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Fashion » Being confident in your size by: Joyafrikanna(f) .:. Wed, 17 Feb, 2021 - 04:32:38:am GMT
coIn the western world, their ideal for beauty is tall, slim and blond. In Africa, we prefer our women very curvy. In other part of the world, they just fall in between.
According to the world's standard of beauty you can never be perfect. It's either you're too talk, short, dark, fair, too curvy, too slim e.t.c. So I wonder, why kill yourself to be accepted. We've a lot of people taking harmful weight loss drugs all in the name of slim tea and what have you, some are sore always just because of extremely rigorous exercise meant to get them slim in one week. It's OK to be fat as long as you stay healthy. Rather than kill yourself to be what you think the world wants you too look like, why don't you embrace yourself and be confident in your size. Be an example to others, that being fat isn't equated to ugly, neither is being slim equated to ugly.

In this part of the world, we taunt slim people calling them names like broom stick and so on. Some slim people get so frustrated, that they take drugs (maumau) meant to fatten pigs, all in a bid to add some flesh. Why don't you just accept who you are remembering that in another culture you're the perfect epitome of beauty.

Whatever size you are, accept it, rather than trying to hurt yourself all in a bid to change how you look. Remember beauty is just how you look, whether slim or fat or dark or fair, tall or short. You're wonderfully made by God and extremely beautiful. So wear that crown and smile, while walking confidently.

**Afrikaana love**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Holashayo(f) .:. Wed, 17 Feb, 2021 - 02:16:01:pm GMT

 Everything God made is good and perfect.,it is human being that do evil. 
God has created you perfectly well, fitted for his will.
whether You are tall, short, slim, fair or dark., you should be happy because you are specially and wonderfully made to God's glory.. And if you are not contented with the way you are, then you are indirectly telling God that he doesn't know his work. 
Most ladies are being discouraged about their looks, so they went ahead to temper with it, and most of them suffers the repercussion. 
Bleaching, using drugs to reduce or enlarge the body size are all sinful acts.


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Re: Being confident in your size by: Wonders(f) .:. Thu, 18 Feb, 2021 - 01:35:55:am GMT

Lol. Currently am watching a seasonal movie and this girl here wants to kill herself with dieting thinking it will make the guy she's in love with look her way and become attractive to him. It got to a point she fainted and was hospitalised. People actually kill to make themselves attractive and it is not only in Nigeria. It is everywhere.

Actually, I don't see anything wrong with burning up fat when you think you are too fat or dieting or keeping tabs of how you look to be sure your skin is perfect but where the problem lies is when you start doing all these stuffs for someone to notice you or or to please someone. Its actually very wrong. 
OK your husband can suggest you get rid of some excess fat, that is understandable in fact if I notice my husband is becoming too big, I will just reduce his meals and tell him to start burning some fat because actually too much fat in the body is bad. It is actually very bad when you are sure within you that you are perfectly fit but because you noticed that the girl that handsome guy likes doesn't have flesh, then you decided to burn your flesh too maybe he will notice you, you are making a terrible mistake girl.
Have always said this and I will continue to say this "When a guy loves, he loves! There is nothing you can do about it. 
Be confident about how you look. Have a very good and high self esteem. You noticed some things in your body you don't like and you want to change, you are free to change if it won't you cost you more than you can chew like plastic surgery etc. So many people that did plastic surgery always come back to say they regretted doing it.


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Re: Being confident in your size by: Krainaix(m) .:. Thu, 18 Feb, 2021 - 03:23:03:am GMT

They are sizes of people that they hate about themselves but i actually like my size but if i need some adjustment i just work out for better result.

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Joyafrikanna(f) .:. Thu, 18 Feb, 2021 - 08:19:40:am GMT

@Wonders: You're absolutely right. It's the intent and not even the action that matter the most. Yes, you might want to loss weight or add more weight, the action is in itself not bad, it's the intent that can disqualify the action. If it's because, you feel insecure or you think you'd be more attractive for that girl or guy, then there's a big problem. And if in trying to be another size it begins to greatly affect your health and lifestyle in a negative way, then there's also problem. If for instance, you develop ulcer all in the name of dieting to lose weight, then that's absolutely wrong. Or you disfigure your shape and have excessive fat all in the name of gaining extra weight, then there's a problem.

In fact, I believe that the root cause of most people trying to change their body size is due to insecurity and low self esteem. It's the same reason why people try to change the color of their skin and go through extreme situations like bleaching and plastic surgery just to attain the look and all these always ends in regret. 

There's nothing more attractive that being confidence in who you are; your size, color, height e.t.c. Confidence and loving yourself is the key to being beautiful and attractive. 

**Afrikaana love**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Wonders(f) .:. Fri, 19 Feb, 2021 - 12:04:00:am GMT


Absolutely correct!.


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Re: Being confident in your size by: Cletus(m) .:. Fri, 19 Feb, 2021 - 06:42:05:am GMT

@holashayo:transformation is most common in the abroad, from a either a slim person to a fat person or either from fat to slim, God did his work perfectly in creating us as his own image.you can see in the abroad, transformation from normal size of their butt to a bigger one or their breast all this act provoke God,even addition of finger nails,you were given a normal one from above people intend adding another one that makes them look like witch,also God gave women hair to cover their glory, they intend adding excess known as attachment that makes them look like another thing else. In this our generation it provokes God honestly because even the manhood, you see a man transform to a woman in other to produce child. Which is enough for God to clear this generation. As we are we must thank God for how he created us.
**Indigo **

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Phaithh(f) .:. Fri, 19 Feb, 2021 - 12:37:11:pm GMT

One of the things I love about GOD and His creativity is His deep love for diversification. Everything including non-living things has a peculiarity. No two things look exactly the same. Even twin babies conceived by the fertilization of the same egg (divided into halves) are not very much identical. These babies still vary in metabolism rate despite having the same physical looks. Day by day, people look forward to things that can “wow” them, unique things that cause amazement, and this can only be achieved when we stop trying to modify ourselves to look like some other people.

We as humans are so different, and this brings out the beauty of this world. Now, let’s do something practical; sit still for a second, then close your eyes, now try to imagine everybody (in this whole wide world) looking the same in size, shape, colour and even speaking the same language; what do you see after that? Boredom right? Lack of enthusiasm would have been the motto of the day. But all thanks to GOD who foresaw this and decided to make the world more enjoyable by making us different in all aspects, thereby complimenting one another. Let no one abase you for your looks. You are UNIQUE.

Now, talking about body size, I will like to say this, it all boils down to this – love yourself and know what you want. If you feel  that you are not comfortable with your size especially when you know it isn’t natural, probably caused by eating too many junks (for the fat ones) or not eating enough (for the thin ones), it’s okay to remedy it. But if you’re naturally fat or thin, and people around you keep saying trash about you, and then you decided to hide in the dungeon of depression or sentence your life to harmful medications just to please these people, then you’re very very wrong. 
Embrace who you are and you’ll actually do exploits. Remember Fat Amy from the Pitch Perfect movie? Yes, that very fat lady. She’s someone who chose to stick to who she is, not giving a care to what people think or say, and she’s doing better than those who think they are the epitome of perfection (in size and shape). 

**Jesus junkie**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Obajichi(f) .:. Fri, 19 Feb, 2021 - 03:05:46:pm GMT

     This is truly a world wide problem. Only a bold and contented person ,whether fat or slim can be confident of his/her stature.

     If watching your weight will make you fit in and feel good any where, then it's your choice. Unfortunately, some people don't know what suits them. Do you know that being slim may not look good on you or being fat may not either.

     As one grows older, she should work at a stature that fits you, which will not make you ashamed or to be body shamed by others.

    Carrying a stature that you can cope with will make you confident of yourself and by extension, make others love your stature as it is. 

**I love being me.**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Nagiano(m) .:. Wed, 17 Mar, 2021 - 06:37:51:am GMT

First things first I would like you to know that.

Being fat is being unhealthy.

When a person is fat, he's prone or vunerable to series of health issues.

Health issues like heart problems, obesity, diabetes etc.

Rather than being so comfortable with being fat, the best you can do is to work on your self.
**Man United for Life**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Joyodishika247(f) .:. Tue, 23 Mar, 2021 - 09:03:00:pm GMT

In the life we are in, nothing except Jesus is perfect, no one is perfect or the ideas person. Every one some things about that is not really nice. So knowing that I don't think you should be ashamed of your body or size cause it doesn't matter. So be confident in your self
**Victory **

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sun, 28 Mar, 2021 - 07:53:46:pm GMT

@Joyodishika247:when a person is fat, it matters a lot because being fat is not healthy.
Those that are fat are prone to diabetes.
Aside diabetes, they are also prone to high blood pressure as well as other heart problems.

**Man United for Life**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sun, 28 Mar, 2021 - 08:02:01:pm GMT

@Wonders:when you are trying to burn fats.
It is advisable you burn fat the natural way rather than the artificial way of plastic surgery.
There has been series of report of Side effects from plastic surgery used to remove fat.
**Man United for Life**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Wonders(f) .:. Sun, 28 Mar, 2021 - 09:34:30:pm GMT


You are very right, all of these surgeries side effects are not good at all, is it when you are trying to get rid of some fat or when you are trying to get some flesh. I have heard it not once or twice from celebrities that did plastic surgery on their hips or other part of their body that they regretted it. Nengi said it in Big brother house and so many of them said so that they regretted it at the end of the day. The best thing is to be happy with whatever God has blessed you with. Even if you have to make some changes, make sure you are playing safe.

I will have to stay at home without going to school this year till maybe October and the normal thing is that I will gain much weight but because I don't like having plenty fat on my body, I have been careful of the amount of food I eat but lately I realised my dieting is too much so am backing to increasing the amount of food I eat so I don't get to have ulcer or some other sickness. I feel that is how we should try to maintain we look every time. We should make sure we apply self control to whatsoever we are doing.

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Victoria(f) .:. Mon, 29 Mar, 2021 - 07:09:00:pm GMT

If you're judging your own body and trying to make it look the way it will fit societal standards, then you'll forever be changing your body till there's nothing left to be changed. Nothing and I mean nothing can satisfy the society. You may be thin and talk and be all Victoria's secret model look alike but the society will still find a way to make you feel inadequate. They'll tell you, you need to put some meat on those bones and then when you do that, they'll be the ones to tell you that you gained weight and that's not nice. When you are thick and they tell you to lose weight and you do, they'll tell you that you look too skinny and then they'll ask if you're sick and even offer to give you a meal plan to stick to to gain weight. Be confident in the way you look. Own it. If you're going to lose weight or gain weight, let it be because it is what you want and not to please anyone. It's your body.
**Live, love and heal...**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Victoria(f) .:. Mon, 29 Mar, 2021 - 07:15:06:pm GMT

One thing you should know is that different regions of the world have their own beauty standards. Here in Nigeria am most of Africa, the society tends to favor those who are thick and had a bit of flesh on them. Apparently here, you have to be just the right amount of thick though. Not too fat and not too slim. Just the right and perfect amount. Just imagine that.

In the western part of the world, they want to be slim and tall and well toned so they will be able to wear a bikini without having to show flab or love handles. That is actually healthy though. Having a toned body. It means you're either eating right or you're exercising well. But it doesn't change the fact that if you don't want to look like that you don't need to do it for anyone. You can eat right without looking twig thin. That's one thing you should know. It's your body. As long as you take care of it, you'll be fine. Love yourself, love your size, love who you are. No one has to dictate anything for you. Remember that.
**Live, love and heal...**

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Samuel23(m) .:. Wed, 23 Jun, 2021 - 10:01:11:pm GMT

I totally agree
God who made you,he made you with a reason

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Re: Being confident in your size by: Lilcent(m) .:. Thu, 22 Jul, 2021 - 04:16:45:pm GMT

Just because most women want to be accepted and regarded as hot babes, they go extra miles to do that.
They take series of tea and medications in the name of getting slim and we'll shaped.
Some women eventually go for operations where their fat is removed from their body, Which leads to loss of lives in some cases.
Learn to appreciate how you're created no matter who you are.
If anyone feels you're not good enough that means that person is not the right person for you.


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Re: Being confident in your size by: SamuelKingsley93(m) .:. Tue, 21 Feb, 2023 - 08:37:07:pm GMT

Yeah I totally agree with you. It is best to love your self than to impress others. Obviously we are not born or made perfect. And we are unique in our own making. So persons are slim, some are chubby and some are moderate. Some times, persons who we think that are perfect such as the moderate persons who are either not too fat nor slim, sometimes craves to be slim too. Also fat or chubby too craves to be slim too and likewise the slim persons.

**Samuel Kingsley**

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