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Literature/Writing » Be strong when life isn't fair by: Okemzy(m) .:. Wed, 19 Aug, 2020 - 08:10:46:pm GMT

There have been times when things go in a way unplanned. Life has never been a bed of roses, but more like 'the survival of the fittest'.

Humans have always wanted and craved for a life of greener pastures and bliss, but you will agree with me that it has never been 'all-rosy and fun'.

Life is filled with many ups and downs. Sometimes bright and sometimes gloomy, but it is only the strong that can be assured victory at the end.

I happened to be the only daughter of my parents. Dad has always put in his best to give me a better life. I was given the best home training any child would ever have. All thanks to my mum.

I had always wanted to be a medical doctor. Many times I imaagined myself in my white robe with a stethoscope on my neck. Amazing right? Yes!!

But little did I know what life has got for me.

It was after my secondary School life began to take its toll on me...

First, it was my dad...

It happened on a bright Saturday morning, I can still remember vividly. The memories like an open wound in my brain. He had woken up that day all strong, healthy and vibrant!! He had gone out on his normal duty to give us a better life.

'What??' I heard my mum screamed on the phone as she was gradually loosing strength and making her way to the ground. I ran with all my might from where I sat to catch her so she wouldn't hit her head on the tiled floor.

What could be going on? I thought within me, as I tried to understand what could have happened, but I knew something tragic would have happened.

Few minutes later, she came back to consciousness. I stared at her curiously waiting for her to speak.

' Your dad is dead' she broke the news to me with tears in her eyes.

This must be a dream, I tried hard not to believe my ears...

It sounded like a tickle in my ears and immediately my throat went dry. I suddenly needed somewhere to rest my wearied body...

What could I possibly do? I let the tears rush out with ease. Why will I loose him now that I need him the most? Why? I cried uncontrollably.

Now, we had to dance to the beat life played to us...

It wasn't as if Dad left nothing for us, but his wicked brothers and sisters( my aunts' and uncles👊 all came to claim them leaving us with nothing.

Mum and I started struggling to make ends meet.

Thank God I was done with secondary school. I started selling fruits to help bring income for my mum. I must say... those were the saddest moments of my life, but it was beyond me to change.

If only I could turn back the hands of time.

I was on my way home after I've sold the fruits filled with thoughts of how cruel life has been to me and my mum since the demise of my dad when the unthinkable happened...

I got kidnapped by some group of boys. I never knew I was being trailed...

'I got raped'

Cry this time won't do...I just wanted to die. It was like a mountain fell on me...I was helpless. My mum was heartbroken.

Days ran into months and months into years...

I eventually became that medical practitioner I had always dreamt to be...and that was because I refused to give up on life.

Today, I can boldly say...that my experiences only made me better and stronger. I learnt the lesson of life in the very hard way. I learnt to BE STRONG, EVEN WHEN LIFE ISN'T FAIR.

#Storyline: FICTION!

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Fashnet(m) .:. Sat, 05 Sep, 2020 - 06:36:59:pm GMT

This piece and write up is really one to learn from because most people would have totally given up of they have this type of life threatening experience. You must really be a strong person and someone with a no dying ?? heart.

This is a call for everyone to be strong and to be prepared for the unseen and unexpected. I feel it is common to some blacks to have this type of attitude and belief of coming after the property of their brothers or sisters.

The most alermming and terrifying part of this evil act is that they still come after their brother and sister that is married with children after the demise of such people. They come around to claim properties and money as if they worked for it.

One of the reasons they come up with this behaviour is basically because they are uneducated and they do not have their own business so all these makes them to depend wholly on their relative's success and properties not minding the way they make claim of it.

Having thought of all these everyone needs to be prepared for things like these if there is any form of suspicious act from any family members. Part of solutions to this is to engage a lawyer and back the properties up with a will which clearly sets limit to any force whether or internal.

Meanwhile I congratulate you on your path and non dying spirit.

**Help the needy and love everyone**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Princessprecious(m) .:. Sun, 06 Sep, 2020 - 11:50:48:am GMT

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!! Wowww, what a touching story, Yesss! It sooo good to to be strong, because life is always with ups and downs!!!!!!! Hmmmm, when you are planning a thing, life plans another thing...... Am right now facing my hard times also....... My parent had an accident unexpectedly, I never thought of it, Dad broke his hands and his faces had all gone...... That's life for us, I accepted it that way, and at the same time, I prayed to God never to allow the storm to ever repeat itself again........... Be strong, all those challenges there are just to make us strong and to prepare us for a better places ahead of us............. Life is full of both sadness and happiness..... Everyone in this world would surely have their story to tell........ Life isn't a small journey.... But the point is that, we shouldn't be tired, we shouldn't be discouraged, we should keep going and moving....... That's just life for us.......... Let's always be strong no matter what life brings for us

Thanks......

**Precious**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Holashayo(f) .:. Sun, 06 Sep, 2020 - 02:54:20:pm GMT

Hmm, one thing I am certain of is that only the great people experience bitterness in their life time, people without vision do not have problem because the Devil hate successor so he will find a way to bring him down. And if you don't give up on your dreams when problem arises, you will surely succeed.

Success doesn't fall from heaven, you have to work for it.

I have experienced more in life. I have been afflicted, abandoned even by my families before and am left to face my problem.

I don't give up now because I still believe in myself.

Though, there are some temptations that shaken someone's faith and make you backslide but if you are reminded of some people in the bible whose life is worst than yours but still yet, they don't compromise. Be inspired and motivated about what you believe in. Seek for advise and learn from other people.

**Damiswag**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Gifted_Spec(m) .:. Mon, 07 Sep, 2020 - 12:47:22:pm GMT

The above story is a beautiful one to learn from, oftentimes things happen in our lives and things go awry and there's just about little we could have done to prevent it. But as the character in the story did, we shouldn't let these things limit us or make us loose focus.

We know the popular pidgin saying that ' life no balance' and it's true,no two things are exactly the same in life,so while you're lamenting for how badly things turn out for you,think about people with even more worse fate than you. One thing I've learnt to make sure to do in my life is not to allow evil envy, of course I can admire things ( material or not) belonging to someone else and wish I was in someone else's place sometimes but it's not for me to hate the fact that the person has it but for me to want to have it too if I desire it, maybe the person had it on a platter of gold not having to stress over it,but for me I don't mind having to work my butt off if that's what it takes inasmuch as I get it honestly.

Life isn't always fair both to the good and evil, to the rich and the poor and to every practically different two things but you being the very best of every situation is what counts.

Remember people don't care about your struggle, they only count your success. Be strong for you,for the people that care about you (family or not), for those you care about and for those looking up to you.

**Xpgpg**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: AdaJesus(f) .:. Tue, 10 Nov, 2020 - 12:24:27:pm GMT

Man that is born of a woman is full of troubles....

Be strong In the Lord

When God calls you to walk with him, he wants to make your life better than before. He lightens your journey. It's a glorious call that never leaves you the same. Number 21:4

Whatever your challenges, God is on the throne.

You're God's battle axe, and weapon of war. A warrior needs timely renewal of strength. The battle will soon be over, we can't afford to quit/give up. Do not allow discouragement to weigh you down and suck your strength. You will pass over your challenges. Judges 8:4, Judges 16:20-21

When you are distracted from holiness. It leads to spiritual feebleness Prayerlessness leads people to feebleness. A man that is not focused on his goal cannot get there. Matthew 26:41.

Another that drains us of strength is the neglect of the study of God's word. Also self confidence and pride.

Love for praise and desire can also drajn us of our strength

Hence while we strive to be strong in the Lord we should avoid anything that can make us feeble.

Also, don't let anything deprive you of charging for strength in your morning devotion or secret place.l before going out anyday, so as not to come back defeated. Every step of obedience to God's word makes us stronger in him.

Be strong In the Lord, focus your attention on Jesus Christ, the strength of all times.

**AdaJesus**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Mon, 16 Nov, 2020 - 06:18:13:am GMT

Life is of different stages and each stages is embedded with different challenges. Challenges of life comes in different phases and it takes only God to skip through different phases of challenges in life. There are situations that might want you to doubt that is there God and is he by your side but it's nearer than you think.

Be strong when life isn't fair because if you are not strong nobody will back you up. When life is showing another dimensions towards you, you need to show different dimensions towards life. Sometimes, in academics it becomes so hard that you will feel like giving up because attimes some courses looks so powerful as if you can't conquered them but when you become strong that's when you will see that you have the power to conquer it.

In the business world, you might encounter some problems if you don't take caution. In business there are different opponent that might want to arises and that can weaken your spirit and makes you lose focus but it shouldn't be so because when they want to overtake you twice you get prepared thrice. You don't just sit and watch them but you also get ready to tackle all the strategies of the devil.

Life will not reduce problems for you but what you need is to be ready to face whatever life brings as problem to you. Don't relax instead put on the full armor of God and be ready to face all the challenges of life.

**Always put God first **

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: MichealThankGod(m) .:. Mon, 16 Nov, 2020 - 10:24:34:am GMT

Sincerely, all we need to do when life isn't fair with us, is to be strong, believe and be rest assured knowing that trying time will surely pass away, there is nobody who is great today, that has never experience a trying time, it will surely come, and the amazing part, it has grade, and it is from one level to another, it is only a deceiver, that would tell you that he or she never experience a trying time.

My pastor once said if we are not ready to loose, or we are not ready to face challenges then we should not be ready to go far in life, and we will die Early.

But the Good news is, no matter how big the Storm might be, it will surely have an end.

**Ogun state**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Obajichi(f) .:. Mon, 16 Nov, 2020 - 10:50:46:am GMT

It's very sad & disappointing when things get out of plan. We can only but encourage ourselves.

When you see people struggling to achieve things in life, you that has made it shouldn't think they are lazy or not street smart.

If you do your research, you'd find out that they work so hard ,yet achieve so little.

That goes to show that hard work isn't what guarantees success.

So when we put in our best & our hopes are high but things don't go as planned, we've got to be strong so we don't die before our miracles surface.

**I love being me.**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Flat(m) .:. Tue, 17 Nov, 2020 - 03:35:21:pm GMT

Hmmm! Life isn’t fair and life can’t be fair because life is not ready to give you what you want. So, if you really want to get the best out of life, you then really need to prepare for a great war of liberation. You see, part of the things we don’t understand is that we have different battles to fight, we have different challenges to face; while some are solving their battles, some will also leave theirs and come join others in solving. What do I mean with this statement above; most times when I see some of the coming up children like me ( I believe you understand the coming up) comparing themselves to those born with silver spoon or golden spoon, I just see it has a waste of time because we have a long way to go, their needs are easily meant by their parents whenever they need it, they don’t need to struggle before they get anything and most importantly they make the decision for what they want. But you and I know what we passed through before we get anything we need, we need know hard it is to even it a complete meal. But in the midst of all this trials of life, we are meant to be strong.

The being strong here doesn’t mean one should involve in some illicit acts just because life is not fair because most times when those hooligans are being caught, what they keep saying is that it’s because of the struggles they faced that made them engage in such acts and there is no ignorance of the law and that will make them to be punished rightly. So, the being strong that will mean here simply means living rightly to survive the struggles, it means that at those point where life wasn’t fair, we should not be wearied but rather be optimistic that a better future is on the way, we should engage ourselves into this that are legally profitable. So, at all times we are meant to remember that we are strong and ready to face it rightly.

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Gbasky(m) .:. Sun, 22 Nov, 2020 - 01:38:05:pm GMT

Life, What a mystery! What could go further to be a total misery for some. Nevertheless, we need to preach the "there is light at the end of a tunnel" gospel.

Coming into this world, with shout of cry and the mother shout of joy a child is been born. The child immediately can sense how spiteful this world can be, but with hope and faith, the mother embraces the child to a grand welcome. Now growing up, the child forgets about the feelings and start to aspire for great things in that same life. Does the child has fault in doing that? Do we all have fault in wanting to become the sweetest things in this life? Absolutely No! If no, then how come we find it immensely difficult to be what we want? Why do people find it so hard to have lived the way they wanted? This is plainly because they are experiencing the "downs" of this life, comfortingly there is a "up" side of this life. The times we look at our plans fell through right before our eyes and we are helpless, the times we want to have a happy life and all that we see is the other side, those times we want to be the best but we are yet less are merely testing and trial moments. That is a compulsory task life ask of us all it we want to get the best out of it, some experience it at or from the earlier stage of their life, some at their mid-age, while some at their last days, it is purely by destiny but something is very certain, no matter the darkness, there is always a light at the end of every tunnel.

We ought to be stronger while we face the downs of our life, consider it as a preparation for that greatness we ever wished for. With persistency, faith, prayer, hard work and consistency, what seems little will definitely become abundant.

Don't forget "there is always light at the end of a tunnel".

**HGP**

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Olatoke(m) .:. Mon, 07 Feb, 2022 - 07:22:39:pm GMT

Life is sweeter than anything, life is interesting indeed it is the best until you discover that life is like an exam which every individual undergo from birth till death.

You may have plans for your life and at the end your plans may not work out then you will be weak ,every body won't to be great and prosper then you have to take the courage to be strong when things are not Fair.

Success is not what you can acquire in a day you have to work for it then you will get it right.

No body can tell how tomorrow will be everyone is just trying to make sure things get better.
Have it at the back of your heart that your position is just temporary not permanent.
**Olatoke **

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Re: Be strong when life isn't fair by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Thu, 24 Mar, 2022 - 10:22:05:am GMT

The hard time they say will pass away. There are seasons in one's life where everything seems interlocked and it looks as if there is no way.

The journey can look so rough, your plan can start falling, people might look so strange, and emotionally you are down. Studying the word "LIFE" over the years made me realize that there's no GLORY without a STORY.

Follow me as I unlock the 3 keys to use when faced with life challenges. Let's get started!

1.KEY OF PATIENCE.
Life can be so challenging that we will fail to pick the right key then settle down to pick the Key of depression.

The key of depression is the wrong key in that kind of situation because it complicates matters. The solution to life challenges is to take the key of patience.

Someone might want to ask why patience - it's patience because it helps to calm your nerves. Tension won't solve any life challenges.

GET UP, RELAX then take the "KEY OF PATIENCE".

2. KEY OF POSITIVITY.
Negativity is a destroyer of Happiness. Human beings are wired in a unique way that whatever thoughts in our mind reflect in our actions.

Thoughts have a way of destroying and also advancing one's destiny. Negativity is a result of evil thoughts - do away with all negativity when life isn't fair.

Take up the "KEY OF POSITIVITY" by ruminating over the good things life has once offered you - this helps to clear off all negativity and brings back your happiness.

3. KEY OF PRAYER.
Prayer is the Key, prayer is a master key - oh yes! No doubt about that. There's a way beyond the physical and this way is the way of prayers.

The physical world is controlled by the Spiritual world - that's to tell you there's a sovereign God over all humankind. God knows what you are passing through all he needs from you is to call him into action.

You can only call God into action using the "KEY OF PRAYERS". God needs a true worshipper who will reference him in Truth
**Always put God first **

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