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Crimes » Marital Rape by: Nagiano(m) .:. Sun, 19 Jul, 2020 - 10:53:03:am GMT

Rape can simply be summarized to be forceful penetration.

Can a husband rape a wife?

Many men feel that the fact that they paid a woman's bride price they can penetrate her anytime they want even when she doesn't give her consent. In fact, some men will be living with their wives without talking to her maybe for something she did wrong but at night when they are horny they'll want to have their way even when the woman says no, the man will forcefully penetrate her or beat her up just to have his way.

Therefore, when it comes to the topic marital rape, there are lots to be said and ill love to engage the platform, to read your thoughts as regards the topic.

Thank you.



**Man United for Life**

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Re: Marital Rape by: MichealThankGod(m) .:. Tue, 25 Aug, 2020 - 12:47:59:pm GMT


@nagiano:Well you have your reasons and points of pointing to people been religious, and that they are the most people who rape most.


Am not going to say, you are lying or something else, but my question is, how are you sure this people are genuine pastors, I mean how are you sure this people truly and sincerely carry God inside of them, not to manipulate.
 
Most especially, in this end time, all kinds of rumor's and different kinds of things are happening, especially those bloggers, who are good in creating fake news, just to have clicks, and views, they can twist, what a man of God said to another meaning, all because they want to have clicks and they wants to be known, I pit them, now pastors are careful to share words on pulpit, so that bloggers, won't use it against them.

Always make sure, you do your searching well and correct, before agreeing or believing in any post, that was post on social media.

No to rape. 

**Ogun state**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Nagiano(m) .:. Tue, 25 Aug, 2020 - 01:26:28:pm GMT


@MichealThankGod:


The questions you are asking me are not meant for me but those pastors that commit the act. I'm a very good listener of the radio and I don't just say things I didn't hear from the news. Or will you also ask me to confirm whether the recent case of the pastor who raped two sisters was false. Bro aside from radio, I happen to do a mini job with central criminal registry in Lagos at Ikoyi. You can ask anyone from Lagos if Alagbon Police Station exists. 

It is only God himself that knows those that serves him right and those that are deceiving people but sometimes our actions speak for us. Also, these pastors might be real men of God but made a mistake for the first time and were caught. So my point is that nobody is more holy than anybody and even pastors are not exempted.

You made mention of end time bro, I also want to engage you on that by asking you this question.

Are we already in the end times and state your reasons why you think so?

The reason is that if you go through your Bible and read about the endtimes, then you'll realize that a lot is yet to happen for us to really say we are in the end times.

If you are considering this pandemic as a yardstick, then you're wrong because during the time of INFLUENZA, that was the same way people thought the end time had come and second world war passed, Ebola came, Hiroshima happened and many more and the worst is that most of those people have lived their live and died but the end time is yet to come.

Please we might have started seeing some of the signs, but the Bible said that until the word of God reaches alll the corners of the earth before you'll even reason end ti.e. And I can tell you that there are still some places where the people are living ancient lives and they don't even know if bible exists.

Nobody can predict for sure when rapture will take place but if we really want to use the readings in the Bible then we still have a lot to witness before the end time finally comes.

**Man United for Life**


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Re: Marital Rape by: MichealThankGod(m) .:. Tue, 25 Aug, 2020 - 01:37:22:pm GMT


@nagiano:Smiles, this is becoming interesting, with due respect sir and with all humility, we are only contributing, in other to bring an end to this issue of rape. 


Nobody know who the next, victim might be, all I can say is I know by the special grace of God, those doing this kind of heartless act, would in a none time be Curt, and be judge.


**Ogun state**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Nagiano(m) .:. Tue, 25 Aug, 2020 - 01:55:36:pm GMT


@MichealThankGod:


Thank you very much. I was just trying to explain to you that I don't mean bad for pastors. Many of them have disappointed us and sometimes we overlook their evil deeds because they are pastors.

But we are on the same page here rape needs to be stopped.

**Man United for Life**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Sardyne(f) .:. Mon, 31 Aug, 2020 - 12:21:55:pm GMT

But why would a man think of raping his own wife? What happened to the love he claim to have for her? Or is that what love means to him? Doesn't he know that rape leaves a woman with so much pains? You can't rape your wife and expect her to be happy with you. It's not possible, except if she wants to pretend that she is fine. 


If you understand marriage as it is designed by God, you would know that your spouse has become one with you. Marriage makes you two to become one. Treat your spouse like you will treat yourself. If you cannot endure beating yourself, you should not enjoy beating your spouse. And if you cannot enjoy being raped, you also should not rape your spouse. 

As a man, you should make your woman feel lovable by respecting her opinions. For instance, a typical woman living in somewhere like Lagos, working with an establishment wakes up earlier than 5am, takes care of the house, the children as well as the husband before  going to work. She comes back around like 6pm tired but still has to take care of the house. She takes care of the children's assignment, do the laundry, make dinner for the family and still gives attention to the husband when he comes back. With all these, she is most likely  not going to oblige the husband's desire for sex most time. Not because she doesn't love him enough but her body is stressed. She is mentally exhausted too. At that point in time, all she needs from her husband is a little understanding. But that been said they can always meet each other halfway.

They could talk over it and probably plan towards having a good environment like going on a vacation. They could also see how some of the work load can be reduced, so that she will not always be tired. That way, she would be able to to create time for the husband.


Note: Women are also human beings with feelings and desires. They also want to have good sex and be able to enjoy it. 

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Re: Marital Rape by: Sardyne(f) .:. Mon, 31 Aug, 2020 - 12:32:31:pm GMT


@nagiano: 


1. He broke his marital vows by being an infidel.

2. For the family to be aware and pretend not to be means that they are cruel, wicked and lack the courage to confront him. It shows that they are weak.

3. He physically assaulted his wife and battered her. He even raped and traumatized her like a demon that he is. She did the needful by reporting to the appropriate channel. What if he had killed her while beating her? He deserves what he got. This is just the beginning for him. 

**-The beloved of God**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Nagiano(m) .:. Mon, 31 Aug, 2020 - 01:32:36:pm GMT


@Sardyne:


 The problem I have with Nigerians is that the hypocrisy level is on the high side. I was having a discussion regarding this marital rape issue and i noticed that it is women that will still be saying that the wife should endure such act because of marriage vows. 

The fact that during marriage procedure the both partner signed their marriage certificate doesn't mean the man should bater and rape his wife. But the mentality that has been instilled in some wives by their parents is what makes them still stay in such marriages even when they know that the marriage is not working but causing problems for them. 

Many wives are enduring in their marriages when they are meant to be enjoying their marriage 

**Man United for Life**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Chiboy(m) .:. Thu, 22 Oct, 2020 - 04:04:51:pm GMT

Women are meant to be respected, If you cannot respect your wife decision,it simply mean you do not love her. She has every right to say she's not in the mode for sex, you don't have to forcefully have your way with her. 

Sex should be done in agreement, the woman must give her consent, if she does not consent to it then it's rape. 
If you are having misunderstanding with your spouse and you want to get intimate with her, try to resolve the issue first and she we willingly give in even before you request for it.
Some men have this old traditional belief that they have all the right over their wife, and they can have sex with  her when they so please. And the reason why the women don't complain after been violated is because this ideology has been past down to them by their mothers that they should give it to their husband whenever he needs it no matter the situation of things. 
In the western world it is seen as violation of human right, but here in Africa it is seen to be something that is customary and traditionally right. And this traditions needs to be abolished to prevent marital rape.
Say no to rape.

**Chiboy**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Jummy(m) .:. Fri, 23 Oct, 2020 - 09:12:26:am GMT

Rape means having sexual intercourse without consent, rape is usually done violently. Sex is something that is meant to be enjoyed and not forced, it requires the consent of two partners to make the act pleasurable.

   Marital rape exists and there's nothing like no marital rape, as long as there's no approval from a partner, that's rape. Yesterday I watched a documentary about a Kurdish Girl that was married off at the early age of sixteen and was married of to a man under his fifties. The man always had his way with her Everytime, he would rape her, beat her up and would also threaten her everytime. 

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Re: Marital Rape by: Obajichi(f) .:. Thu, 12 Nov, 2020 - 10:39:17:am GMT

   I believe there is something called marital rape. It seems some men don't even know that sexual intercourse that is carried out with force or ruggedly done  is like fighting on the battle ground. 


   It is totally unpleasant & barbaric to engage in such act. A little pampering or foreplay is needed. If a woman always has to be raped  by her husband then something is obviously wrong with that man or even the marriage as a whole.

   We need to talk to our young men because such act is  cowardly & uncalled for regardless of the society we live in. 





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Re: Marital Rape by: Chamak(f) .:. Thu, 12 Nov, 2020 - 11:26:29:am GMT


@Obajichi:


You're right, young men these days really needs orientation and counselling as regards marital rape so as to prevent them from being a victim when they are married.

Alot of young men have grown up with the ideology that no matter they way sexual intercourse takes place between a husband and a wife rape cannot take place even if it was forcefully done or without the wife's consent.

In marriage, both the husband and his wife are expected to know how to arouse for them to have sexual pleasure. And aside that they should also understand that sex involves emotions and if the wife is not happy emotionally, it will be hard for the wife to want to have sex at that moment. Meaning that the husband should first pet her and make her happy so that she won't resist him when he makes his move and if she doesn't then fine tomorrow is another day.

Another issue as regards this topic is when a husband beats up his wife just because of sex and still forcefully have carnal knowledge with her even when she is in pains. Such act is barbaric and uncalled for. 

Marital rape exist and needs to be stopped.

**chamak collections**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Abosedegrace(f) .:. Wed, 17 Mar, 2021 - 01:33:20:pm GMT

Marital rape is something that I don't even pray for even my enemy to go through. Its really demoralizing!
And men don't just cheat their wives only in the area of sex. Some men will be trying to be playing on the intelligence of their wives. I mean the truth of a matter will be very clear but they will still deny it, they will still make the wife to look like a fool. Seriously all of these do get on my nerves.
One thing men should understand is that although a woman may not always be right but once a woman start asking questions about something, just know that she has found out all about it and even if she hasn't, she is on the mission to find out and she surely will. I know you guys will always be guys but seriously when you are caught, courtesy demands you accept your wrongs, you are not going to die but these people won't instead they will accuse you of being a nag and stupid and when night comes, you are to fulfill your duty as the wife.
Having sex with your wife when she's down or not in the mood is demoralizing along with all the lies and deceit, they all are very bad.
Life is really simple, lets just keep it that way please.
**Redeemed to reign**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Olatoke(m) .:. Sat, 21 Aug, 2021 - 01:59:27:pm GMT

Rape is the action process where you force someone in sex activity.
Rape is something which you force the opposite sex to do with out willing from his or her heart.

Marital rape .marital rape is when the either the wife or husband force himself or herself to have sex.
There shouldn't be marital rape but in some occasion it happens.
Couples ,husband don't force your wife to have sex with you and also the wife dont force your husband to have sex with you .
Sex is the act of thought that come from someone heaet willingly .

**Olatoke **


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Re: Marital Rape by: Olatoke(m) .:. Sat, 21 Aug, 2021 - 05:11:06:pm GMT

Marital rape ,these is mostly common with men ,men you have to lead your home with peace and care .woman are to be treated with love affection.
Men are the starting point in these cases, if you as your wife for sex and she refuses listen to her and digest her word.
The wife if your husband demand sex from you and you are not interested explain to him gently quietly dont shout on your husband .

If you shout on him he can force himself on you which you wont like it, sometimes the husband can be in mood and the wife may not have interest if it happens like this talk about it gently.
**Olatoke **


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Re: Marital Rape by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Tue, 24 Aug, 2021 - 08:46:03:am GMT

Marital rape is very common in this part of the world.
Most men feel that they are entitled to a woman once they have paid her bride price, so they feel she has no right to say no to whatever he wants, which is not right.
The worse part is that the crime is not punishable by the law in Nigeria.
Many attimes if the woman goes to report the case to the police she would be chased away and even blamed for the crime.

**LAGOS**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Fashnet(m) .:. Tue, 07 Sep, 2021 - 09:19:38:pm GMT

@Bookie: Let me start by saying that you have a very good point there and that is exactly what has been happening in the society when it comes to marital rape.
In my opinion I think that there is need for reorientation and teaching on sex generally and how the body of the female work when it comes to sex.
I think that if this is properly done and carried out, some married men and even singles and all classes of men would learn and come to appreciate the way female body works.
This then would give rise to the men to respect their wives and even all single women in relationships inclusive of those that are not in relationships as it may be.
I also think that the former cultural training given to men and whatsoever tradition they might have learnt that promotes rape or any form of aggression and assault to the women generally needs to be corrected so that all these inhuman acts to all affected ladies and women can be stopped.
**Help the needy and love everyone**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Fri, 24 Sep, 2021 - 02:49:25:am GMT

Marital rape is very common in this part of the world.
We live in a country where a man's right precedes that of a woman.

We live in a country where women are regarded as properties they get married to them.
I just hope that things change for the better.


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Re: Marital Rape by: Ojc(E)(m) .:. Fri, 24 Sep, 2021 - 02:53:01:am GMT

@Fashnet: you're right about that we need to modify most of our traditional practices rather than just stick to them totally without any change.


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Re: Marital Rape by: Lilcent(m) .:. Sun, 26 Sep, 2021 - 10:41:17:pm GMT

@nagiano: We still have a long way to go in this part of the world.


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Re: Marital Rape by: Damilola(f) .:. Thu, 14 Oct, 2021 - 05:51:11:pm GMT

This is indeed a serious case that needs somuch attention. Marital rape is a bad act but it can not just happen suddenly in a marriage.. something will always lead to another thing.
It is either the husband is a sex addict or the wife is one who doesn't like sex much.
If a man is addicted to sex and he married a woman who is so reluctant when it comes to sex, there will be problem., because the man will want to satisfy himself. I watched a film like that, which talks about this marital rape.
The husband is someone who love sex but the wife find it difficult to satisfy him in that area. Then he went ahead to sleep with his wife's sister, threatening her that he will stop caring for her family if she ever tell her wife.
This continues (even with tears in her eyes, he will have sex with her) until his secret was opened.

I think marital rape occurs as a result of it knowing each other well before marriage.
Am not saying that you should engage in premarital sex, it is just communication. At the stage of courtship, you should know each other well. Know each other's strength and weakness. Ladies, ask how much he like sex, so it will not shock you when you get married., because Immediately we are married, all our body belongs to our husband and vise versa, Know matter what. He might have offended you, but you are never deny him of his right. Even that way, you will not give room for the devil. After that, you can settle things amicably.

**Damilola**


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Re: Marital Rape by: Iyanu(f) .:. Tue, 16 Nov, 2021 - 09:08:59:am GMT

Sex between couples is ment to be enjoyed not forcing any one.

Marital rape is very common to men , some men even think women are slaves in their home.

Gently talk to your wife if you are in mood rather than forcing her to do what she is not ready for.

**Oladipupo **


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Re: Marital Rape by: Iyanu(f) .:. Thu, 18 Nov, 2021 - 12:18:27:am GMT

Sex is ment to be enjoyed by both male and female , female like it especially when the man is romantic hummm.
Because you are feeling honey dosent mean that the opposite sex of yours too feel the same right .

Some men are in to drug addict when ever they are been high they behave anyhow when they rich home talk to their wife any how .
Marital rape is real if you are in to the habit put a stop to it because it is very bad .
**Oladipupo **


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