Love-Stories » Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Patooh(m) .:. Wed, 07 Jan, 2015 - 09:45:23:am GMT

I know a lady whose husband was promoted as a project manager in an oil and gas company in Canada. The guy called us to come and celebrate with him because within two months of landing in Canada he got a job in the company that promoted him within 6 months of working with them. The wife on the other hand has been in Canada for 5 years. She initially came to study for her masters. When she finished her studies, she tried to get her permanent residency through Canadian Experience but she was told she did not have enough experience. She was advised to do menial jobs in order to get her papers, which she did. She got her papers through that avenue. She tried getting a job in her field but she has not gotten any yet only data entry or customer service jobs. She brought the husband to Canada and within 2 months of coming to Canada the guy got a job. On the day of the celebration, she was complaining bitterly. She compared herself to her husband saying the guy does not even have masters. This surprised me. Can a wife be envious of her husband?
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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Funmo(m) .:. Mon, 16 Mar, 2015 - 10:27:32:pm GMT

COUPLES SHOULDN'T BE ENVIOUS OF EACH
OTHER'S SUCCESSES

Couple must not only become one in name, they must also in act, good times, bad times, successes or failures. So, the question of why one of them should be jealous of the other's success should be questioned. Neither the woman nor the man must be found with envy in regards to what one of them has. The marriage is a place where both have become one and own whatever the other has. But, in cases where one of them is envious of the other, some of the reasons could be any of these.

IGNORANCE

Most times, people engage in some nefarious activities due to plain ignorance, same reason is why couples could become envious of each other's successes. If only the concept of oneness is well-known and understood, there won't be a place for envy at all. But like they say, ignorance is no defence.

JEALOUSY

Some people are just always stark jealous for no reason. In this case where illogicality is fore, the reason for envy is made manifest through this unexplainable jealousy.

BITTERNESS

When a man or woman is programmed to be bitter, nothing can be done to prevent envy. A couple that is envious of his or her spouse's success is just another bitter being parading the surface of the earth.

LOW-SELF ESTEEM

On rare occasions, a lack of achievement by a spouse could result to envy for the achieving mate. This is a result of low-self esteem.

LACK OF TRUE LOVE

True love overcomes envy all the time, even when the temptation to get envious sets in.

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: MusaSamuel(m) .:. Sun, 17 Jun, 2018 - 01:03:12:am GMT

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Lana(f) .:. Fri, 31 Jul, 2020 - 01:50:25:am GMT

A wife can be envious of her husband's success and a husband can be envious of his wife success to. However, the common one is seeing men envious of the success of their wives. I watched a movie, knocking on heavens door. It was about a gospel artiste who was popular and her husband was threatened b her success. He always sabotaged any major deals she was about to sign because he couldn't stand her being more successful that him or being more popular than him. A secure person would not be threatened by their partners success. Instead, you should be pushing them to do more and even supporting them. You shouldn't feel bitter or envious about your partner's success. Most women downplay their success so they won't look more successful than their husband because they are nursing his ego and don't want him to feel threatened. That is wrong. I've heard so many African parents tell their daughters to downplay their success in order to make their husbands happy. Some even tell women not do drive expensive cars or wear expensive clothes even if they can afford it because men may feel threatened and may feel that she is out of their league. Those men are insecure then and women should do their best to run away from those type of men because they could kill their dreams or stand as barrier to their success.in one of my comments, I talked about a man who killed his wife's dream of owning a school because he felt threatened that she would become more successful than him. I know that the male ego is very big and sensitive and anything that makes them feel less of a man is unwelcome but your wives' success shouldn't make you feel that way. instead, you should be proud of her and support her in every way.


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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Phaithh(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 03:35:11:pm GMT

Well, I think the wife doesn't understand the theory of two becoming one. A man shall leave his parents and cleave to his wife, together they become one. It's ONE, one flesh, one purpose, one ministry, one vision, one money, one SUCCCESS. How can the wife be envious of what is hers? The dictionary meaning of envy is - the desire of something possessed by another.
The mystery of marriage is quite wonderful. There is nothing like solitude or independency, both the husbands and wife do things together and anything each of them owns automatically belongs to the other.
So the wife should not be envious of her husband's success because it just doesn't make any sense. There is even this popular saying:
"Behind every successful man, there is a woman."
No matter your husband's achievements and accomplishments, you played a part in it whether morally, physically, spiritually or even emotionally. You both are in it. Don't be envious.


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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Glamour(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 04:23:26:pm GMT

Yes it happens, because she is a wife doesn't mean she isn't human. I watched a movie where a wife and her husband were competing for a political position. Her husband was doing much better than she was, with the amount of love they had for each other,she was still envious of his success.


This shows that envy is a natural feeling, but the thing about being envious is make sure it doesn't get to jealousy. You can envy someone, anyone but when you become jealous, it is bad for the mind.

The difference between envy and jealousy is that for envy, you don't take any negative action towards who or whatever you are envious of no matter what. But jealousy is taking a negative action that can later lead to regrets at the long run.

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 04:34:41:pm GMT

I don't think that she's being envious of her husband. She only said that out of frustration and anger. After striving to get a job and permanent residence for five years and it took her husband just six months to get it, it's not envy, frustration.


Sometimes people get angry and frustrated up to the extent of saying things to our dear ones that we don't mean. This is a pure example of one of the mysteries of life. What might take one person a life time to achieve, another person can just achieve that same thing within seconds. But at least it was her husband that got the promotion, so it's also a blessing to her.

It is only normal that in some situations we find it difficult to control our emotions and in such a state, it is the people around us that gets hurt mostly.

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Blackie(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 06:39:47:pm GMT

Well this is weird and it's the first time in hearing of a wife being jealous of her husband's success. As far as I know instead of being jealous of each other's success you are meant to celebrate each other and encourage too. Jealousy will ruin it all of you let it get the best of your marriage. Dont be jealous of the success rather make other jealous of your success. Celebrate each other.
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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Abbey(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 10:12:25:pm GMT


Why will a wife envy her husband success .

Then if we found a wife who is envy to her husband success then there must be a reason besides it, a good way will not envy her husband success, because success of the husband will surely get to the wife if your husband is successful in life you will also be successful as a wife.
But in a situation where by the wife envy the success of the husband then the woman is not a good woman a good wife material will not envy her husband.
But if you found any woman in such an act there must be a reason for it May be the husband is not performing his responsibility at home as the head of the house, or may be the husband is having another affire out side with another woman, I don't see any reason why a responsible wife will envy her husband success no it is not normal, if your husband sucessd in life then that means you also have succeeded.
Wife pray for your husband success and don't envy your husband, share love among your self, take care of your children , communicate in a good manners and show your self love don't exposed your personal information out to any people, live in Peay and enjoy your matrimonial home.

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Flat(m) .:. Mon, 03 Aug, 2020 - 01:43:20:pm GMT

Hmmm! Like seriously, most of the time I still find it difficult to comprehend some certain happenings and events that occurs at the tip of my nose or the one I was informed about. Sincerely, if one can just be entering from one house to the other and asking the couple's there about how they live and the happenings and challenges they are facing in that marriage. Hahaha! That thing called marriage is very good and it requires some level of commitment, passion, dedication to bring out the best out of it. We need to accept the fact that two have become one, having this understanding will help the couple's to see themselves as one entity and not two entity. Challenges comes into marriage when both parties begin to separate what they have, that is when they begin to monitor their success growth individually and comparing it with each other. This act in all extent have caused a lot of havoc to the family because the husband will not want the wife to be greater than he is and likewise, the wife will not want the husband to be greater than she is. All this at all time will lead to separation in the marriage because of that self-centredness in them and they will continue to envy each other.
It is so wrong has a wife to envy your husband and likewise the husband to envy the wife. What is there to envy, what your husband own, you have all legal right over it, what your wife own, you have all legal right over it, whatever he brings to the table, you both have right to share it. Any accolades he get will definitely be traced back to you, wherever he goes you can also be there, if he dines with the kings, you will be sitter right beside him. All his achievements is as a result of your handwork, so why then do you want to be envious of him. Rather than doing that, be supportive to him.


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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: D-STARR(f) .:. Mon, 03 Aug, 2020 - 08:18:11:pm GMT

Any wife that is envious of her husband, is a witch, yes i said it... a witch. I can you be envious of someone you claim to love dearly to the extent that you brought him to Canada. She should be happy that her husband got promoted, it means more money for her and the family. Whatever the husband has, is hers and that of the children so i cannot understand the basis for envy.


Except if the husband in question, use it abuse her, that can be very hurtful. Since the writer did not mention this, i believe she is envious because she believe that she should be the one in her husband's shoe since she came to Canada first. She must realize that God does things in mysterious ways and must understand that everything God does, is perfect and devoid of any mistake.

I will advise that she put aside any thought that will make her feel bad or envy her husband. She should see it that she was the one that got promoted because, she will equally get more money as everything the husband owns. belong to the family. The husband should also stand and support his wife by helping her to get a better job and making her feel comfortable always.

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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Flochords(f) .:. Wed, 05 Aug, 2020 - 03:36:07:pm GMT

Hmmmn. A wife that is envious of her husband's acheivement is a woman that is not happy with the progress of her husband because the joy of every woman is to see her husband progressing because it automatically mean she is progressing because the both of them have actually become one and they benefit from any form of acheivement that they both have. It is often not advisable that a woman is envious of her husband progress , infact it is very bad, such a woman is not a virteous woman and that attitude shows that she doesnt lover her husband. When it comes to marraige, we really ought to know that the two of them have practically become one and whatsoever that any of them accomplish must be seen as the acheivement of both of them. In marraige, it is not longer "i" but "our" because you now share same things both good and bad, etc. So if you are a wife that is envious of your husband's success then you have to change your mindset now because it is not just his success but both of you success and you will both be celebrated together. What you should be doing is to be thanking God for the success and then pray for more success rather than wasting your time, energy and Joy envying your husband instead of rejoicing and praying for more success and greater heights.
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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Loyhaltee(m) .:. Thu, 06 Aug, 2020 - 07:40:15:am GMT

One major failing of human beings is a failure or unwillingness to accept human nature. What is described is just normal human nature that is the way the human mind works at its most basic level. Some people are better than others at disguising their natures but as humans we are pretty much similar there are no good or bad people just circumstances. If we have plenty of food we remember our neighbours and in time of starvation humans have resorted to cannibalism even killing their own children for food. This is not new. To say I cannot do this, I cannot do that is to fail to understand our selves. Under the right conditions we would sell our mothers.
Thankfully for many those conditions do not exist but let us not judge anyone for we are no better!!We all had a good laugh at Suarez's biting but are we different,really? By the way is it jealousy for a man or woman to be unhappy that al their peers have kids and they do not or cannot
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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Holashayo(f) .:. Sun, 09 Aug, 2020 - 01:20:17:pm GMT

According to my understanding, the way of life also most importantly the way of Godliness, a woman should not have any reason to jealous his husband .the reasons are Firstly, he is her life partner, they are one and what the man has is equally hers too. Secondly, God has made a man the head of the house and every necessities to carry out his duty must be provided and lastly destiny can never be change nor destroy. It doesn't require your qualifications to be great in life. God's time is the best. So therefore, its not advisable for a woman to jealous her husband success rather she should be happy. Jealousy destroys home.
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   Re: Can A Wife Be Envious Of Her Husband's Success? by: Iremide(f) .:. Wed, 12 Aug, 2020 - 10:00:12:pm GMT

It is possible for a wife to be envious of her husband's success. When this happens, it shows that the marriage is not base on genuine love. In a marriage, the wife must understand that God has place her husband as her head and she needs to treat him as one.

When a wife is envious of her husband's success, it is evident that the wife as seen herself as her husband's competitor and marriage is not competition.
A wife that is envious of her husband's success is saying to the world that she can perform better than her husband. This which i see to be wrong. She can pursue her career and be herself instead of being envious of her soul-mate.

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