Many times we wonder why people remain in certain relationships. We can clearly see that the person is our definition of bad and can surely not be the best for the other.
What we don't see, however, is who the person is with said partner when we are not there. There is a myth that not only do bad people make better lovers, but that good people tend to like them more. I don't know how true that is but I have certainly seen and been in many situations that follow that pattern.
Should we go after bad people then? NO, but with this understanding we can really begin to get how things really work.
That person you are looking at, wondering why she has not packed her things and moved on might be having a better home than all the people trying to "help" her. So, in reality you might be trying to add to her issues. The same goes for a guy who has continued to endure what seems like injustice at the hands of a female, you really may not know how he got there or why he is choosing to stay.
I would still cautiously land my concern but that's it, the decision is theirs to make.
A woman can be a serial "straffist" and give a man all the joy and peace he wants at home, which even comes with advanced strafing experience (please don't ask me what straff is, I don't know). The same goes for a man.
We need to open our minds to these realities and allow them aid our different and unique journeys.
A good person who is a bad spouse can be made into a good spouse
A bad person who is a good spouse can be made into a good person **Determined**
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