Romance » SOMETIMES IT'S YOUR FAULT AS THE WIFE by: Velisa(f) .:. Sat, 27 Apr, 2019 - 11:53:59:am GMT
Many wives wake up wondering what happened to their marriages, where it all went wrong and how their husbands suddenly became strangers, when in reality they had been on a path that would lead here right from the start.
Has a wife... Have you thought of this. Some of these are complains made by your husband, but you end up showing no care.
Food is bad but if you mention it, she picks a fight and guilt trips you on being unappreciative.
Sex is poor but he has to understand she is tired all the time doing the work in 'his' home (as they call it)
Physical attraction is long gone but to speak about keeping fit is to hear how she became like this because she had kids for him.
Communication is poor, every conversation is a nag and an attempted control tag.
Even looks within the home is very poor - tie wrapper on scattered hair and all is well.
Disobedience is at its maximum but if you speak, you are trying to control her....the same person with whom you agreed to create the model of marriage.
You cannot even speak and caution without getting screamed down in a needless defence which does not even make any sense.
Your family have ways, you try to let her see how it is, no. Yet, for her people, it is expected that you are Mr Amazing and Mr Respect all demands.
All the above will not happen in a single day, it will be one after the other and you'll not think much of each till that day you wake up wondering why you hate what he has become and he doesn't even care.
Most marital issues are not only double sided but multifaceted. To wives though, everything is the fault of the man and they are always the victims.Hopefully, many realise that this approach is wrong and make things right. This approach is the reason many homes are being lost. Pay attention to who your man is and what your home needs. You have faults too.
Re: SOMETIMES IT'S YOUR FAULT AS THE WIFE by: Piwizo(m) .:. Sun, 28 Apr, 2019 - 05:53:18:am GMT
So many times we see someone showing appreciation for their spouse and we go "awww, if only more men could be like this"
You, woman, are you like this?
And it's not just women, we all do it but while we demand some things, do we ever think about being that which we seek first?
No, the excuses set in here. "I don't know how to write", " but he doesn't write for me".
It doesn't need anything you cannot do. It only needs to be sincere and straight from your heart. Let your best feelings and experiences drive the words you write and you will create a beautiful message that your spouse will connect to.....and eventually appreciate in their own way.
Task: Think deep and go past the challenges, go past the rocky times and go back to the beautiful beginning and the best times. Close your eyes and let yourself feel it again then open your eyes and write whatever you feel to your spouse as you feel it and as best as you can write it. If you write with the best intention and best wishes for your union, whatever you come up with will be a huge positive on your union. When you are done creating your own masterpiece, go on and make your spouse happy with it.
Give it a shot.
You can do it if he's not doing it.
You can call him if he doesn't
You can text him sweet morning messages if he doesn't.
Stop saying "I wish all men could be like this." And be someone men see and say "I wish all women could be like this."
Re: SOMETIMES IT'S YOUR FAULT AS THE WIFE by: Oma_maron(m) .:. Tue, 30 Apr, 2019 - 06:40:42:pm GMT
Some women gets angry when their husbands correct them which escalates everything. It makes the matter worst.
When your husband corrects you from time to time on some issues then the truth is that he loves you.
There are so many men who would be looking for faults just because they are looking for ways to having extra- marital affairs. So they capitalize on every fault of yours.
So when your husband is trying to correct you, please do not be strong-headed or say he complains over everything you do because it's for your own good. It's best to yield to corrections than for you to come and start disturbing pastors, friends and start going from place to place until you destroy what is left of it.
So it's best you take to corrections because when he sees you are not willing to change, he stops complaining and when he stops complaining, my dear, it's 90% guarantee that there's fire on the mountain ( if you know, you know).
Re: SOMETIMES IT'S YOUR FAULT AS THE WIFE by: Gooddypye(f) .:. Thu, 16 May, 2019 - 08:47:34:am GMT
When your husband say.... One word... Some women will reply with twenty. No understand, no listening habit. All you do is nag about everything. At the end you say is the man fault.
Just ... Am sorry.... Some women can not say. They don't care. They are even tired of the man. They've seen a better man.
Let both men and women take their mind off Divorce. I found out nobody cares about the effect of divorce. All they want is divorce. Tired of her way of doing. Tired of his way of doings.
You are not ready to listen to each other.
Especially women... I've seen a woman who offended her husband, and couldn't say sorry which later led to their break up and she didn't even feel sorry.
It's very bad.