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Love-Stories » Who Is Your Friend by: Oma_maron(f) .:. Tue, 16 Apr, 2019 - 04:00:59:am GMT
It's not right for those you call friends to want to engage in sex with you before they assist you, that already shows that you need to change your circus as a lady, don't use your body as a tool to get help from those friends of yours of the opposite sex. Guys must you sleep with a girl before you help her?

One of my female friends told me, 'Precious, I don't know what to do, all my friends want to sleep with me before they can help or assist me'. Dear girlfriend, it's very wrong to call such fellows your friends. A friend is that person that won't ask you for sex before helping you. A friend is that person that will take you as his own sister. When you believe a guy that sleeps with you in exchanged for favor is your friend, then you will see all guys that comes your way the same.

A friend will think of your happiness first, not his. Delete those kind of people from your hearts' friends lists. Dear guys, that girl coming to ask you for help shouldn't give you the idea of sex. What do you really gain from the enjoyment of a second? What do you really gain from sleeping with every girl you see? If God blessed you, He blessed you for a purpose He blessed you to be a blessing to others. Bless a soul that comes your way please.

**Graced **

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Gooddypye(m) .:. Tue, 16 Apr, 2019 - 10:23:40:am GMT

At times I do feel if it's a curse on men not to be able to help a lady without seeking anything like sex from her. The reason I said so, is because you will hardly see a man that will help a lady without asking her for sex. And it won't just stop there, some will insist she starts dating him. For how much you want to help her with? 


If men were to be God, ladies will suffer. How many things does God request from you before granting your heart desires? I really want to know. That you can't help a friend of yours. 

A lady I knew very well was always receiving money from different guys. And she claims none is sleeping with her or dating her, they are just helping her. Yet, you visit them and even spend days with them.

My dear, it's hardly you will see a guy that will help you without seeking something from you. Those are not meant to be friends. If you have such people as friends that can't help you when in need then you have to delete them off, deviate from them. A friend indeed is a friend in need.

**Fearless**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Princess(f) .:. Wed, 01 Jul, 2020 - 10:48:53:am GMT

It is really important to be able to differentiate good friends from the bad friends and what she has as friends are unfortunately bad.

A bad friend is one who ignores your feelings and dies not care about your well-being, such a person does not give listening ear - which is very important in a friendship.

Friends are the relations we choose by ourselves. A good friend is a person who is loving, honest, loyal, caring, helpful - someone you can always count on when the times are hard. This relations makes the journey through life beautiful and interesting as you share every moment with them. A friend is a person whose company one enjoys and towards whom one feels affection - this includes personal regard and care.

Good friends come with qualities that make them stand out and unique. These qualities include;

1. Being compassionate: Friends should be able to sympathetize with one another in all situation.

2. Good listeners: A friend should develop good listening skills as it helps to keep the friendship going on. As parties involved would want to share their experiences with one another at one point in time.

3. A good friend is a loyal one: A good friend should never betray you or speak evil about you or do anything that would make you question their actions.

4. A good friend is reliable: There are times in your life when you would need someone to rely on support; this is where a good friend comes in, you have them around to fill in that space, telling you you're not alone.

5. A good friend is trustworthy: You should have friends you can have discussions it and you would be sure the whole would not gear about it 

6. Giving support: Good friends would always be available to render help when needed and support you in all you do.

Friends play an important role in an individual's life. We all need one, for the pleasure we have with them, for the tough times we scale through with them by our sides and for everything.

**Toluwaneeme**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Glamour(f) .:. Wed, 01 Jul, 2020 - 11:40:32:am GMT

Who is my friend, to be sincere I can say I have just maybe five friends if they are up to that the remaining ones are acquaintances. My friend or a friend once told me to send my nude for 2000 during this pandemic when I told him I was broke. On  getting home because I was in school then when I told him I was broke, he told me and my friend how much is spent in school, how he was enjoying life in school that he was not broke at all and I was wondering this is someone I've known for like 5 years now we've been friends or should I say i thought we were friends and now I needed his help he couldn't render it. Let's not forget that there's a difference when it comes to know I'm not helping and give me this and I will give you that. You know the funniest part I still talk to him but he is no longer a friend to me he is someone I know. That's my room experience based on someone I call a friend, if someone like that can do that to me why won't a nobody do that also to me. So as a wise girl whenever you I placed in this kind of situation you don't accept it.

 These things are ramparts already in the society for example your male lecturer is asking you 4 sex in exchange for grades. Let me tell you something it's not that the lecture I gave you anything or graded you well you did well on your own. He just wants to feel you. 

**God's favorite**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Toxyron(f) .:. Wed, 01 Jul, 2020 - 05:17:21:pm GMT

A friend is someone that respects you,that thinks about your happiness first,Corrects you when you need to be corrected and never collects anything in return from you.

    I see lots of people talking about money and sex and even ladies to are part of this,They would be like he gave me his money and I had sex with him or I have her money and I had sex with her,How does that sound in your ear even when God helps you he doesn't collect anything from you in return but who should I blame when half of the generation doesn't even have the fear of God.
   Know your friend, Friendship is not demanding, Friendship is love,If your friends are the other way round I guess u Kno w what to do.

**Sharon**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Mima(f) .:. Wed, 01 Jul, 2020 - 07:06:23:pm GMT

Having good friends who love and support you for who you are is really important for your happiness. Figure out what makes a good friend, and learn how you can be there for your friends when they need you most.

This can help if:
you’re not sure about a friendship
you don’t know what to do or say to a friend
you want to figure out what a good friend is and how to be one.
Why good friends are so important
So, being a great friend to someone and having friends support your back is good for your wellbeing. But what, exactly, makes a good friend?

Signs of a good friend
Obviously, Friends will come and go in your life. No matter how long your friendships last, the most important thing is your friends’ acceptance of you for who you are. A good friend walks the talk and shows that they care by their actions – big and small.But the friends that stay are the real ones. 

A good friend:

is there for you, no matter what
doesn’t judge you, doesn’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings
is kind and respectful to you, is someone whose company you enjoy, is loyal, is trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard for you to hear, laughs with you, sticks around when things get tough, makes you smile, is there to listen, comforts you when you cry.

If you treat the people around you in the ways described above, then you’re already a good friend to them. But it’s not always easy to know how to be there for your friends.

Listen to them
Try to understand a situation from your friend’s point of view. Ask questions to get a sense of the problem or issue, but the main thing is to listen to them. You don’t have to have all the answers, and don’t assume that your friend wants advice – they might just want to talk so that they can work it out for themselves.

Get the facts
If your friend has a medical or mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they’ve been diagnosed with. Being interested in what they’re going through shows you care, and that you plan to stick around no matter what’s going on.

Ask them what they need
If you’re worried about someone and you want to be there for them, ask them what they need. You’ll then know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can offer them support in a way that’s genuinely helpful.

Get physical
If you’re a hugger, ask your friend whether it’d be okay to hug them. Once you get the thumbs up, hug away! Hugging your friends can be a great way to show you care for them. Physical contact can be comforting, especially when someone feels alone. 

Keep in touch
Even if you don’t live nearby, show your friends you’re there for them by making an effort to keep in regular touch through social media, texts or calls.

Tell them how you feel
You don’t have to make a big deal about it all the time, but you can make a real difference to how someone is feeling just by letting them know how important they are to you. So, go for it!

Be willing to make a tough call
If you think your friend’s safety is at risk, you might need to act without their consent and get help. It can be a tough call, particularly when you’re worried about how they’ll react, but remember that good friends care enough to step up, and that you’re doing it to protect them from harm.
With all these, I hope you are able to find who your friends are 

**Just me**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Victoria(f) .:. Fri, 03 Jul, 2020 - 12:21:28:am GMT

There's nothing I cherish most than my friends. I could go to any length to help them out and would do basically anything for them. I would even die for some. But even with this blindsided loyalty I have to them, I have no way of telling if they're as loyal to me as I am to them. 
When I do things for them like helping them lie, giving them the last cash I have, leaving my home in the middle of the night to get to the hospital because there's an emergency, keeping an eye on them when they're drunk at a party or even praying for them, I wonder if they would do the same for but then again I can't ask or demand for help or anything because I am scared that they wouldn't go to any length to come to my aid like I do for them.
I write epistles for them on their birthdays, calling and trying my best to be that friend that would always be there for them and not the kind of friend that always has to hear the popular phrase "You cannot even ask of someone".
I imagine sometimes if they think about me and say a silent prayer for me in their hearts, I wonder if they'll be by my side when I have issues or if I get into trouble.
For someone who tends feeble minded and trusts everyone and tries to see the best in anyone, it would be a very terrible thing to discover that when I need them, they probably won't be there.
I know I could be a terrible friend at times too. I ignore them when I think they're saying something that isn't worth my while, I have mood swings and I throw tantrum fits, I talk a lot and I tend to drag them into conversations they most definitely aren't interested in.
But I still wouldn't want them to trade me for anything.


**Live, love and heal...**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Davzee(m) .:. Fri, 03 Jul, 2020 - 12:15:06:pm GMT

Any of your opposite sex friend who ask for sex before helping you doesn't see you as a friend. Because a true friend will never ask you for sex before helping you. Some friends you don't need to even ask them for help before they help you.


Ladies any guy that you close with and he is asking for sex before helping you is a bad friend, you need to stay far away from that friend.

A friend suppose to be caring and loyal to you, when you need him he is there for you, a true friend is suppose to be your advicer.

So please everyone and only the ladies this time around men too. Please stay away from bad friends. Thank you. 

**No doubt**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Dynameak(m) .:. Fri, 03 Jul, 2020 - 11:08:26:pm GMT


@Princess:


The persons you call your friend will have great effect on your destiny. Good friends can make you while bad friends can mar you. I like to define friend as "my go to person even in my lowliest state." Mostly, you will attract to your life the kind of person you are. It is important to sift the whole grain from the shaft amongst the persons you relate with so as to be able to take to yourself the ones that will profit your journey through life. 

A good friend is one that will always look out for what's best for you in life and that will make him or her transparent with you so much that whenever you are doing very well, you will be rejoiced with and in your lowly state, he or she will be a shoulder to lean on. The best part to good friendship is that you will be told when you aren't doing things right and that's a plus on your path because you will be able to do what's necessary to get better concerning the area your attention has been called to. 

As I type this out, I am remembering how I had to talk straight to my friends face in University when she misbehaved. The talk wasn't so easy like our usual gist and I felt bad for having to talk with so much seriousness but I had to tell it to her because I wanted her to grow into a virtuous woman. 

A lot of times being human we know what we behave badly but for the gratification of the moment we decide to look away and act like we did the right thing. If you have a 'friend' that wouldn't state clearly whenever you are doing wrong, I put it to you that you do not have a friend at all and you should do well to sift such person out of your circle of friends because it's clear that such person is an acquaintance. If you're blessed with good friends then you should reciprocate goodness too so as to build the friendship strongly. 


**Life is a race but with God's element of grace it'll be worth while to explore His goodness. **


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Ipfy(m) .:. Mon, 06 Jul, 2020 - 11:11:06:am GMT

To be sincere some friends are just so useless that they can't help without something in exchange you think they are good but bad friends .I do pity girl's that they have sex before getting thing's and some girls will have sex with there lecturers so that they can pass it so bad and some friends are just so used to it
**Jesus**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Princessprecious(m) .:. Mon, 06 Jul, 2020 - 11:18:46:am GMT

Hmmmm.... So nice!... This is indeed helpful
**Precious**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: ACETONE(m) .:. Mon, 06 Jul, 2020 - 11:38:46:am GMT

Your friend is one who you know about as yourself. A friend is a someone who helps his/her partner during time of tribulations. I believe before you can call a person your friend you must have shared different moments together, you have his characters/attitude studied to know if you're okay with them and he is also okay with yours. 

A saying goes thus "A friend in need is a friend indeed" As the Yoruba's will say igba ishoro la n mo ore eni that is you get to know who your true friend is when you have problems!.

**Mumdiamond**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Victoria(f) .:. Mon, 06 Jul, 2020 - 11:08:33:pm GMT

Who is a friend? A friend is a lifeline in times of need. A go to when you need help, a play mate, a confidant, a keeper, a joygiver, source of strength, a sibling, a parent, a child, a teacher, an enemy. 
Those who have good friends have the whole world at their fingertips. Those who have access to friends that can be there whenever and wherever. Friends that will always stand by you through thick and thin and are always steadfast, unshaken, firm as a rock, friends that will always take your side even when you're wrong and then chastise you in secret. Those are the kind of people that can be called friends. Any other individual is a counterfeit. Imagine having a friend who has your best interest at heart, who loves you enough to give you the whole world in a platter of gold, a friend that would always tell you the truth and would be with you in every step of the way.
Imagine having a friend that would tell you the truth no matter how bitter it could seem. That's basically what friends are for. If they can't tell you the truth, then why on earth would you refer to them as friends. That isn't a fitting title then.
Before a person can be called a friend, he or she must have proved to be a loyal and dedicated person, someone who will never let you down, someone who will pave the way for you to shine and will not hold you back from doing the things you love or the things that prove to be advantageous to you.
But before you search for these type of friends, you yourself must be a true friend, always doing good to your other friends and supporting them like you'd want others to do for you.
Whatever you do, remember that a good friend is worth more than silver or gold or anything else that could exist in this life.



**Live, love and heal...**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Temmylove(f) .:. Thu, 23 Jul, 2020 - 08:23:32:am GMT

Oluwatobi Eri, he is a wonderful  guy, hardworking and passionate about  success, he is a good  adviser. He is a native of Abeokuta in Ogun state We met in school during my  ND program, he was introduced by another  good friend of mine  in the same department . Throughout  our stay in school living  together was fun, it was an amazing experience. He is fun to be with,  I could  remember back then in school , whenever we cook beans we fight  over the  food in good terms actually . He is someone  with a good heart and can go extra  length  for people around. He is a good lover of God and spiritual  things. He is a willing  helper, no dulling moment  with him. He is a faithful lover ,open  hearted person, jovial and  a great  lover of children. 
  
     My friend  and I accommodated other friends  in our room  like six to ten persons, he is very understanding. We cook a lot and don't  eat alone (share with  other  friends).  Like I said  earlier, he loves children and he is really  fond of them, carried them  around buy things for  them, treats  them as if he his dealing  with  his children. Both young and old, male and female, married and single always  loves his company. He is respectful and also respected as well, he cares greatly for  his family. 

    He studied computer  science, he write program for companies, industries, banks and other forms. He is also an engineer :repairs phone, and other devices. He doesn't joke with his spiritual  life. I love my friend and anyone who gets married  to him is blessed  because  he is loaded.who gets married  to him is blessed  because  he is loaded. 

**God's will be done**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: MissDairo(f) .:. Thu, 23 Jul, 2020 - 09:04:28:am GMT

The one step to friendship is not to start craving for acceptance.

Some of us are the architect of our own misfortunes.
We try to fit into certain friendships even when we know it would do us no good.
Probably because of the game, money or benefits we would derive, we try to force friendship with people we ought to stay away from.

It's not too late to change that friend.
It not to late to cut ties with that individual.

If a friend isn't influencing you positively please cut ties with that person.

A friend should be able to align with your life goals and you with theirs.
A friend should be able to give without expecting and you do same.
A friend should be able to share your wins and failure with you.
A friend should be like a sibling to you.

Furthermore, be the friend you want to have.
List out the characters you want in a friend.
Do you have those characters?

Be the type of friend you want to attract.

**MissDairo**


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Bolexy46(m) .:. Wed, 05 Aug, 2020 - 01:19:14:am GMT

Having good friends who love and support you for who you are is really important for your happiness. Figure out what makes a good friend, and learn how you can be there for your friends when they need you most.

This can help if:

  • you’re not sure about a friendship
  • you don’t know what to do or say to a friend
  • you want to figure out what a good friend is and how to be one.
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Why good friends are so important

Research has shown that the better the quality of your relationships, the more likely you are to be happy. So, being a great friend to someone and having friends support your back is good for your wellbeing. But what, exactly, makes a good friend?

Signs of a good friend

Friends will come and go in your life. No matter how long your friendships last, the most important thing is your friends’ acceptance of you for who you are. A good friend walks the talk and shows that they care by their actions – big and small.

A good friend:

  • is there for you, no matter what
  • doesn’t judge you
  • doesn’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings
  • is kind and respectful to you
  • is someone whose company you enjoy
  • is loyal
  • is trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard for you to hear
  • laughs with you
  • sticks around when things get tough
  • makes you smile
  • is there to listen
  • comforts you when you cry.

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How to be a good friend

If you treat the people around you in the ways described above, then you’re already a good friend to them. But it’s not always easy to know how to be there for your friends.

Listen to them
Try to understand a situation from your friend’s point of view. Ask questions to get a sense of the problem or issue, but the main thing is to listen to them. You don’t have to have all the answers, and don’t assume that your friend wants advice – they might just want to talk so that they can work it out for themselves.

Get the facts
If your friend has a medical or mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they’ve been diagnosed with. Being interested in what they’re going through shows you care, and that you plan to stick around no matter what’s going on.

Ask them what they need
If you’re worried about someone and you want to be there for them, ask them what they need. You’ll then know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can offer them support in a way that’s genuinely helpful.

Get physical
If you’re a hugger, ask your friend whether it’d be okay to hug them. Once you get the thumbs up, hug away! Hugging your friends can be a great way to show you care for them. Physical contact can be comforting, especially when someone feels alone. 

Keep in touch
Even if you don’t live nearby, show your friends you’re there for them by making an effort to keep in regular touch through social media, texts or calls.

Tell them how you feel
You don’t have to make a big deal about it all the time, but you can make a real difference to how someone is feeling just by letting them know how important they are to you. So, go for it!

Be willing to make a tough call
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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Bolexy46(m) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 02:46:30:pm GMT

Rich and I were high school sweethearts, dating all the way until we decided to go to college in different states—California for him and Virginia for me. Yet even though we had broken up, I still thought about him. When we reconnected in 2018, the sparks flew, all my doubts were gone, and I knew for sure this was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We got engaged nine months later on June 23, 2019. While that may seem quick to some people, really we’d been preparing for this since the eleventh grade!

We planned our dream wedding: a beautiful flower-strewn ceremony in front of nearly 200 of our friends and family in San Diego, followed by a grand reception and then off on our honeymoon. The date we picked was April 18, which was right smack dab in the middle of the coronavirus pandemic. We live in California so we were among the first Americans to be put under a shelter-in-place in order. It was just three weeks before our wedding yet we weren’t even supposed to go out to eat, much less have a huge party. We had to cancel our wedding. Find out https://www.rd.com/list/canceling-a-major-life-event/" style="color: rgb(10, 78, 155); text-decoration-line: none; background-color: transparent; border-bottom: 1px solid;">how event planners cancel major live events.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Bolexy46(m) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 02:46:30:pm GMT

Rich and I were high school sweethearts, dating all the way until we decided to go to college in different states—California for him and Virginia for me. Yet even though we had broken up, I still thought about him. When we reconnected in 2018, the sparks flew, all my doubts were gone, and I knew for sure this was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We got engaged nine months later on June 23, 2019. While that may seem quick to some people, really we’d been preparing for this since the eleventh grade!

We planned our dream wedding: a beautiful flower-strewn ceremony in front of nearly 200 of our friends and family in San Diego, followed by a grand reception and then off on our honeymoon. The date we picked was April 18, which was right smack dab in the middle of the coronavirus pandemic. We live in California so we were among the first Americans to be put under a shelter-in-place in order. It was just three weeks before our wedding yet we weren’t even supposed to go out to eat, much less have a huge party. We had to cancel our wedding. Find out https://www.rd.com/list/canceling-a-major-life-event/" style="color: rgb(10, 78, 155); text-decoration-line: none; background-color: transparent; border-bottom: 1px solid;">how event planners cancel major live events.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Tokadex(m) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 03:09:45:pm GMT

I love this article. It gives a true picture of what is happening in our world and how many people believe that you must gain from everyone you help. The request for sex in exchange for help depicts lack of self-control and high level of indiscipline.

Friendship is not by force but your choice thus, choose wisely.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Bolexy46(m) .:. Fri, 07 Aug, 2020 - 11:06:53:pm GMT

  1. a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations.
    "she's a friend of mine"
    synonyms: companion, boon companion, bosom friend, best friend, close friend, intimate, confidante, confidant, familiar, soul mate, alter ego, second self, shadow, playmate, playfellow, classmate, schoolmate, workmate, ally, comrade, associate, sister, brother, pal, bosom pal, buddy, bosom buddy, chum, spar, sidekick, cully, crony, main man, bezzie, mate, oppo, china, mucker, butty, bruvver, bruv, marrow, marrer, marra, amigo, compadre, paisan, homie, bro, homeboy, homegirl, gabba, offsider, compeer, fidus Achates
  2. a member of the Religious Society of Friends; a Quaker
  3. .friend is someone you love and who loves you, someone you respect and who respects you, someone whom you trust and who trusts you. A friend is honest and makes you want to be honest, too. A friend is loyal.

    A friend is someone who is happy to spend time with you doing absolutely nothing at all; someone who doesn't mind driving you on stupid https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=errands" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(19, 79, 230); line-height: inherit; font-weight: bold; font-family: "Source Sans Pro", "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: normal;">errands, who will get up at midnight just because you want to go on an adventure, and who doesn’t have to talk to communicate with you.

    A friend is someone who not only doesn't care if https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=you%27re%20ugly" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(19, 79, 230); line-height: inherit; font-weight: bold; font-family: "Source Sans Pro", "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: normal;">you're ugly or boring, but doesn't even think about it; someone who forgives you no matter what you do, and someone who tries to help you even when they don't know how. A friend is someone who tells you if you're https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=being%20stupid" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(19, 79, 230); line-height: inherit; font-weight: bold; font-family: "Source Sans Pro", "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: normal;">being stupid, but who doesn't make you feel stupid.

    A friend is someone who would sacrifice their life and happiness for you. A friend is someone who will come with you when you have to do boring things like watch bad recitals, go to https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stuffy" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(19, 79, 230); line-height: inherit; font-weight: bold; font-family: "Source Sans Pro", "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: normal;">stuffy parties, or wait in boring https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=lobbies" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(19, 79, 230); line-height: inherit; font-weight: bold; font-family: "Source Sans Pro", "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Roboto, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; white-space: normal;">lobbies. You don't even think about who's talking or who's listening in a conversation with a friend.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Victoria(f) .:. Fri, 04 Sep, 2020 - 11:05:05:pm GMT

Who is your friend? While I would like to know know myself who a friend really is, I may be more or less satisfied with the definition of friendship that I have. According to what I've heard people say, there are different types of friends mainly the good ones and the bad ones though and then there are some that are neither good nor bad. They're just I'm the middle swaying wherever the wind leads them. When you meet a person for the first time, there's really no way to tell what kind of friend they would be to you. You just have to hope that they turn out to be who you need and more.
To me, a friend is someone who always has your back. It doesn't matter the problem or the dilemma you're in. A true friend will always be in your corner rooting for you. A friend would always back you up in public and if you're wrong reprimand you in private. There's this joke I always share with my best friends. I tell them that of they ever need to hide a body, I would be there for them but I know it would never come to that and of course that's easier said than done. I know this isn't a valid criteria for true friendship but friends get into trouble for each other all the time and make no fuss about it. When you call someone your ride or die, you're really saying that whatever happens we're in it together and if it's not possible to be in it together, you would rather just die or not do it at all. That's a friend.
A friend will always forgive you. True friends don't hold grudges over little things. A true friend will put up with your bad habits, your mistakes, your errors, your bad behaviour, your addictions, your guilty pleasures without saying a word. It's normal to get pushed to the wall but even though they will get mad at times, it definitely won't be forever.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Gbasky(m) .:. Tue, 08 Sep, 2020 - 06:33:07:pm GMT

These days friends of opposite sex has lost it cause. There is no longer value in friending with an opposite sex as men being the perpetuator now have demoralized the value of having an opposite sex friend. Guys nowadays don't even make female friends with a plain motive. That is why after many guys woo a girl and she doesn't accept, they(guys) goes further to persuade them(girls) to at a least be their friends, not because they want to be their friend but because they can seize any opportunity at any point in time to finally get what they initially wanted. 
Guys out there, let's be clean and plain with our female friends and life will be good for us..

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: ObakaEmmanuel(m) .:. Tue, 08 Sep, 2020 - 09:58:33:pm GMT

You only get to know your true friend when you are in need. Not necessarily in need of money. It can be that you are in need of ideas, you are in need of prayer. A true friend will never discourage you. Some will say they are the ones that making me their friend and I can't resist them. That's a lie. When they take you as friends don't take them back as friends. Just know them. The way you know the president without him been your friend. I had a friend back then that loves prayer. I mean he loves prayer. When it is his prayer time he don't joke with it. So the more I came closer to the guy the more I discover I started falling in love with prayer. Anybody who can impact you positively is your true friend.
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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Bunmitty(f) .:. Wed, 09 Sep, 2020 - 09:22:55:am GMT

At a time I feel it good for person not to have friend than to have a friend that will led you to why you don't want to go.it better to stay away from those friend that can't help you without ask for sex,anybody that have must know that is God that bless them so that they can be a bless to other.the more you help people  the more God will send helper to help you.
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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Goddy(m) .:. Sat, 19 Sep, 2020 - 08:23:35:am GMT

We are two friends born from different mothers. We are two people who have absolutely nothing similar. We have two different like minds that doesn't share the same ideology. We are two people that understands each other. We are people from different worlds that are connected by 'fate'. You made me who I am today. Having someone you can trust. Having someone who has your back at all the times. Having someone who loves and admires me for who I am. Having someone who does not judge me for who I am. That is what I call a friend.
My friend is someone whose love for me has no limits,someone who adores me, someone who cares alot about me, my friend is someone who is important to me. My friend is someone that is always there for me there was, this time I was in junior class, I was a new comer then. I did not have any friends. I came across this particular group of individuals and thought tto myself "well,okay! Maybe I should be friends with them! I mean they look friendly". But this so called friends forsake me when I was framed for cheating in an exam, only you believed and stood by me, even if we argue or fight, even though I was the one at fault, my friend still apologises. My friend is always there for me and mostly in my time of needs. My friend is someone ven in his busy schedule always finds a good leisure time just to be and have fun with me. My friend always make sure we always spend time with each other.
My friend is someone I can always count on. There was this time while I entered junior class 2,I was being bullied by this person I called a friend, he backstabbed me, while everyone watched in awe,I was just confused but this my close friend was there for me, my friend helped me and made a difference for me. Any time I am in trouble, my friend is always there for me, my friend always does what his might can help me with. My friend is dearest to me, my friend is a unique being. My friend always makes me happy and even when I am sad, he tries all his best to put a smile on my face.
I believe that you don't have to have a lot of similarities before you can call a person your 'friend'. As the word implies, the word 'friend' is larger than all what we can comprehend. The little things and difference we make towards people is what matters. My friend I very important to me. I believe that there is a big gap between your family and your friend. I believe that family is not all about having the same DNA sample or otherwise but a family are people who love you the way you are and not what they want you to be. This is what and how my friend is to me. This is my friend.
So my question is now,WHO IS YOUR FRIEND?. 

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Francis(m) .:. Sat, 19 Sep, 2020 - 09:12:56:am GMT

Hmmm, you are very right but I will agree with the saying that; fingers are not the same.  We men are fond of sex, we grab any opportunity that comes our way. It is very hard to abstain from it, so it takes a man with the spirit of God to overlook such things.
sincerely speaking, nothing is free in this life except if the aid comes from God. Imagine a manager of a company asking a lady to sleep with her before he can approve her job, when she is qualified for the job.., not to talk of a friend who wants to help you without you being special to him. 
Even your boyfriend will stylishly ask for something in return if he gives you money. 
Even a man marry a woman to yield profit, and that is children. So what are we now saying?.
We should only believe God for help without any condition.
Human being will fail you. I am a man with flesh, I can fail you.


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Holashayo(f) .:. Sat, 19 Sep, 2020 - 01:45:53:pm GMT

Sincerely,I do not see any reason why a girl will befriend a guy if nothing is attached. Yes I can say that because I have experienced it.
A lady may think that her so called friend is nothing but a friend in need but does she know the mind of a guy?. He might be having feelings for her for so long but could not get the chance to express it. Now that you seek for help, it is a great opportunity for him.
You can never predict the heart of a man because he is covered with this same flesh.
I have so many guy as a friend and there is non of them that hasn't propose to me. Anytime I seek help from them, they do bring me back to our discussion that if I had agreed to their request, I wont be begging them now, they will gladly give me.
Some will not even tell me that, they will just declare that they don't have. So tell me who did friend help.
A friend with the same sex find it difficult to help each other without expecting something in return, not to talk of the opposite sex.
This world itself is in the era of " not for free". 
You cannot get a tangible job for free and money itself is not acquired  for free.
Those men, not that they don't have abundance, but that selfish interest keeps controlling them. You will hear them say that; " I walked hard for my money so I should not spend anyhow". But they have forgotten God who make them what they are. That is why there are many prostitutes outside that are willing to give them what they want in re for money.

Human beings help with condition but God help is unconditional.
The devil will give you money today but you will pay back a million times.
The only trustable help come from above dear.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Adegboyelove(m) .:. Sat, 19 Sep, 2020 - 02:16:33:pm GMT

There is a lot to be said about friend and friendship but looking at your post on friend it has a lot to do with the association someone keep and call friend and a lot also rest  on the person's discipline and attitude towards sex.

 it has been proven that one peer as a lot of influence on someone and that if you choose the wrong peer the pressure they put on us can affect us greatly, but sometimes a group of friends may appear to be good at the first instance so it requires constant effort and it also requires time  to determine correct friends.
For me I think when it comes to choosing friends we need advice from other people when choosing friends and whe n we finally have friends we should try our best to correct their Motives if we discover that their Motives are not too good and if we  are unable to change their motives or actions it is better for us to leave because the Bible condemns sex and the Bible says that anyone who engages in it will not inherit God's kingdom and I know none of us want to lose God's Kingdom and his hope for us.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Oluwatomisin(f) .:. Sun, 20 Sep, 2020 - 08:51:20:pm GMT

WHO IS YOUR FRIEND? 


This is a question you should ask yourselves always. Some of us just keep friends without knowing them very well. Many of us get friends in diifferent places but as time goes on you start realizing that you need to select few out of many. 

When we don't know what we want, we just choose friends anyhow. So before we start making friends or choose some covenant friend we need to know where and what we want to do with our lives. Have a full understanding on what you want to become In life and also your purpose. 

After you've gotten that you now search or pick someone who's going through that path. Your friends determined your progress. They either hinder your progress or speed up your progress so choose wisely. 

Furthermore, if you are the type that is serious and also aspire to be great but move with people who are not conscious about their future you are not on the right path. It's time to change your cycle and get involved with people of like minds. 

Finally, relationship either make or mar you. So therefore be watchful and always pay close attentions to what happens in your cycle. 

**Always put God first **


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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Asi(m) .:. Sat, 26 Sep, 2020 - 06:14:51:am GMT

A very important rhetorical question. The people you make friends with directly affects every other area of your life( the quality of your life as well). 

Friends are the people that make or mar you, the ones you seek advice from. They are the people we often run to for help. They are our greatest influencers and more often than not, a reflection of our personality.

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Re: Who Is Your Friend by: Mima(f) .:. Sun, 27 Sep, 2020 - 03:23:42:pm GMT

Friend, that word should send shudders down your spine and yeah surprisingly it doesn't because we don't even know what it truly means, we tag all the people we greet and smile at as friends, a capital this is so wrong would fit this situation. The interpretation of the word my friend is Soo trampled on, No one is a friend this days, No one really wants to stand as the backbone of someone they really care about or serve as the someones shoulder to cry on no more. 
                   

Fairly enough, all or most of our lives we attach ourselves sometimes unconsciously to someone we see as family, bestie (best friend) is who we regard that person as. 
                

Today when you ask how many friends a person has... His/her answer would either be "them too many, I no fit count" or " I sabi plenty people.

A friend is someone who has your best interest at heart. 

A friend is someone who makes you smile.

A friend is a companion. She doesn't leave you all to yourself.

A friend is someone who supports you. She is ready to give at all time.

A friend encourage you and do not find fault in you always.

A friend stand for you even when all the whole world are against you.

A friend does not judge you based on your past. She sees the best in you. 

A friend is someone that loves you! 
   Now, who is your friend? 

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