Love-Stories » A Complicated Scenario by: Nagiano(m) .:. Thu, 23 Jul, 2020 - 12:24:27:am GMT

A complicated scenario according to this topic is simply talking about one of the ironies of life. Sometimes in life we think other people are better than we are until we get to know what they are saying. In the next paragraph I'm going to explain an incident and would love to hear your opinion on it.

There was a lady who got married to her current boyfriend. While they were still dating the man was humble but sometimes he goes haywire (beating the lady). The lady despite the man's attitude still stayed in the relationship until they got married. But the beating got worse after their marriage. Now, the lady is someone who respects her pastor very well and always wishes her husband could be like the pastor. So on a Saturday evening, she had an argument with her husband and it resulted to him beating her. Then she ran out of the house and decided to go report the husband to the pastor. However, on getting to the pastor's house that evening, she met the pastor beating his own wife in fact the way the man was beating his wife is even worse than the one she was receiving from her own husband.

Notwithstanding, ill love to ask that in such situation what will you do if you were the one?



**Man United for Life**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Blackie(f) .:. Thu, 23 Jul, 2020 - 06:56:11:pm GMT

It is a complicated scenario indeed. I'm not being judgemental or insultive but the mistake came from the girl from the very beginning. She already knew the guy was an abusive person from the start, she should have seeked for advice from a counselor or a family member before she got into a marriage relationship with the guy. The guy also don't know what he's missing, the fact the girl stood by him despite his flaws should have atleast made him change his attitude. The pastor beating his wife though, that's an entirely different story, a man of God who preached against such atrocities is even the one commiting the crime, he hasn't only sinned against the Church but he as also sinned against God. A man who beats or lays a hand on a woman is a coward that results to abusive nature for a cover up. That lady if she knows what's best for her should either seek the advice of a counselor or better still require for a divorce. Of he's done it before marriage and still does it even in marriage there's no assurance that he'll stop anytime. That kind of a man needs therapy.
**--realitycheck**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Nagiano(m) .:. Fri, 31 Jul, 2020 - 03:18:11:pm GMT


@Blackie:

Thank you very much. Your points were simple and precise.

I wonder many times when I hear ladies that say their partner beats them in either relationship or marriage and yet they still stay in it. To me it's more or less like committing sucide. How can someone be practicing blows on your body as if he has a match with Anthony Joshua. And yet you still say you love him.

The only people I can even still consider are those who have no one or nowhere to go to. But for those who have help and relatives but still chose to collect beating from the man, I think they are the ones that needs therapy.

**Man United for Life**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Abbey(m) .:. Fri, 31 Jul, 2020 - 07:13:39:pm GMT


The complicated I witnessed is when I am in 200 level which our school fees was been increased , I thought it was a joke before but later turn into a big scenario, students protest for peace but, we study are of directors type some protest for peace but some protest for trouble.

The protest later lead to commotion in the school compound where students start to disturb school property such as school building, lecture cars, thus riot last for about five hours the school turn into another thing immediately, I am sick and tired I get surprised I hav not witnesses something like that before in my life.
Later the force came to Cool every thing down and got some students who involved in the riot they got them arrested and released them after three days , we go for a strike for about three months we stay at home doing nothing then after we all pay damage fee then we resuming back.
It is a war that day I can not forget , students life .

**Abiodun**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Nagiano(m) .:. Fri, 31 Jul, 2020 - 07:59:36:pm GMT


@abbey:

Are you being serious here so. You didn't read the original post before giving your own opinion.

Pls always read the original post before you give your own opinion as a comment. Else you'll be saying something completely different from the topic.

And besides the scenario you described is a thing everyone who went to a federal university witnessed. I also experiencd it.

**Man United for Life**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Phaithh(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 02:07:15:pm GMT

It's the lady's fault. She had seen the warning signals during courtship. She still plunging into marriage with him is sheer stupidity.
Any spouse that doesn't change during the dating/courtship days won't change in marriage. People especially ladies should stop comforting themselves with this fallacy that their ill-tempered spouses would change after wedding. It won't be.
Such a violent marriage should be annulled, why? Because it will only take a matter of time for death to come knocking. So instead of dying, the lady should run for her dear life. She can start all over again. A violent man is as terrible as the devil!
The case of the pastor, i'm not trying to sound judgemental but it's obvious the pastor is not God-fearing. That is why a God-fearing shepherd or mentor is needed for marriage issues. Now, if this pastor has been "real" from the start, he couldn't have allowed her marry wrongly (that is the work of a mentor to his mentees).
So she shouldn't reconsider staying with her violent husband just because her pastor is also violent. Pastors are not GOD, they make mistakes too. Paul said "follow me as I follow Christ" and not "follow me".
If you are looking up and following the footsteps of a respected man or woman of GOD, follow as he/she keeps the Doctrine of Christ. That's just it.

**Jesus junkie**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 02:28:35:pm GMT


@Phaithh:

It's a nice and well composed point you gave on the issue. But your last statement about following the doctrines of the people youlook up too. The pastor portrays a good doctrine outside his house, but at home I don't think so.

The major lesson i want to point out is that no human being is perfect and that is why Paul himself told the people not to follow him. Sometimes a person can portray good manners outside doesn't mean he is good inside. And that is why they say don't judge a book by it's cover.

But I won't blame the woman for looking up to the pastor. The truth is you should only take your matters to God and not to man. And if a third party should be involved, it should be someone you really know both at home and outside. Though that doesn't make such a person perfect oo.

**Man United for Life**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Phaithh(f) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 02:44:24:pm GMT


@nagiano: You are so right. Most men of GOD pretend on the outside but they are demons in their homes. Jesus referred to them as "white sepulchres" - a white painted coffin, the outside is beautiful but the inside is full of rotten bones.

As humans, we cannot see beyond a person's outward appearance, but GOD does, and that is why we need GOD'S direction in choosing a shepherd or a mentor. GOD searches the heart and He knows the fake and the real ones. If only we would just let Him guide us - we tend to make decisions by our own judgement. GOD help us.

**Jesus junkie**


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   Re: A Complicated Scenario by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sat, 01 Aug, 2020 - 02:48:57:pm GMT


@Phaithh:

Most men of GOD pretend on the outside but they are demons in their homes. Jesus referred to them as "white sepulchres" - a white painted coffin, the outside is beautiful but the inside is full of rotten bones

white seplulchres I'm actually learning here. Nice one. You just hit the nail on the head



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