What seems to be worrisome now, is that, some young men now see it as a sign of moral looseness on the lady's part . They think she'll feel so accomplished or so independent.
Some years back , in the village I come from somewhere in the South - East, some elders took a decision that no single lady , whether working class or not, should be allowed to live alone.
They consider it as a wrong lifestyle which could hinder marriage.
They reasoned that, this could also give way to sexual promiscuity, lack of respect or submission to the men folk, being vulnerable to rape incidences and a feeling of pride borne out of the ability to fend for herself without the assistance or interference of a mature make folk to guide her in taking decisions.
. This issue has two sides like a coin.
A man once commented on social media that he sees no reason a single lady should leave on her own apart from working or marriage related .
Many ladies have also proved some people right or wrong on this issue, depending on the circumstances.
Even the society frowns on this especially when it comes to renting an accommodation.
Some house owners do not accept single ladies who have the intention of living alone. No matter how much they are willing to pay for the apartment.
If a single lady has no other option apart from the living alone, should that be a problem to her?
Is that enough reason to scare a man away from her without even looking out for the good sides in her?
If you have an experience of this or you know one who has experienced it, please share for others to benefit.
**I love being me.**
I have heard people say things like this but I've not seen nor experience it.
But in those days maybe, but in this day, a single lady living alone should not be a problem at all.
Thank God you said a lady, meaning she's an adult not a child, this means she knows what she is doing.
Personally, I think she should be respected.
That she lives with her parents doesn't mean she is responsible.
I know countless ladies who got pregnant out of wedlock in their parents home. Some don't even know the father, some go out to prostitute with men prostitute just to bring food to their parents in the house.
And I also know ladies who live alone and are very responsible, some are happily married, some got married as virgins.
So it is not about living or not living with your parents, it's about personal discipline.
Any man who feels intimidated is just a low self esteemed man. And such a man should not even think of getting married.
Thank you. And God bless our ladies.
**It is well**
The things we believe in this part of this world make me laugh at times because how do ladies living alone make her a bad person? The way our culture makes things look does amaze me because you will see someone just because he/she dresses in big clothes they will take them as being responsible.
I don't deny the fact that our looks speak volumes about us but living alone as a lady doesn't depict being good or bad. Haven't you seen ladies living under their parents yet they are still bad compared to those staying alone; although I won't say there are not those staying alone that still behave anyhow.
Don't use someone to judge multitudes of people instead learn to have your facts before concluding. A wayward lifestyle is a thing of the heart so it is never a definition of staying alone or staying with people.
**Life is good**
In high school and college, keep old friends close and make room for new ones. Continue to try, travel, until it's too late to talk about hopes and dreams, hold each other tightly when someone has a broken heart, and encourage each other when the pressure of work, school, and adults feels heavy.
Most importantly, don't rush to settle down, find "the one", get married and start a family. Don't think that there is a certain age you have to meet certain criteria or people will think you are late. Don't push these things until you're ready.
Before you enter that life, I want you to do one thing: Live yourself for magic. Even if you fall in love at a young age, I want it to be a gift for yourself.
I know that we all do what is right for us as time and circumstances allow. I'm not saying don't do it because I feel like I'm rushing through marriage, mortgage, and family too fast, but because I'm wasting my time. The time I had to focus solely on my husband changed my life. I lived alone for over three years before your dad moved in with me (I suggest something else, but we can talk about it later) and it was one of the best things I ever did for myself. I have no regrets and look back fondly at that time.
I know myself very well and what I don't like about my life. Life can feel incredibly comfortable when you're single, and it's hard to invite anything that doesn't match that feeling. You quickly learn to tell the difference between welcome and obstacles in your environment, and you are not afraid to speak up and shut down drama or toxic relationships.