever way a lady that wants a man should have to control herself and the man should be able to wait for the lady so it should not be because of sex that the man wants to use that one to hold the lady to ransom and be having his way, a woman should know the man that loves her.
We also need to understand the fact that everyone cannot be the same as we all have different upbringings and all that and there are many circumstances that makes women to give men sex and this may be because they are poor they need money and other and they do not have access to money as a guy that is available for them at that particular time may be the family members are not well to do and all this should also have affected her if the guy should cut off the payment.
It is advised that ladies should get something on busy and not rely on the man as some habits are to be relying and be expecting money every time from man.
So this is a major factor that is to be considered also has some lady's mile not like this the truth is that if you keep on asking and requesting money he wants to have his way but if you are a blade is are very much ok then they request and the pressure will be reduced so all-in-all both parties should understand themselves and know how to go about the relationship.
**Help the needy and love everyone**
Against all odds some people tend to follow their heart in matters of love despite the fact that they know what they stand to lose.
People always make it seem as though love is just a feeling, well it is understandable cause the world we live in today is made to see what is wrong as alright.
Love is a verb an active word or action taken out of a decision made by an individual who has seen another as a mate or friend and says "okay I will do this and this not because I want to, but because I want to see you happy.
But people now mistake love for lust.
People will say do this for me to show me that you love me.
Of course love can be expressed through favours and giving but if that love is through is goes both ways.
What a woman takes or feels as a show of love is "attention, provision, and care' and what a man perceives as a show of love is submission and care.
If these things are not in both parties then there is a problem with such relationship.
In life on cannot or should never force urgency on another because of your selfish gain.
And we have to remember that God is the head of every marriage
**Get it done**
Even when things are wrong we do say is right because of love , it is better to open your eye now than to fall in the hand of a wrong person . yes love exist but do not be chance because of love most especially girls.
A real man will won't you to be the best in life and he will always appreciate you for who you are not for sex.
That why if I see some ladies running after guys all around and you are not even sure if he will be yours finally or not.
Love is not only sex some time it is commintment,affection and attention.